No Proposal yet and it's been almost 6 years?

Mommy of 1 & 1 on the way!	It sounds like you have given him all that he wants! If you want to be married to him, propose to him and see how he really feels about you.

cristelle R	first of all, if i wanted to get married i wouldnt of waited six years... if this is what you want and you love him , then it is time for a sit down talk with him, if stilll no commitment then it is time to move on and fall in love and marry someone who shares the same dreams and hopes that you have

RYAN	He more than likely will not propose. Excuse my bluntness but you've already given him everything that comes with marriage (well everything except a life long commitment). There's no incentive left for him to propose.

Been There Done That	Girl....wise up.....if he wanted to marry you He would have already......

True	Isnâ€™t Valentineâ€™s Day on the 14th?

Anonygirl	I'm in the same situation (minus the kid). Everyone says "He doesn't want to be with you, if he did, he would ask" and "why buy the cow...etc". When you're actually in the situation, though, it's more complicated. Especially since you have a child together. It was suggested to me that my boyfriend and I take time apart. Not for dating other people or anythign like that. But more for him to see how life would be without me. If he doesn't want to get married, the only alternative is to be without me. I wasn't about to just date him the rest of my life and I don't think you/'d want that either. You could try seeing a counselor together is it's a commitment issue. Some guys just take a long time, it doesn't always mean they don't want to nbe with you. He may have issues from childhood that were never resolved. You could try having him stay with someone for a few weeks and then date each other again. Remember why you fell in love int he first place. If nothing works, you need to set a date and move on. If marriage is important to you and you're sure you'll never get it from him. Leave him and find someone else.

Bubi	Why buy a cow...

life in nz	OK - So he's the loser. You will be the loser soon if you do not move him right along and quick smart at that!

princesscs	at first i thought money might be an issue but u made it clear it has nothin to do with money. you need to tell him if he wants to keep playing house with you he needs to man up and do what real men do.

Rebel Angel	i don't know when but i wouldn't Expect it if it happens it happens if it don't it don't i mean the proposal thing

LadyRed4u727	He is just comfortable hun, and although it is hard to face, the fact is it is part your fault...he feels like everything is fine just the way it is so y bother changing it by getting married, as far as he is concerned, u are already married...that is not a good position to be in...now dont get down on urself bcuz it is not too late to change it, u HAVE to stand ur ground, it may be unconventional but it looks like you cant leave this one up to him, you can ask him to marry you without having to get down on one knee and propose to him...the bottom line is sometimes when u want things to happen, you cant leave it up to someone else to make it happen for you...if at that time he says he doenst want to get married at all then maybe its time that you evaluate your relationship stands and if where you are now is as far as you are going to go, then it could be that you've gone as far as you can go, the decision is urz from there

markeen	Call me old-fashioned but a man knows exactly what he wants to keep for life the second he lays eyes on it. 6 years is way too long not to do it, then again I dont see the importance of marriage if you two are together but given your situation that he lives in the house you purchase..you have created an atmosphere WAY too comfortable for him that he doesnt feel much of a man who needs to provide. "leave well enough alone" Men live by that their whole lives. Proposals should be surprises and not obligations or contracts due at the end of a given time period. How would you benefit from marriage either way? Think about it. You guys have been together THAT long as opposed to married couples who dont make it past a year. I think he is too comfortable. You may need to shake his hammock a bit..if it means that much to you. Ask for a BIGGER house..with HIS money.

familylove	I was in that same position.. me and my fiance have been together for7 1/2 yrs. and have a 5 yr. old. we moved in together when I got pregnant and he proposed 1 yr. ago.. its not normal, but its not bad either

dollbaby2407	Maybe he thinks he doesnt have to marry you to prove he loves you. Do you keep asking him when he is going to ask you? If so stop.. My sisters both did that and one is now married and her husband keeps saying he didn;t want to marry her but she keeped pushing it and he's not happy and the other pused and now is getting married and her fiance is saying the same thing.. You may push him away or end up married to him and he might just end up the same way..

Nena S	Sorry to say this, but Ryan and LB are right. Why should he want things to change? He has everything he wants- without any legal papers. If I were a man, I wouldn't want to get married either. That is precisely why I don't believe women should move in with their SOs - or have kids without getting married first! You will have to decide IF you want to keep on waiting- perhaps forever- or not. Your call.

Grants a tractor luvr!	It seems to me like you have your heart set on this....Have you been bugging him about this? If you keep bugging him....he will keep getting freaked out about it. You can't force him to marry you!

zila	i don't understand why the men must do the proposing just sit him down and talk to him, find out if he's ready to put that ring on his finger, if he's not then you have a serious question to ask yourself are you in this for the promise of a ring or for the love of your man? if its love than why should a ring matter, it only brings tax deductions and makes separating more painful than necessary keep an eye out on articles,more couples are choosing to abstain from marriage due to numerous factors keep in mind you can always do the proposing

ladyren	Then you must decide if you wish marriage more than you want him. In two more years, it is common law anyway, and if you split, he is responsible for half of the rearing of the child. So, do you wish him with you, or gone?

nonyahbusiness	You may already be considered common-law marriage. And have you actually talked with him about this? Maybe you need to propose to him and put him on the spot. You'll find out real quick where he stands!

iyamacog	Valentine's Day isnt for 2 more days. Perhaps he meant THIS is the year! Otherwise, he forgot his promise. OR he doesnt see the need to have the marriage certificate. I would stop trying to guess his motives, and ask him.

ABBYsMom	It is leap year, you ask him to marry you...

Rose	Why would he want to marry you if you guys already have a child and live together? He just doesn't think that a piece of paper will do anything. Therefore, most people get married before they have any kids or right after they find out they're pregnant. Since you didn't get married when you announced your pregnancy, he might be one of those guys who don't think much about the whole marriage thing. In my opinion, he doesn't want to get married. He has everything he needs already. It might not be that bad. My co-worker lives with her man for over 17 years and have two children together. She calls him husband, but they have never been married.

Irving P	Next

Man in Black	I would have suspected when he didn't ask you to marry when you got pregnant that he probably wasn't ever gong to ask.

Virginia	I think he feels he already has everything so why would he need to get married. He already has you, a child, and a house to live in and he probably feels that getting married wouldn't change anything ..so why get married? Maybe you need to nag him a little more. I had to nag my bf of almost 6 years and we're finally getting married next year. =) Just keep on asking him and see what he says. If he loves you, he'll marry you. Wish you all the best! =)

mrskerlin	First I would evaluate your relationship. Are you happy? If you are then don't sweat it, if it was important to you to be married you won't be living together and having children together. Having a child together is a bigger commitment than getting married will ever be, so you are already there... If you want to get married then I would suggest asking him or talking to him about it.

LB	um...ok, so the guy basically has a free ride- If this arrangement has been going on this long, I don't think I'd ever expect a proposal. The message you're sending is- We can date forever. You can live in my house without marrying me. I'll have your children and you don't have to marry me.... He's getting the milk and a whole lot more for free

Nelle16	Girl you already live together. Why should he waste money on a ring and wedding if your already acting like husband and wife? Big mistake.

Musica	If you hadn't received a proposal now, you shouldn't expect one. I'd think the guy is happy with things just the way they are...and has no intention on changing it, and is assuming you feel the same. If it's marriage you seriously want, you're going to have to ask him. If his answer is no, then you'll have to decide whether you want to continue cohabiting with him, or leave and start from square one to find a man who is open to marriage.