My husband wants me to have a threesome with another girl but I don't want to?

Marlea	Tell him you want a threesome with another man.See what he thinks of that. It should ruffle his feathers.

Captain Feathersword	Say "NO!" And tighten his leash! If there's a golf club handy, use it on him too.

brian's girl	tell him how you feel about it. that it makes you uncomfortable.

chellie r	If you aren't comfortable, dont do it. You will just have animosity towards each other later on if you do.

charles t	Ask him if he'd approve of him and another guy with you first. See if the threesome idea is ok then. I bet he would not approve. If you're uncomfortabe don't go along with it

Keke	Don't feel bad about telling him hell no. I would wonder what's going through his head for him to make a suggestion like that. Stand your ground on however you feel about it.

Sh-mandy2009	You tell him no no no no no no no no! Youre the boss lady.

stingray	suggest to him to join a swingers group, when he realizes another man will touch you he just might back down but actually, i'd leave him as h has cheating on his mind

Ð”ÑƒÑˆÐ° Ð’Ð¾Ð¸Ð½Ð°	Tell him that you'll only let another woman into your marriage bed if you can bring another man with you.

not 2 B fooled	It would be an unwise decision to follow your husbands fantasies - many marriages have been dismantled by doing such a thing; tell him no, that you are a twosome, not a threesome

Bill F	Tell him you're not into that. Remind him that the women he's seen doing it in movies are being paid to do it. Ask him how he feels about a threesome with another man.

lipgloss1	if you don't feel conferable sharing your bed and your man with another woman, talk to your husband about how you feel about the situation. He shouldnt pressure you into something you dont want or not ready for

Tiffany	I had the same problem. Just say no your not comfortable with it. If he loves you enough, he will get over it. I guess this is just a man thing haha. But no, just tell him your not going to do that.

Skull Boy	Tell him no and ask him why he would want you do something you're not into. If he makes an issue about it, ask him if he'd be open to inviting a hot stud into your bed for you to enjoy.

seven	Heh you could tell him that he would have to have a threesome involving a dude first, what is good for the goose is good for the gander.

ccc909	I would suggest you say no, if you are uncomfortable with that than do not do it. You can try suggesting something that will excite him that you are comfortable with...spice it up a little without making yourself feel uncomfortable. Good luck.

Rob	tell him you don't want to if he doesn't like it then he can leave. marriage is a promise to be faith full if you are not both into having a threesome then he should respect that Try finding another kinky game to play to interest him.

PitGirl	NO. I also recommend marital counseling. That is not a healthy thing for your relationship. If he is interested in bringing another woman into the picture; he may have a roving eye. Be ware of cheating.

M.A.C	okie are you guys party animals? is he a party animal? he's clearly not partied enough in his youth...is this his first threesome? are you guys newly weds? and no...its too late..his body is yours... threesomes may be fun, but their sick and twisted... love trumps im sorry if he loves you he'll respect your decision..just let him know how much he needs to just stop thinking like that

a	marriage is between two people, not 3 or 4 if thats what he wants he need to be a polgygamy or whatever its called. I'd tell him he can either drop it and forget it you two get a divorce you don't need anyone like that. there are better men out there. true men who are worthy won't even think about 3 somes

Barb Outhere	Tell him straight out - NO! Its not something you were ever interested in, the thought doesn't turn you on, and him forcing it may well be the death knell the relationship. If he persists knowing your objections, then you can be sure it is all about him, and not you - bloody selfish.

Honeybee	tell him that you want to do things for him that excite him but ask him how he would feel if you wanted to bring another man in the bed, or how he would feel about making out with another guy for you. Guys think that girls enjoy making out with each other because they see it on tv, and its true that some girls are curious, but I think most just do it to get guys riled up. Just let him think about him in that situation and I guarntee that he will think twice about it. Trust me.

puppysyndrome	Simple! Tell him No, you're not interested and not to bring it up again!. A threesome is adultery and if that's what he's excited about, you really need to reassess his committment to you and your marriage vows! What he's asking you is out of line and disrespectful and I'd be furious if my husband even suggested something like that!

dancing_smurf	Hi Orangeade, Reading your posting I am left to wonder if somewhere along the way there was a breakdown in communication. In this instance the breakdown does not mean that communication between your husband and yourself no longer exists. Instead it means the message about having a threesome was misunderstood by your husband. Since your posting does not allude to how it might have happened I am going to assume that some how the message (behavior + words + context) is in-congruent. Before he tries to surprise you with a threesome, goes on to Yahoo! Answers asking how to find a woman to join the two of you, or begins suggest a third you need to fix your message. Best way to do this is to speak to him outside of the bedroom and be direct with him about your feelings on this subject. Be clear that you have no interest in being with a woman and that you are sorry if you have led him to believe that you are open to the idea. Once you have done that then you will need to ensure that you standby that message and if you do not you will find that he will pick-up on the inconsistent message with the belief that you are beginning to change your mind thereby once again bringing you back to this point. My advice would be to consider what you know about your husband and think about the best way to word your message to him so that it is done with sensitivity. Also consider the idea of having a threesome in a more global perspective and consider if there is any condition in which you would consider having one. If there is a situation where you would be open to have a threesome then I would allow that situation shape how you tell your husband but I would not necessarily let him know that. In this situation you are trying to extinguish his behavior while at the same time potentially leaving "the door open" should you in the distant future decide to change your mind. By doing it this way it is my feeling that it is a win-win situation for the both of you. I wish you the best and happy holidays.