Should I be upset if my wife goes to lunch with a male coworker?

PrincessJ	If it upset my husband for me to go to lunch with a male coworker, I simply wouldn't go. Out of respect for him & our relationship. My husband would do the same for me.

Meylin	You should never trust a lady all the way. Anyway, it might not mean anything, but since she has already cheated on you, there's a possiblity that there would be another fling right there. You have the right to suspect.

dhdaddy2003	Ask to join them for lunch. If there's no bad vibes, relax a bit; but stay alert. If you are not welcome to tag along - there's trouble afoot.

sheane561973	I was married for 10 years and I will tell you truthfully she should not first of all be going anywhere with any male except you or a family member. If she has cheated in the past she should respect the marriage and say you know what I messed up in the past I will respect my husband and not do this wether or not it is innocent.

morris_mini	This is a question that either you already know the answer to, or you should. If she's going to lunch with a group of coworkers, it's probably OK. If she's going out and chatting with another guy during lunch, it's probably more than lunch. If you don't remember history, it's likely to repeat itself.

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Shawanna W	i can see why you would be weary but the last thing you want to do is jump to conclusions especially if you are wrong if she let you know about it it probably means she isn't trying to hide anything from you be subtle and asked her how her day went if she avoids ever telling you about him then maybe u should worry or call her at lunch and say i love you her esponse to you will tell you a lot or just ask her but for all things there are consequences even when you are honest

tiellover83	Well since she has told you that she is going to lunch with him I would think that she is being honest and not trying to hide anything from you. If she starts dressing up and acting distant then I would start to worry. Good Luck!

ericka m	hell yeah u should be mad cuase she tellin u they goin to lunch they goin to ****

Gemma T	No, she will have male and female friends. It's just getting on with life. Are you gonna be upset every time she talks to a man?

brandy G	I guess it really depends on where they went. Did she hide it or did she ask you how felt about it. If she was hiding it or it was more like a personal type lunch, then yes i would be upset.

terra	What you feel is normal, you have a reason to be upset because of the past trust issues... You have to sit down and talk to her.. let her know how you feel about what she did...

B U S Y	Well you should try to get to know what thier friendship is all about. If you dont know that guy I can see why you would be upset. But, if you get to know him and see how they react around each other you can tell if they are just freinds or something else. Ya know? He could be a big dork and she has no interest in him or he could even be gay! you never know and you dont want to go around accusing for no reason.

Lavinia	You should trust her and forget the past. Jealousy can make things worse. Relax.

wudbiser	tough call. Go with your gut. If you wanna be smart, follow your heart.

Toolman	she shuld respect your feelings if it makes you upset. There is no reason a man and woman should go to lunch alone - they can claim it's innocent but it's just the start of something bad

justaboutpeace	There should be cause for concern but you know the signs of her cheating since she has done it before and I would not allow her to cheat on me again and stay married. Maybe your wife needs counseling to see what is wrong that she has to be in the company of other men. Look for the signs and the first signs that it is more than a causal lunch with a friend, I would let her go because she doesn't respect you or the santicty of marriage. There are too many women who would want a good, decent man who would love, respect, and appreciate them.

jamaicanmixy	is this co-worker gay? no seriously not to be funny but ive seen it happen...if its really in the past then you should try to trust her. How often does she go to lunch with him?

Shay_Shay03	It's only natural that jealousy would begin to rear it's ugly head. I would give her a chance, but one only. If it becomes a habit, then you have every right in the world to be mad.

Brent	I think you still don't trust her. What's that all about? I thought you had done your forgiveness.

TLB	I would be careful. It doesn't sound like a good situation to me. She should not be alone with another guy especially when you two are married.

ladylady4470	Then no she should not be going out to lunch with a male co-worker. If it was a group thing then fine. By herself nope sorry....

wellbeing	It's not appropriate for her to go to lunch with her male co-worker if it makes you uncomfortable, if it's her boss and he requests a "lunch meeting", then she is obligated to go, but if it's just a co-worked and they are on a lunch "break", then tell her that she needs to respect your wishes and not do that unless there are other co-workers with them, that way it's a group, not one on one.

Chris	Did she tell you about the lunch before hand or did you find out by accident? If she was up front about it, she's probably trying to sustain a level of trust.

jules vane	Only those two, alone, often? I'd be wondering myself

hellvet2000	You should be more concerned about what's for lunch.

WC	If there is a pattern of this behavior, I would be most concerned.

odds10to1	If she has cheated before, then you should be worried.

letterstoheather	if you have trust issues and she cheated before, i can see how you'd be "upset' about her going to lunch with a male co-worker, especially if they go alone, together. let her know how you feel. she really isn't using very good judgment considering her past cheating. take care.