My husband told me to have a boyfriend?

red_rum823	I'd leave his rude *** and do what he asked. It would make me feel a heck of a lot better knowing I had someone who actually wanted me and didn't treat me like dirt. I'd find someone much better.

[KooL]	im pretty sure when he said those things, you guys were having a discussion or he was mad if he wasnt then thats something else

William Munny	My wife tells me to get a different slave all the time. Is that in the same category. (lol, its closer than you think I bet)

Teresa	Divorce. Your husband probably wants you to get one to make him feel better for having a girlfriend on the side.

seekn2know	If mine told me that, it would be the last straw. If he cared so little as to tell me to find someone else I would get divorce papers ready then he could go find someone else.

teletext	Is he joking??! If he isn't then i'd get a boyfriend, then a divorce, then another boyfriend.

Liz	you shouldnt be married. if you guys dont love each other and he is sleeping with someone else and tells you to get a boyfriend.

Every Answer your looking for	1 of 2 things 1 he is making a stupid joke and taking you for granted 2 he is serious and a freakin idiot

steph	Get a Divorce, Hes probably hinting to you that he wants to get a divorce and for you to move on?

Joe w	Looks to me that you much of a MARRIAGE. It is time to step back & look to see were you are going & do you like what you see.

Sophie	he obviously has a girlfriend, and is trying for you to get a boyfriend so he feels better about you "cheating" on him when he really is cheating on you. sorry to say.

CindyLu	So why are you married to this guy? Get a divorce and then if you want get a boyfriend. Sounds like he is not much of a husband anyway so why not dump the heavy load and live life lite.

rubytuesday	I'd go to work and buy myself the stuffs i want and divorce my no good husband so he won't have to come after me and my money if i do get a boyfriend. Ur husband must think ur a mistake.

Janice	My father says that alll the time to my mother. He's just trying to piss you off. he doesn't really mean "get a boyfriend" he's just trying to say you do not care enough for him.

jjoyyNyou	First, I would ask him if he was serious, if he said yes you need to think real long and hard if this was the man you were suppose to marry. Ask him if he would like a divorce? or if he wants to be the man you married?

Spindrift	Divorce immediately. You have to consider two things, either he doesn't give a damn about you and prefer someone else take care of you or he has his own girlfriend and is trying to get you equally guilty, either way, it's a very bad situation.

Anix4hm	first of all let me start by saying that is the weirdest thing i have hear yet today... Maybe you guys need some marriage counseling.. maybe he feels that you are too dependent on him and men like to feel like they are independent even if you guys are married.. maybe you could give him space for as long as it takes.. but dont get divorced.. maybe talk to him about it

hammer	sounds like he wants you to do it so he can get an easy way out to something better he might have planned and you would be the total blame cause you physically would do something totally wrong. so you'll be better off asking a sibling or your girlfriends to do those kinda things with.

Kinko	maybe you should take that as a hint that you are getting fat/old/ugly/smelly/dirty/boring and he wants you to have a boyfriend so he doesnt have to feel guilty about screwing your sister/best friend/neighbor/neice and also doesnt have to touch you.

B	My first husband told me this as well .... So I did ..... and now I have a wonderful second husband who actually enjoys spending time with me. My first husband eventually admitted to me that the only reason he even got married was because he didn't want his mom to know he was gay. After I divorced him he went on to marry another woman so I guess his secret is still safe.

Kaylee	He clearly does not treat you right if he is saying something like that to you. I would tell him first of all that when he says things like that to you it hurts your feelings and that the fact that he says stuff like that to you makes you think that he doesn't want to do anything with you and doesn't want to be with you anymore.

Meru	I would call a guy friend from work...and then I would bring him home and introduce him as my boyfriend ( of course the co worker would be in on it..)...and then see what his re action was... or... I would get all dressed up...then he would say...whats going on? Then I would say I am going out with my bf.... and then really just go watch a movie or something... call his bluff...see if he gets jealous...or see if he was joking... I have to agree with that other chick...I would be somewhat concerned he may have a girl friend...

j4j1988	We can't hear his tone of voice, or see the look on his face when fhe says this, but you can. Either hes joking, or hes seeing a girl on the side, and feels guilty, because hes so busy giving her attention he has none left for you, and he'd like you to find that in another man, as he has found it in another woman.

lala	I wouldn't stand for it. Does he have a girlfriend? Maybe he's just trying to push you off on another guy to make him feel a little bit better that he has a girlfriend. If you're married to someone, and they don't want to take you places and buy you stuff, and tellin' you to get a boyfriend, don't you think you deserve better anyways?

Gloâ˜…	I would be concerned that he his occupying his time with someone else. I would wonder if he is gay. I would suggest that we seek counseling to work on the issues of intimacy within our marriage. Then if things did not change I would obtain a divorce and move forward with my life. And perhaps get a boyfriend who valued and appreciated me a bit more than the husband.

BruinsBabe	He should be the one to take you places and buy you stuff...tell him to stop being selfish and be a man. When he made the decision to marry you, he also made the decision to love you unconditionally. I would tell him that either he needs to man up or that you're getting a divorce. And then you can get a boyfriend. That's ridiculous.

speakthetruth	My husband and i say that to each other all the time, joking around. Like I would complain about reminding him to take out the trash everyday, and he would tell me something like "Well you better get a young boyfriend to remember that, maybe you can get him to pickup my stuff too!" We always have fun with each other though. You need to find out if he is serious or joking around. If he is serious, it is mean that he would feel you are a bother to him. Just ask him if he was being serious or not.

Allison	I'd be angry if my husband told me that. I would expect him to want to go places with me, not have someone else to do it for him. Do you know what his motivation is behind saying it? Like is it something that's said at the end of an argument in a "Fine, if I don't do enough things for you, go find someone else who will." type of way or is it in a more everyday type of context? I think it makes a difference. Also, is he saying it because he wants to have a girlfriend and thinks it would have to be OK for him to do that if you had a boyfriend?