Should I betray an old friend for revenge?

amazed_lab_rat	Are you 10? You are acting like it

jeff c	I had the same problem years ago, I told his girlfriend, ended up sleeping with her later that night. Her revenge to him. I lost 2 friends that night. Let it go. He will get caught without your help and you will be happier with yourself in the long run. Cheers

ms_lain_iwakura	The girlfriend deserves to know that her boyfriend has been cheating on her. However, VENGEANCE is a sorry motive for telling her this, because it feels like the intention is to hurt rather than help someone. If your goal is to hurt someone, you should leave the situation alone. If you genuinely care about how he is treating his girlfriend, and believe that she should have all of the information so she could make appropriate decisions for her well-being, then you should tell her about the cheating. You will encounter a lot of people who will do things that you don't like or that you find hurtful. Revenge really isn't the solution, and often times comes back to hurt you more than satisfy you. I really think you should find more productive and adaptive ways of dealing with your negative feelings.

swty059p	Revenge can back fire and hurt you baddly leave it alone she will find out sooner or later. You can be the one with the shorter end of the stick

April	If I were the girlfriend, I'd like to know that I had a betrayer...so I could dump his sorry A@@........... You bet, tell her.

Sewer Gas	Stop acting like a 13 year old girl and grow up and be a man for Christs sake. No wonder he got the girl and you didn't.

maj	I would confront your so called friend and tell him if he doesn't come clean with his girlfriend, you will be forced to tell her of his indiscretion. Make HIM tell his girlfriend and then stand back and watch. As to the girl you liked, it doesn't sound like she was that important to you.

aunt_beeaa	What would you be proving? This person isn't your friend and you're obsessing about his like it is your main purpose in life. Sounds to like you have to much time on your hands. You need to focus your energies elsewhere!

mobildik	Its really none of your business. Stay out of it, do not ever tell his g/f. You will lose both as friends.

Coolio	I read your question about the lifeguard and i still think you have no life. (like a said in the last one)

Professor Jelly Tot	I didn't even read it, but yes!

Neil G	no

David H	She wasn't yours to begin with, so you have no right to put yourself right in the middle of their business. If you were at least her boyfriend, it'd be a whole other situation. However, she was free, he took his chance, and if he gets caught on his own, then it's his problem. Also, think about his girlfriend. If they've been together that long, don't you think she'd be devestated? Don't ruin a relationship of another person just because you're a little jealous.

ruthie	leave it alone, don't stoop to his level, you are better than that.

Patrick G	You sound like a jealous, disgusting pu...y.... how small is your d...k what a little sh.. move on and quit thinking about him and anything about hm. get a life. wow with friends like you .......

mimegamy	I agree the girlfriend should know but DON'T you do it for revenge. Stay above that. You are a better person for it.

sweetgranny06	if thats what you want but revenge gets you no where my husband cheated ive thought of lots i could do but im praying about it

babyboo	he was wrong but two wrong's don't make a right... she will find out sooner or later and he will pay.

hstoic01	Don't do it! It will be so much better when his life goes up in smoke and you just sat back and waited. What comes around goes around!

Shortstuff13	Don't do it! You know what paybacks are. Just sit back & given enough rope, he'll hang himself, as the saying goes. Let him ruin his own life, it's not up to you. Good things come to those who wait, so be patient.

pilot	Take the high ground and forget the matter. If you haven't forgotten about it in 8 years its time you did. Plus these sorts of revenge actions have a way of backfiring, maybe he has a way of getting even with you! Move on.

Lady D	Grow some balls! The girl that you like slept with him as well! What goes around comes back around! This girl slept with a guy who has a girlfriend.....and you still got issue over that.... you should be happy... finding out what kind of female she is!

l'il mama	I slept with this girls man and would spend time with him and her child. The reason: revenge. A couple years back she lost my dog after I let her stay in my home when she was down on her luck and just blew off not looking for my dog because it was raining. I kicked her out. the next time I saw her she had a man and a baby and I knew the guy was into me so I started to ask him to come over and mow my yard or help around the house. I ruined her whole life the way she crushed me by losing the only thing important to me. My advice to you.....it did make me feel better when it all came out which is messed up but the revenge really was sweet.

queenfairy1Antioch California	Everything in me that has been where you are says YES TELL. But then the angel on my shoulder reminds me that "revenge is mine sayeth the Lord." Do what you will.

sphericaluniverse	Well if you had a woman and some other man slept with her would you want to know? and that said do you have any evidence or is it your word against his. Without evidence you may be better off keeping your mouth shut and do not forget if he is your co-worker he can get you fired easily. If you want to tell then get real evidence and set up another job. and you may as well go after his woman while your at it. She could use a man that will not cheat on her.. you are not the cheating type are you?

tay tay	I would tell the girl because this guy doesnt seem to be your friend in the first place. You should tell the girl because it might save her from him and what he has done.

1540	No one likes you anyway so you might as well.

janetrmi	No, don't take revenge. You're opening a can of worms. Besides, God says he will take revenge for us. What goes around comes around. He will eventually reap what he sowed.

judy	me i think the girl has the right to know .after all its not right for her to be in the dark about it . be sides if he cared a bout her he wouldn,t have slept with this other girl now would he. go for it makes you feel better and the girl be better off with out him . you never know she might end up likeing you .