Should I be angry at my husband?

fuzzmonkey	Well, he should get his head out of his behind and realize that you are doing two full-time jobs!! Being a mother is something that most men do not realize that is a FULL TIME JOB!! I have three sons, 10, 9, and 1 year and I work so.. I understand what you are going through. My hubby used to complain and be crabby about the house until his dad actually took my side. Yes, you should be upset with him. I think you are doing a wonderful thing staying home with your son and working.

yougo	Try cutting back on a class, and put more effort into the house. I hate to say this, but I think that I would have been upset as well. I never have to worry about that, because my wife has never worked outside the house. Talk it over with him, and try to compromise with each other. Good Luck

CHICANO	You have every right to be angry girl he needs to get off his rump and help out around the home these are'nt the 1950's where the wife is considered the slave.

Annie	lol, not funny I know. I was thinking about what I would have done if he was my husband !!! and it aint a purty picture... you need to sit Mr. Perfect down, explain to him about the whys and does and donts about coming home complaining about a dirty floor... if HE want the floor to be that clean, then hand him a broom and a mop and tell him to get to work... or you could take the softer approach, explaining to him why you are working so hard, that he should stop feeling quilty and angry and step in and help you both get thru this mess... NO blame or accusations just advise him of the help you need to make it all work and come together to get thru all this... God bless

freeme529	I totally understand. Women just have a nack of handling business. Men think because they did an 8 or 10 hour day that they need a hero cookie. That's not all there is. My husband used to be the same way until I had to go out of town for the week and he had to cook, iron, shop, homework, wash and dry, and go to work. He claimed to have really understood. So I feel you and I am so sorry.

daljack -a girl	You're husband sounds very selfish and out of tune with what it takes to raise a child, run a household, and help earn a living. My suggestion is to send him an e-mail telling him how it makes you feel when he doesn't appreciate what you do all day. An e-mail is good because he can't talk. LOL

OleMarbleEyes	I think you married a real winner....tell em to kiss your @ss

The Cerebral Assassin	hell yeah you should be angry with him he's an idiot if anything you should tell him how you feel and make him clean up the damn floor

phoenixheat	You have 2 full-time jobs. Tell him this is the way it's going to be. Either you quit your job of teaching that brings in the money so you can keep the house clean, or he pitches in and does half the housework and baby-sitting so you can continue working. It's really that simple. If he refuses, then you need to decide entirely be yourself what you want to do.

marydave4eva	I think you have every reason to be angry! I would be disappointed too, he is not seeing how much work you do and it sounds like you are not appreciated either. I would have a heart to heart talk with him. Good luck!

shakopcool	This is from a male. You should be upset. Tell him he could clean the floor if he thinks it's dirty. I would never say something like that to my wife, we share the cleaning.

lovely	Why not mention that it takes alot to do what you do, and that it's hard, and long and endless and sometimes you don't have enough hands to get everything done right away. But remind him it does get done, and that if he would like to chip in and help to get it done a little faster then it would certainly be great, but if not, please restrain from commenting negatively.

The Man	you shouldn't be angry. the reason is: it wastes time since you will make up anyways. but you should sit down and explain to him that the house won't always be spotless when he comes home and that you know he works hard to support you and the kid (s) but if he could throw in an extra hand once in a while and not put so much stress on you all the time. that is what you should do. i hope i helped you

native,pride	be ye angry,,but sin not

rook	Tell him that if he hadn't made a mess with the finances, maybe you'd be able to clean up the mess his son made.

monkey_man	talk to him about how you are feeling, i'm sure he will understand, and he might have just had a bad day

caitlinerika	Keep a log of what you do with your time for a few days so he can see how busy you are. A lot of people don't realize how much time it takes to take care of a kid and house, and you're working on top of that. Maybe if he sees how busy you actually are then he'll be more understanding.

all_classy_bitof_sassy	sounds like time to have the "walk a day in my shoes" talk. If this is a one time occurence, let it go. If it happens regularly, time to definitely talk. Good luck hon. It's an age old issue!

shortie77	you have every right to be mad. he has no idea what you do for your family and all he does is complain about some stupid little mess. make him sleep on the couch!!

bloodsanctum	He had a long day at work, and coming home to a mess can be frustrating. You both need to talk it out.

Jack1234	yes you should be. He needs to step up to the plate and shoulder some of the responsibility for the work around the house.

David S	Clean the floor

NONAME	Don't put up with his shite.

minx_heart	Next time he comes in whining about the floor being a mess , remind him you work too. And remind him where the mop , broom and dustpan can be found .

Arnold M	I'd kill him.

josh/julie m	Maybe he had a bad day too, cut him some slack and don't worry about it if its not a normal thing him getting upset over stupid little stuff. Tell him he needs to cut you some slack to and explain to him just how hard you have it.

SJ_Girl	Sure sounds like you have a reason to be angry.

robo	yes

harmonieclark	asss....make him do whaat you do for one day,, or even a week....then see what he says Shut my hubby up real quick