Nothing on my birthday!!!!?

bettyrubleinspurs	Yep, I know the feeling. I have cut way back on what I do for his birthday. I acknowledge it and wish him a happy day. Perhaps a small gift, but nothing extravagant. I have decided that every day is more important than one special day. What each day is like is up to me. No one can make me feel one way or another - just me. I'm not completely there, hence the small token on his birthday. If I want a big do on my birthday, I arrange something with my friends and let it at that.

ziggy_brat	We usually go out for dinner wherever I want. But the one thing I really want he won't give. I just want him to wish me happy birthday. Dinner is not as important to me as hearing him say the words and knowing he remembered. He forgot last year.

Amy27	Talk to him about it. Tell him it hurts your feelings and you need him to care about your birthday. Some men are just insensitive about this. It doesn't necessarily mean he doesn't love you or care about you. Maybe he just doesn't realize how important this is to you. My dad is the exact same way to my mom. They have been married almost 30 years and have the best marriage I have ever seen. They will also both agree that they have a near perfect marriage. I think the birthday thing has bothered my mom a little over the years, but she sees all his good qualities and decided the birthdays don't matter that much. Also, she doesn't make a big deal about his birthdays now, either. This doesn't have to be a big deal/marriage destroyer, but if it bothers you, talk about it and work it out.

big_dumb_hick	Sounds like your a little demanding. Stop naggin' the poor fella.

Teah	Don't expect nothing if he hasn't done it before, this is what you do. You buy you a birthday card, mail it to yourself. You and some friends go out and celebrate your own birthday, don't depend your husband. And you should do something big and special for your birthday every year. Maybe you treat your husband they way he treated your birthday, meanig stop the parties for him. Because he don't appreciate what you do him.

berkshire1043	My birthday came and went a few days ago without much happening. Luckily, I get treated pretty well by my gf and family the other 364 days of the year. Usually, birthdays are not as important to guys as they are to girls. I learned that when my mom makes a big production of b-days, and I could care less. To me its another day. Does your boyfriend treat you well the rest of the year? That is an important question. If he does- let him know it is important to you, and if he is right by you, he will try to do better

jake	Tonight, as he walks in the door, hand him the baby. As you walk out, dressed to the 9s, say "Going out to celebrate my birthday, hon." Leave. Party. Come home happy. Resume life the next day. Drop it after that.

keithy	i was in that situation but it was a g/f, on christmas last year i got nothing and she forgot my bday so i dumped her, but after 11yrs all u can do is stop being his slave, don't go out of your way to do nice things for him till he does nice things for you, also if you are a christian read ephesians 5 vs 22-33 and if he is a christian show this to him it might open his eyes, good luck and God bless

redsky_too_nite	Quit doing it for him. I had the same problem and when I just ignored that it was his b-day he didn't like that much. Another thing that I have done is gone out and bought an expencive item for my self out of his checkbook, and then thanked him for it.

Deb W	Tell him everything that you have said here, then ask him WHY he doesn't wish to honor your birthday. Jehovah's Witnesses don't acknowlege birthdays (or other holidays), so there are some others who don't do this. But unless he comes up with a valid response, don't acknowlege his birthday again. Question - what about your wedding anniversary?

Sheila	Be straight forward and honest and tell him how upset you are in regards to his treatment of you on your birthday. He may not be aware of how upset it makes you feel by his neglect. If he still forgets you, then plan your own special fun and party without him.

always an opinion	Stop doing things for him. He sounds like an ungrateful ***.

lucy diamond	Yeah my husband did absolutely nothing for me this year either it was back in August and I still get upset when I think about it. He has always done something for the past 5 years we've been together. I said to him before I left for school in the morning, "aren't you going to wish me a happy birthday"? His reply was, "oh it's your birthday well happy birthday". And that was the end of that, I am all upset again just thinking about it.

Doreen L	SOUNDS LIKE YOUR HUSBAND NEEDS AN ADDITUDE ADJUSTMENT! HE IS SERIOUSLY TAKING YOU FOR GRANTED. DON'T ACT LIKE IT'S OK WHEN HE FORGETS YOUR SPECIAL DAYS. LET HIM KNOW WHAT YOU WANT, 11 YEARS IS ALONG TIME TO BE WITH SOMEONE AND I'M SURE YOU ARE A GOOD WIFE TOO. SOUNDS LIKE IT ANYWAY.

Girly1	After 11 years I don't think he is gonna change, maybe you forget his birthday this year, if he won't change you will.

how many days left till?	go out and do something for yourself..book yourself a night at a spa resort..to pamper yourself don't worry about your hubby maybe he just isn't to planning..although it is thoughtless to not even give you a card

Rana	Try to understand him, these things are immaterial

Mae	He sounds pretty thoughtless. How rude!! How come you haven't said anything before. If my boyfriend EVER left me hanging on a bday, I would be hurt, and I would let him know.

blank	Even if you make him give you something does he really give it to you or do you take it from him? Giving should be from teh heart. No matter what he gives you after this question, if he does not do it because he wants too, it makes no difference with not giving nothing at all.

yafathomiejt	Divorce his *** and come to me Sugar momma. I give you Cakes and a good eating out.

â™¥ mad-e â™¥	Talk to him, maybe he has a good reason. On the other hand, if he had something to do, he should have put you first. talk to him!! BE HAPPY ~maddie

oneglook	....He may have another woman r something...

I'm in love with my toddler	confront him. let it know it hurts your feelings. as you should know by now. communication is the KEY to relationships.

Espresso Kid	Dump him and move on.

â™¥bRoKeN	Sorry, just don't get him anything either.

sublime	Have you talked to him about this before and he still doesn't do it? I say stop doing things for his birthday and go out and pamper yourself. Have a girl's night out! Happy birthday anyway :)

Fo Sho!	Thats BS!!...tell him to make you feel special on your day!!

ellusionary	Does he know what the date of your birthday is?