My husband plays an online game with a woman and I keep getting jealous...help?

Lori K	The bigger question is WHY don't you trust your husband? Has he given you reason not to?

AJ	What the hell was going threw his mind when he married u

Takania P	will slap him

Danny .	rip the pc out, crack it over his head and tell him to take a flying s--t. Oh and throw the pc out with him.

Halawa	um thats cheating thats why you feel weird about it thats not natural and he should stop it... but thats up to you to decide if its ok for him to do or not.. not me or anyone else but my opinion is that its cheating:)

Alissa	I wouldn't make an issue out of it, it sounds pretty friendly. If you say something it could create further problems. He is being honest with you.

Michael H	I think you are falling intothe over reactive category. He isn't hiding anything from you, quite the opposite, he's completely open and honest about the whole thing. I like the thouight of you trying to take up the game, you never know, you and she might just get along...:)

Linda S	If he's open, he has nothing to hide you shouldn't be worried. There is no cause for concern! He's here with you, not with her!

Battery Operated Boyfriend	No reason to worry. I've played online games with dozens of women and it's never more than another person to play the game with. The fact that he's open to you about it further indicates that you have no need to worry. I've met lots of couples who play together. Maybe it's time you learn how to geek online. ;-)

teamlessbear	as he is being open and honest with you about her, does he know you are worried or jealous? If not, you should talk with him about that. But,. I wouldnt worry, as you can go read the chat anytime, you know nothing is happening there.

Janessa	He does not need to be having any kind of relationship with another woman thats not you,family, or co-worker. That is just leaving room for feelings to grow. He'll get obsessed with talking to her and you will start to see a change. TRUST ME on this one.

cmdrbnd007	Get another computer and learn how to play. I can almost guarantee you that he would rather be playing with you. Who knows you just might like it.

Jess	It would be hard for me to give you an opinion... because i feel just like you!!! I would so be jealous as well!!! I think that it must come natural... for women to get jealous. It's a scary thought losing your husband to another woman.. especially if he were to sneak and get away with it. The best thing for you in this situation would be to express how you feel to your husband. You need to hear from him that you have no reason to worry.

bhavna_dreamz	Just chill out.............. See had he been really involved with that girl he would surely have hided things from you . Its just limited to playing game that little bit of chatting....So what......... Its an open world man. Best part is what ever he does he never hides from you. If you still feel that your hubby should take more interest in you, then understand his interests , learn them and enjoy it with him. For eg playing that online game

SpiderDijon	i say yes, you should have cause for concern, but try not to let it bother you unless something serious happens. i read an article recently about a couple that had a similar issue. the husband spent entirely too much time playing that game second life online and even had a "wife" on there. it hurt his real wife because they didn't spend any time together and her husband was totally obsessed with his 'second life'. i think grown adults should have better things to do with their time than play computer games, especially RPG games. RPGs are proof positive that society is losing it's grip on reality.

chaoss13	I think you're being a bit paranoid. It's a game. Online, but still a game. He's open and honest about everything and anything. You are lucky to have such an open and honest hubby. Let him do what he enjoys. Hell, it could be worse, he could get more than platonic with a guy leveling buddy, and hide that, lol.

Asami	Ok, for one thing WoW is crazy addictive in it's self. My boyfriend plays it at least 20 hours a week - if not more. And while he plays he communicates with both guys and girls regularly, it's all just nerd realted talk and idol chit chat and jokes. He even has teamspeak so he doesn't have to type and he can just talk to everyone through his headphones. Since your husband is open about it i don't think you have anything to worry about. Plus - are you even sure she is a she? Just because the character is female, it doesn't mean that the person behind the computer is female too. Having a "friend" on WoW is extremely helpful in the game because alot of the "quests" require multiple players to complete. Quests are labled by difficulty green (easy) yellow (medium) and red (hard) the more dificult the quest the more experience you gain and the quicker you level. WHen a quest is red it is usually impossible for someone to do themselves, so having a partner helps you to gain more exp and level up quicker, and eveyone who plays WoW is always trying to reach level 70 fast. My suggestion is to get another account on another computer, create a character on the same server as your husband and you two can play together. He can help you level quickly and then you two, or three, can do quests together... Oddly, alot of people do that - parents and thier kids etc. You may enjoy it. I thought it was a stupid waste of time game until I made a character and i actually found it to be fun, if not addictive.

