Should I give my cheating husband a 3rd chance?

Teenie	When you say third time are you referring to the co-worker three times or two other women he had an affair with. It was a big mistake going to see the co-worker because she most likely made it seem more intense then what it really was so i would take what she said with a grain of salt. Are you sure you are doing what is best for you or are you just listening to what other people tell you to do. If you don't love him anymore that's one thing but if your still in love with him try and work it out. I know I'll get thumbs down for this but it's what i think you should do.

choclate fudge	This is your decision and you have to decide when enough is enough for you i am a christian so I can only speak from theat point of view. The bible says that adultery is the only way to leave a marriage so, you need to decide what you need to do and yes the kids play a part you play a part, but you have the facts dont be anyones fool you are in my prayers

stefanibrown74	You do what in your heart you want to do. If this is his 3rd time I am thinking he won't stop. Get your self some counseling and think of your children make sure you ask him what the hell he would do if a man did this to one of his kids especially if you have a little girl!

farmgirl	Why would you want him if he's such a cheat? Move on and find someone worthy of you.

Goodfellar	You don't really want your children around this person ............

Lisa B	Third time around? No way. Sorry to say, but he is not going to change for anyone anytime anywhere. Get your kids away from him before they think that it's okay to treat other people that way. I know that it's hard to walk away, but.... Trust me when I say, you will be much better off if you get away now. Good luck!

zoey	no

Honesty	A third chance? Stop letting him do this to you! He's either lying to you, or lying to her, but either way he's lying. Enough is enough. .

mizzhollywood26	3rd? He wouldn't have even gotten a second with me. We'd be divorced.

WHO FORGETS!	no

cat f	no, no, no.... honey he ain't worth the heartache.

*~â™¥Shellâ™¥~*	This is a rhetorical question...Yes, you should leaving your husband who has cheated on you three times. I don't know you but I know you deserve to be treated better than that. It will be hard at first but once you end this relationship you will see how much better your life and your children's lives will be. Stay strong, you will be alright.

BabeHart	IF I gave someone a 2nd chance after cheating (and I am not sure what would cause me to do that), I sure as hell wouldn't give them a 3rd. Do what works for you though...it's your life.

SWEETYPI	You need to make him leave or leave with your children and move on. He is a lying dog. You never give them a second chance to make a fool of you, much less a 3rd.

Equinox	He shouldn't even have gotten a 2nd chance to begin with.

Hayseedless	What? You're not at your lawyers office yet... Get going now! ...and remember this: "He / she who files the papers first... ...wins!!!"

2fine4u	For me, a second chance would be out of the question. Once you forgive so many times, he will think that he can continue to do and you will continue to forgive him. My suggestion is if you want him, let him suffer a while before you take him back. Make him work his butt off to get you back. Then he may appreciate you a little more.

timestamps	no, and never

Jen	The saying goes "fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me". The man will never change, he wants to have his cake & eat it too. Leave him & show your children that's not how a man treats his wife. Good luck.

Tara	I used to hold the belief .. to forgive & forget the person the 1st time. Then .. if they do it the 2nd time - they never learned -- and it will be a 3rd time, and a 4th time, etc. Whatever you decide to do .. don't go on what "the-other-woman" tells you. Not that she is lieing to you ... but she has her own selfish motives. In reality, she probably WANTS you to know it .. and she probably wants you to kick him to the curb ... ... ... so she can have him. So! .. don't listen to her words ... just do, whatever you do - because it is YOUR choice. It sounds like he was just playing her because he could have gone to her if he loved her that much. The things which he told her about you is an 'age-old' thing which most guys tell there mistresses about their wives ... they think it gives them an excuse to their mistresses for runnng around on their wives .. and it also tells the mistresses what they think they want to hear. If it IS true .. then you even have Biblical good reason to leave him. It would be a good idea to gather all of the real undisputeable truth of his affair that you can get. It would have been GREAT if you had recorded your & his mistress conversation. If you want out - then just Go. Don't listen to his words any longer. If you insist - you can name the woman in the divorce - but don't alienate her just yet .. you may need more info. You can give him a 3rd chance if you want to .. but a lot of damage has been done which you may not fully recover from any time soon - which will trickle down to affect the relationship in a bad way. You certainly won't have any trust for him ... and you may never want him to touch you again. He has done you so wrong. I know you are hurt. Those bad things which he said about you - are the typical things which those cheating rascals say about their wives. Some wives can get past the cheating. Other wives cannot get past the cheating. Some wives can never get over the thought of him touching other women. Only you know what you might can do .. if you can get over it .. or not get over it. Just be aware ,, if they have gone on this long .. she probably wants him. And she probably wants you out of the picture. I have a very close friend whose husband ran around on her during their whole married life .. and it ruined her whole life. She told me that lots of the mistresses he had - would try to make friends with her - just to find out info. She said that some of them who she did not know, even tried to become friends with her - and invite her shopping. So .. you just know that this other woman has her own plans .. she is NO friend of yours .. she may be giving you information .. but she wants you to know. I don't blame you for being tired of his cheating. If you want out of the marriage, then get it done. It will be his loss.

ANNETTE	HONEY THE SAYING GOES ...CHEAT ON ME ONCE SHAME ON YOU...CHEAT ON ME TWICE SHAME ON ME....SO A 3RD CHANCE IS NOT A GOOD CHOICE JUST BECAUSE YOU GUYS HAVE 2 CHILDREN TOGETHER DOES NOT MEAN THAT YOU HAVE TO PUT UP WITH SOMEONE LIKE THAT.....IT ALSO DOES NOT MEAN THAT HE STILL CANT BE A FATHER ...AND YOU CANT BE A MOTHER TO YOUR GUYS CHILDREN. GOOD LUCK SWEETIE.

Purple	I don't think a 3rd chance will work. You have proven it to yourself. But you are the only one who could answer that. If you can devote all your life to that kind of man, you can always keep your marriage. Marriage is about sacrifice and acceptance. If you can live with all the pain that comes with it and are willing to accept your husband without expecting any changes in him, then every cheating will be worth another chance. But if you decide to put a final stop to all these, think about it a thousand times and be firm/determined to do such actions. You have all the reasons not to believe him. Have a heart-to-heart talk with him and you would feel if he is lying or sincere about his feelings.

ChrissyG	third chance???????? NO leave him and go on with your life. he's not worth your spit

odela1950	bring a dump truck and lose him if you dont want more of same

lornehart	Hillary - How many times will you let Bill do this to you? Since you're running for president you should probably keep him around, othewise it will distract from your campaign.

interpol	All i needed to read was the title.. No no no and no. It's enough you gave him a SECOND chance after cheating, but a 3rd.. No way in hell.