My wife says she's not in love anymore.Is there still hope for our marriage?

bevo	I'm only a young fella but the only way to make it work is to keep trying..then you'll never have to ask "what if"

zul2973	u have to find out why did she say like that? i really hate that kind of situation when we've spend a lot of TIME and MONEY towards a 'special' one suddenly she said not in love anymore or just pretend to love. by the way try to discuss from heart to heart.. hope is always there but make sure she don't waste yr TIME and MONEY for second time.

jane m	yes there is a chance for it to work. I told my husband the same thing a couple of years ago, we are still together. We have our moments but work hard to make the marriage work. Don't give up if you think its worth it.

curious336	bet she is seeing someone else, people dont fall out of love for no reason....unless she never loved you in the first place

?	Sorry to say it ... the chances are very slim. Once a woman comes to this point, she is usually pretty much done. She is not in hate with you, so that is a good sign. Do the marriage counseling thing but focus more on giving her space and giving her a chance to reignite the spark. Sometimes, buddy, intimacy just can't happen with some people. My ex was totally incapable of intimacy - bad stuff happened to her and she's never recovered. The more I tried to hold things together, the more she hated me. In the end, she was sleeping with my best friend and telling our friends and family that I was abusing her. In other words, when a woman wants out of a relationship, she will do ANTHING to prove you wrong, win the fight and get out. The movie War of the Roses illustrates this very well. Great relationship just ends one day, and there is absolutely nothing the husband can do about it. They almost kill each other in his struggle to save the relationship. Learn to let go if that is what you have to do. I really hate this for you because I've been there and lived the hurt and failure. My children still adore me, so I'm lucky there.

WhatEVER27	It depends..As long as the two of your are willing to put forth an effort to improve your marriage..It won't happen if the other isn't willing to do what it takes to better the marriage.

thefcnman	dumas get a life

Sister	Yes, there is hope! Treat her the way you treated her when the two of you were first dating! Everything will be alright! TAKE CARE!

Hmmmm!	The fact that she's willing to see a councelor I'd say there is still hope. Good luck!

Zenqueen	Her agreeing to go with you to counselling is a sign that there is still a fighting chance for your marriage. Good Luck to you. ZEN

foreverb18	maybe.

chlango1	YES IT IS. do every thing the you can to make her fall in love again and don't mess up again

pak_mah_happy	try your best and best of luck.

Cing	check out womensinfidelity.com before you beat yourself up any further

smartmindof09	Of course there is still hope for your marriage!! Anything is possible, when you believe! Love is a tricky thing, but it is possible to rekindle your old flame!

carpenter2929	i'm sure there is hope if you both actually want it bad enough! I'm going through the same thing now! good luck!

Mommymonster	Do the counciling thing. It is so sad to see marriages end up in the heap. I've been married 13 years. Some days you just don't love the one your with and other days you just can't live without them. I wish you both the best. You both made a commitment before God. A vow. An oath.

UnKnOwN	Honestly... I think that your marriage is basically over. I believe that you cannot stay committed to anybody if you are not in love with your significant one. I see a lot of couple's try to work it out when they are not in love with each other anymore... and it doesn't work. Sometimes, it's just better off getting a divorce rather than trying to fix your marriage. It takes 2 to be in love and if only one is in love with the other.... then it's going to be hard to keep a marriage happy and alive. Make your decision wisely... remember... we're just giving you advices... you don't have to take them.

qt	my hubby says hell no.

Always Right	nope.

sunshine	read his needs her needs. read every man's marriage i think there is hope. go to counseling. good luck.

?	If you look in Marriage Builders Forum it will help you understand what is happening to your wife. This site will help you deside what to do in your marriage. I wish you both the best of luck on your life together. http://www.marriagebuilders.com. Good luck. Ask Zella

Stefini A	all you can do is TRY... but u must take into consideration that if she said she isnt in love with you anymore then she might have been with someone else, who either made her feel something that you didnt, or maybe she did just lose the love..... just pray and try to keep it together best of luck ur in my thoughts and prayers

leste324	What kind of love can you give someone who cannot love you back........? Do you really still love her or are you just used to her?

Vikas k	SHEZ GIVING U A POSITIVE SIGN...JUST BE PATIENT AND DO UR PART AND I AM SURE YOU'LL GET HER BACK

mltr a	Just ask yourself, why "she's not in love anymore" ? Her answer wud be a way out solution for you.. It's difficult to judge the problem since you alone may know what exactly triggered this problem.. Just have a clear cut reason from her and am sure you shud be able to come down to right conclusion... all the best.

If_OnLy_YoU_cOULD	don't beat it to death that only causes anger!you ever heard 'if you love someone set them free if they come back they're are yours if they don't it was never meant to be!!!??????????