Only Married 3 Months & Already Having Problems?!?

xomisty08xo	first of all.. you should look back and think about why yall got married in the first place. was it for your son? cause that really shouldnt determine love. dont stay with this man just because you dont want your son to lose his dad. because divorced parents are alot better than living with two people who never get along. also, if you really want to save your marriage maybe you shoudl go to marriage counceling. but first know that if you cant forgive and forget.. your not going to get very far. hope this helps!! =]

BTB{06.22.09}	Leave!!!

toriihunter_48	It's called communication....With a neutral abritrator. Marriage counseling. ;) Just talk to him. Tell him how you feel...Try not to accuse him of anything. Don't use "you" use "I"

Sunny	Get out NOOooooooW! You may not want your child to lose his father, but what is better? Staying so he can have a ratty, cheating nobody and a stressed out, grouchy mommy? Or a happy Mom and a Dad he can see sometimes?

SabbathDayFreedom	So sorry to here. Your son should not have to loose his daddy even if the two of you split. I would not encourage to split although at the same time it sounds as though the situation is in no way healthy for you. You must do what will be best for you and your son. This takes time. Talk with someone do not let your emotions get all twisted this is your health and mental state. If you are down your son will be affected also. Love SDF

T Leeves	There HAD to be warning signs before the nuptuals, but somebody wasn't paying attention The best thing you could do is get out now before it's too late, because his behavior will not change, guaranteed.

bril	I now the way you feel if he did it once he may do it again your son better live away from dad then seeing dad and mom having a misserable life , if u loose trust in a relationship you lost half of the ingredients to have a true happy marriage

xsummer_lovingx	I'm not one to give this kind of advice cause i'm not even mariried but i think that you should talk to him. That's what you should do in any problem. If you will just talk to him, maybe you could put aside your problems and work things out.

danielle	You guys need to see a marriage counselor or pastor for help right now. You're marriage is not over you just have to be prepared to fight for what is yours. You've worked so hard to be together, and you are newlyweds. You need to see if he is willing to work on the relationship. If he isn't willing there isn't much you can do. Hopefully, he'll remember his vows and promises he made before man and God, and start being the husband he promised! It's not a bad idea to remind him of the vows you took. They have to mean something to him. Best wishes

NewOrderFan	leave him

jeff b	once a cheater, always a cheater and this man is a cheater.

Deeder Magoo	don't know what to say other than sorry. You need to do what's best for you and your kid. If the guys a cheat than you should leave him. The baby can still have a dad, but you deserve another husband. Best of luck, sweetheart. Things will get better.

Beth	Well I cant tell you what you should do, but after three months if my husband was being unfaithful to me I would leave him. I know its difficult when you have children but things may not get any better....

dirt77	oh wow you need talk to him. i would get some marriage counseling if you can get him to agree with it.

sweetthang8t	the first year of marriage is the hardest! its odd because the first few months of marriage couples are still in thet lovey dovey state. i hope you guys didnt marry just for the child. he may just have the after marriage jitters. dont give up just yet, at least get thru a year then see where you stand. talk to him about it and try to get him to open up about the way he really feels. im sure having a baby makes it hard for private time, but i think you guys need to communicate more. cant hurt to try. show him how much you love him and make him realize how much he would be losing if he wanted out of yr marriage. dont give up yet sweetie ok ...... fight for him a lil then decide:) GOOD LUCK!

GEEGEE	Unfortunately it sounds like you may have already lost him- or at least you've rightfully lost your trust in him. You have a right to be happy, and he can still be in your son's life even if you leave him. Your son cannot be happy if Mommy isn't happy- that's critical, so perhaps you need to leave.

laura993377	what are the details to the i love you....is it a good friend, is it someone he has always said that to? as far as the song, have you asked him about it and seen what he said.....has there been any other problems or anything like this happen before you were married?

Lt	Talk to him about it, it could be harmess flirting. If it's this bad now, though, it may not get better. I am in a similar situation, and all of my friends say it's time to call it quits.

Mommymonster	Get with hubby, have it out (screaming match if needed) and get it over with. Honey, my first year of marriage was awful, but I promise, with both being committed, it DOES get better.

poo	You need to have a talk with him, ask question about this look him in the eyes, and tell him how you feel, let him know you are not going to take this from him are anyone else, and this will be the last time, give him one more chance to get his sh:t together, then leave....but don't give in to easy because a man will then think, OH I GOT HER @SS NOW" and he'll keep doing it...

NONAME	Wow our first fight was over Christmas decorations!

janice	Hummm. I was at a loss until I read "I don't want my son to loose his Daddy". Is the child his? Did he marry you because of the child? A lot of this could center around your ages. You sound very young. Going into marriage at any age and without a child, is hard work. You have just heaped a lot more baggage on top of what's already difficult. Your husband probably feels trapped. I have a real problem with folks getting pregnant before they are ready(or married). There are many available products out there to prevent it. I would suggest you discuss this with him and get some counseling. If he is playing now, it's only going to get worse. I feel sorry for the little boy caught in the middle of all this. He should be your first priority.

terrellmingus	I would file for an annulment. A divorce is the legal ending of a marriage in court, while an anullment is a judicial or ecclesiastical declaration that claims that the marriage never existed in the first place.

?? yaddajean ??	Try and work on your marriage only if he is willing to work on it too. But if he is more interested in getting with other women, you may not have a choice but to let him go. YOu don't deserve to be treated like that, and disrespected. SO love yourself and your son enough to do the right thing. DOn't be nobodys doormat

sophieb	"communication" is the answer. When he's in a decent mood, say to him that you are aware of what he did and it didn't sound right to you and you'd like to know why he did that. Marriage is commitment, and it's also overlooking the flaws of the other person and accepting them. But if it has anything to do with cheating then there is a problem and a violation. Either he doesn't know his bounds (as he agreed to when he married you), or he's being encouraged by friends and peers, or he doesn't realize that he is supposed to walk away from single friends once he gets married. He needs knowledge of what a married man is supposed to do. If his father is long-termed married then have him talk with his father. If you know a pastor then maybe you both need to so see the pastor. If neither of those exist or are possible, then a counselor (not a psychologist or shrink) for just a general consultation (although this kind could get rough and bring out lots of other stuff you may not be able to cope with yet). Good luck.

notyochic	well he disrespected you and told another that he loves her and sent a love song to her or another and the only thing that is missing here is you walking in on him screwing this other girl in your bed! hmmn this is a tuffy!!! leave him if he loves you he will come after you if he doesn't come well than you will know it is not you he wants!

ANTO M	confront him about this and see what happens. are you really sure he was telling someone that he loves them, there could be a genuine reason behind that, like he made a serious commitment 3 months ago what possible reason would he want to jepordise the relationship with you and his son. if it turns out that he is having an affair remind yourself that theres a child involved in all this and try and be civil. but do confront him or you really will go insane, take control of the situation, hold your head up high and deal with it. good luck take care.

Mister RDS	Sometimes you have to take sacrafices in life and this is one your gonna have to take

Physics-Student	Just get rid of him and find somebody like me who will be honest and faithful to you. You need a dedicated man otherwise life would be like that of Tina Turner who was abused by her late husband Ike Turner!!