sweetinnocence_is_not_innocent	first of all, how old is your husband? is he online, like more than 5 hours everyday? is he neglecting some husband-y duties? do you feel neglected because of his game-playing? first of all, as his WIFE, you have a right to voice-out your feelings. and as your husband, he has to listen. and when he voices out his feelings, you have to listen to. if you ignore your feelings, it's just going to eat at you. your going to keep feeling paranoid and really insecure. you have to tell him. don't think that he's gonna think you're paranoid or anything, but tell him why you feel that way. that you hear romance blossoming over the internet, stuff like that. and that you don't feel comfortable having him on the computer for soooo long. good communication is really important. telling him how you feel doesn't make you weak or in anyway paranoid or something like that, it just shows that your confident enough with your feelings and voicing out your feelings - which is really important. him being open about the relationship kinda shows there's no real hidden agenda on his part, but how can you both be so sure that there's no 'hidden agenda' on her part? we all no that girls can get really emotional over the smallest things and we find sentimentality over the simplest things. so what if she thinks she and your husband have a 'connection' even if it's just over an internet game. but make sure that they don't schedule their online time together, as in an online 'date' if you know what i mean... don't be ashamed to voice out your feelings. he's your husband after all.trust me, you're not being paranoid, you're just being careful. after all, it never hurts to be too careful. just simply tell your husband how you feel. but make sure you don't accuse him of spending all his time on the internet. and be understanding. if he gets you, once he knows you're not at all comfortable with him being online so much, he might lessen the time he spends over the internet. and spend more time on things that really matter. besides, a grown married man playing an internet game? well... that's just kinda unusual for me. or try to get another computer and try to get into his game too. it never hurts to try.

Ken O	Play WoW with him. I'm serious! My GF and I play WoW and its great. Role with him and be his leveling buddy. That way there is nothing to be jealous about

punkin	You may have cause for concern but he should be the one weary.He doesn't know who this is and may not even be a woman.Who really knows??Would I be concerned about him meeting someone on the Internet and forming some kind of relationship?Well like you I have heard the stories and none of them have happy endings,so if he goes off the deep end ,as long as he doesn't get you involved,too bad for him.

redpeach_mi	i wouldn't be concerned with another woman who is across the country. it's on online game, they don't talk on the phone, and he doesn't hide anything from you. let it go. better her than someone who lives in your town.

ophirhodji	Since you are asking the question you already realize that maybe you are overreacting. Which you are, you are worrying about something that has an extremely low likelihood of happening. Stop worrying and be glad your husband has an interest that keeps him home unlike so many husbands. The fact that he doesn't try to hide their conversations says there is nothing to hide, so put your fears to rest.

xeuvisoft	If you think you're husband may be cyber-cheating on you then you have more problems with your marriage than him playing online games. Do you believe that your marriage is not strong enough to withstand him having outside female friends? Or you having male friends? Let's be realistic hon... If you can't trust him to play online games, how can you trust him at all??? And if you can't trust him that far, why did you marry him? And lastly, If his head can be turned on his marriage by a online romance, do you really want to be married to him anyway? Think about it. Marriage is based on trust. You either trust him or you don't. The online friend has nothing to do with it, It's you...

Michelle	True, true.... it is a possibility they could develop a bond together. I would recommend communicating to him and tell him your feelings on it. Just keep him happy. There really is nothing more you can do.

Obedience Promise's Victory	Sweety you have every right to be jealous because you are fearing rejection and disconnection. the attention that sould be on you is not on you, And yes there is something wrong with that. I could see if he was playing with other men that's different but like you said women are a different ball game. So what you need to do is GET HIS ATTENTION. I assume it excites him to play games so start playing games with him. Start trying to learn what he really likes, tell him how you feel because he is not a mind reader and the more you keep it to yourself your going to mess your self up. Thinking of all the things he could possibly be doing when your not around. So please tell him how you feel dont let it fester you dont want to start accusing him of doing something he's not.

mnencefront	Why not play online yourself?

Mommy of 2 sweet babies	You should play online games with a man to see how he feels about it. But then again they are across country so what do you have to worry about.

FaZizzle	First you need to think about this--how could this situation make you feel better? What could your husband do to put you at ease? If it's to stop playing, then I suggest talking with him and realizing your own insecurities. Explain that while you trust him, there's a part of you that doubts the internet as a safe place to meet friends. I really suggest talking with him.

jbtascam	Is this "friendship" cutting into your time together? Does he abstain from playing when she's NOT available? Does he neglect you when she IS available at unusual times? Does he change his plans based on her availability (i.e. you WERE going to go to a movie or something, but she e-mailed and said she could play unexpectedly, so he blows you off)? If the answer to any of this is YES, then your husband may be developing an unhealthy bond with this person, and perhaps he needs to "cool it" for a while with her until he gets his priorities straight. Of course, you may just want to get another computer and set up your OWN WoW account, so YOU can be his personal "gaming buddy." (As an aside note - are you sure it's a "her?" Have they ever met? On the internet, you never know....)