Shall i marry a man who i love and might this love disappear after marriage?

emerald	yeah its difficult,but ithink your the one who knows it better .so think which is best and who is good for you .but for me i think i choose rather near to my social level who understand and get a better life.

una_dynamita	Marry for love. those other things do not matter, and staying together for convenience will become difficult if you cannot fill that void in your heart. Few people can pull off a marriage of convenience. Good luck!

bxriffraff4731	not really u have yp keep the fire blazeing

philosophy	Marry only a guy you love and respect and who feels the same about you. You are forming a business partnership, you are forming a family. Your heart needs to be involved in it, not just your head. Good luck!

Lady D	oh my!! when you find out, let me know too

akela hu main	Merry the person your heart permits, does his breath inspire you does it excite your brainwave- these questions answered than that is the person to merry. After all marriage is the first step of the rest of the life cycle- marriage-children-family-old age-death, think and accept a person who will take your hand and walk with you to the end.

seeking advice	love will come after with the cabana boy

RPrincess	You can have both. My husband was chosen for true love. The icing on the cake was that he was good looking and had a high social status. However, I did not know this, it was love that hooked me...

LilyB7	I was always advised to marry the man that loves you!

Fiorina M	you better have both at the same time: heart and mind.

van	I say follow your heart this time and it may work out... and if it doesnt then the next time follow your head... I tried both and neither worked.. but I am not trying to discourage you .. you should choose happiness first...and see what happens!

Money is not my God	good question! yet you can't tell for now! more or less i would vote for the heart thing :) There is in marriage much more than can be taken by mind :)))))

Jai	You need to wait until your ready!

OnyX S	Your weird. No one is going to marry you.

Kitty	Why not both? One doesn't exclude the other. If I had to choose, I would choose a person whom I admire and respect - and this person would almost certainly be my educational and social equal, someone compatible with me, someone who understands me and whom I understand. If this isn't "love", I don't know what is. Perhaps when you say "love" you mean "infatuation"?

Julius C	Don't marry anyone until you can make that decision without asking for advice on who to marry.

frawlicious	It's a hard question because while you want to go with you heart, the social and educational level is important especially when it's connected to earning potential. Money is not everything but you want to be with someone who is bringing something to the table or at least has the potential to do more. That's hard, you are going to have to go with your heart. Good Luck to you.

rhsaunders	Love is neither necessary nor sufficient to a successful marriage. But it certainly helps! Presuming that you have found someone that you love, it is time to appraise how a long-term relationship might work in practice: are there enough common interests to share, and are there few enough irritations on each side that a thing could work? It does not take long to find out; years ago, it became evident within two days that my main squeeze and I were on the same page on the stuff that counts.

Rick46	Love should not disappear after marriage. The intense passion fueled by lust will not last, but over time a mature love should evolve out of a relationship. You can't count on love to come later if you marry someone you don't love now. If I were you, I'd follow my heart, but that's something you'll have to figure out for yourself.

m_c_m_a_n	If you are concerned about love disappearing it's not really love at all. Real love is unconditional and not to be taken lightly. Marrying someone that you don't love and hoping it comes later is a recipe for disaster. I had a friend who did this and is now middle aged and miserable because the love never materialized. It's best to do a deep examination of your feelings for someone and ask yourself some tough questions. True love doesn't just go away someday. Unfortunately too many people are getting married because they think they love the other person when in fact it's actually infatuation or lust.

larry B	Every thing you do in life you going to take a chance on ,Love comes first, if it dose not last at least you have loved hopefully a long time. chose heart

alondra21ca	ok seriously i am married to the most amazing man he doesnt have millionsand doesnt have the best educatin ever but he works hard at making me the happiest woman ever he is creative and can make me roses with toilet paper and that makes me happier than a man with money would cause i did have to choose and i choose happiness.

ericktravel	There has to be a balance between the two,you can't go exclusively go with the mind (you would only be unhappy afterwards) or with the heart ( for everyone knows that hearts can change) you have to find a balance between emotions and reason. Find someone you care about and love but with whom you can also have a future (think about the children) that is the way to a healthy marriage

Sly	What kind of question is that? What you are basically asking is: Do I get married with money and social status, or do I get married with someone I truely desire. Either way, it all boils down to your personnal values. Who are we anyway to tell you who you should get involved with?

blessed mommy	why would you want to be married to someone you don't love. You can have someone be a complete male clone of yourself and never love him a day in your life. A relationship needs love to even continue going. you have to care deeply about that person. Marriage isn't a game and shouldn't be taken likely. It's a vow to share your whole life with someone whom you love and cherish. Not someone who is intelectually in synch with you. I've never heard those in anyones wedding vows

IsabellaT	You arent ready for either.

Mr. Taco	You need both. Don't run your life on a black and white dichotomy that is not realistic or sensible. Use your brain AND your heart. If both do not apply, then you are not with the right person.

Sexy male	hard question... marry someone closer to who u are or else adapting to each other will be hard. love is important

Mr.OldGuy	go for the money, then you can aford to go play with your real loves

floridaman39us	I dont have a clue Mary Sue.