Should I check her phone calls?

ideally_rational	She was so sick she couldn't pick up the phone and tell you? Does she have a disease which makes her unconscious for days at a time? Ask her what was really going on. It doesn't mean that she was cheating, but maybe she was taking a "thinking it through" weekend because the relationship is sitting on the fence, not sure which way it will go. Give up the phone investigative work. If she really wants to talk to another man and doesn't want you to know, all she would have to do is use her roommate's phone or a pay phone or a million other ways... I still smell a rat because she didn't give you the common decency to call you and let you know, but maybe your marriage has a history of disrespect and the two of you definitely need to work on that.

Kit Kat	If you doubt her, or dont trust her, what's the point in reconciling ?

Steve J	The whole "I need to check your phone records" thing is pretty creepy! Clearly she is trying to get away from you. I wouldn't be surprised if you wind up getting served with a restraining order soon.

blondie	yes your def over reacting and that's going to do nothing but push her away even more.. why would you want to be w/ her when you obviously don't trust her.. you should trust that she was sick and if you don't then why do you want to be w/her???

Penny	Maybe, she needs time alone and don't be bother while she's separating from you. She will tell you the truth if she wants to.

TroubleRose	I dont think you are, I would check it them anyway. The fact that she said ok proves that she doesnt have anything to hide. However, her lack of calling shows lack of communication which I feel is the main reason why divorce is at such a high percentage. -Check the phone records -Tell her to work on communication skills

me	well like everyone else said but a relationship will not work without trust

?	Uh... Yeah... It was ONE time. If it happens again, then over-react.

...Melissa...	Absolutely. You are SEPARATED. Wether you are working on things or not its none or your business. How do you think you will be able to get back together when you dont trust her and she can't trust you. You need to tell her how you feel. Communication is important in any relationship. To work things out trust her, even if you don't think u can. Never snoop around on her. You will only find things you don't want. Or you will find things that are nothing but you will make them to be bigger than they are. Give her space

Kitten	If you dont trust her..then what the hell are you doing in trying to work things out? You are totally over reacting..you aren't her father. If I were her Id not only not give you my phone records, Id tell you to jump off a cliff.

2u	youre not normal;take your medicine

M.J.	no. if you are trying to make this work then there is nothing wrong with a little reassurance! dont go crazy about it but look at them and if she lied then hey you will know it just wont work and you can stop trying! but if she wasnt lying then apologize and never do it again. i say do it bud you need to know if it is worth trying to work out! good luck!

Kitten	Wow, i see why you don't live together...See her phone records? Are you insane? I'd be furious if my husband, even when separated from him, asked me to see my phone records to prove I had been telling the truth... Yikes...walk away man, you need to move on.

mrsknowitall	Just a little and if you keep it up you guys will never reconcile. I can bet that you are th reason you guys are separated.

Texas Happy Horn	YES you are overreacting. You need to learn to trust her, if you can't trust then it is time to move on. Her phone records are none of your business and she should not have to show you them to you. Your behavior would push me away for good. I hope it doesn't do the same to your wife.

cassiepiehoney	if you have to check up on her to get the truth-is the relationship really worth saving. try to really get through to her the importance of honesty-tell her if she wants out of a date-to please just tell you,that telling you she's sick -really just worries you and if she feels you cant handle the truth-that you will try to toughen up a little

Penny Lane	Listen, just because she didn't talk to you doesn't mean she was doing something destructive to your relationship. She obviously didn't want to talk. Leave her alone, you're separated for a reason. Don't make it worse.

zajucomom	If you're not paying for the phone. You have no right to see it.

Aces baby	if you dint believe her you can ask her whats the real reason for her standing you up but her phone records are her privacy and yeah you wanting to see them is way to much

anch49	Yeah you are. If the phone is hers you should have no reason to check her records. If you don't trust her then you don't need to be together period.

c	sort of, but no, its understandable, she should have at least called to let you know. If she was so ill that she couldn't even pick up the phone, and now she's all better? that sounds suspicious to me..

da best girl you kno!!!!	HECK YA!!!! leave her alone for a couple of days and get outta her business

magicgee	I agree with coolbennie maybe something did come up and your already jumping the gun.

Vergie	Yes you are over reacting........sounds like you need to do some work on yourself and leave her alone.

cupids_victim11	NO... i think thats normal... and its very cooperative of her to not argue about letting you see them... cus if she would have then that means problems

bootsontheroad	Let me put it this way, anyone sking to see my phone records is a control freak. Therfore, would not need to call ever again and I would get a court order to back it up.

Grace	Yes. Chill out. Asking to see her phone records is ridiculous.

skcs11	you two will never get along

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Coolbeanie27	Now I see why you are separated.