Should I just lie about wherre I was?

5	That's a tough one

ilovelilPhof	did she ask? If she didn't don't tell her, and you already told her that you were out with the guys so just leave it at that.

chatterella	First of all be honest with yourself. You evidently are very unhappy in your marriage. Sometimes pure honesty can get you results better than a lie. Tell both of them, you are unhappy. That this marriage did not turn out to be the happiness you deserve. Something is not right. The wife? Well, something was there when you married her. If it's gone then the marriage should be annulled or a separation filed. You will be happier in the long run, and your mom will be happy that you were honest..Your wife will lose any way you look at it...so you will have to accept that and go on. Get out if you are unhappy....the woman you went out with will have to be addressed too.

I play the game	Don't tell anyone. Your mom doesn't need to be burdened with a secret and the more people that know equals the more people who could let the secret out.

redsky_too_nite	You are an adult, there is no reason to answer to your mother. If your wife is that bad leave and then you won't be put in this situation again.

wilderwriter	I'm not convinced your wife is all that "terrible" The problem seems to be YOU.

Paula C	You are the terrible one to be out with another woman behind your wife's back...

Mytmel	The answer's in the question. You feel guilt for your actions. Doesn't matter if you partition it out - the guilt is there for a reason. It's been my experience that anything I'd be ashamed of sharing with my family is something I ought not be doing.

sam and cyndi y	you need to pray to your higher power. At some time it will all come out I promise.

freakshowjonesjr	you should tell your mom the truth, but call first to make sure im not there with her

Kate J	You need to let Mom know the truth so she can straighten your *** out, you idiot.

rcButterfly	You could have said you were out with a friend. This isn't a lie, I'm sure you consider your mistress your friend. You should not get your mother involved in your relationship, or lack thereof, with your wife. You should leave your wife of course because it's not fair to your mistress or your wife. I'm assuming at one point you loved this woman since you married her.

Aussie666	Mommys boy. Your all the same.

ideally_rational	karma is going to bite you in the a.s.s. someday. Call me up when it does so that I can laugh.

tr	I think the answer is obvious what you need to do..And I need to ask you something else..Are you sure you are asking the right question? Well, I feel a lady or a man needs to tell the other it is over..Leave with being looked at as a respectable man..Be honest with your wife..and tell her its over and you dont think it is working out..Your mother would tell you the same thing, if it is that bad..Talk to your mom.. Its already bad enough that it has gotten to this point anyways..For marriage should be viewed as trying to save, instead of just giveing up.. Giveing up is way to easy..

avalon123	you could lie to your wife and not your mom. that is messed up. you should tell the truth to both of them. just be prepared your wife may not forgive you and leave.

Mean Carleen	uh, its none of your moms business.

The Grand Inquisitor	Oh what ever. If you are always honest with your mom, then tell her. She'll side with you anyhow, so why not?

livin the dream	Why lie and if its terrible...GET A DIVORCE you coward! If you have to lie or decieve anyone than you need to get outta what ever situation you are in

TelulahB	If you have a terrible wife, get a divorce. No matter how terrible she is you don't have the right to cheat on her and lie to her. Split up, let her move on, you can move on that way you don't have to lie to anyone, including your mom.

wish I were	If your wife is so bad then why not divorce her instead of lowering yourself to lying? Do you have no self pride at all?

spelling nazi	So what you're saying is you don't abuse every woman?

pink daisy	If you are cheating on your wife then maybe you should confide in your mother and maybe she can give you some advice on what to do. If your wife is that terrible and you don't mind lying to her then maybe you are haveing issues just let her go on with her life and you go on with yours with whomever you are cheating on her with because you must not love her.

anniebammy	Oh what a tangled web we weave When first we practice to decieve. Lying gets you nowhere. Perhaps your wife is terrible because of you, she's aware of your deceiptful ways and she's getting back at you. The best thing to do is cut your losses and get out. Why torture her, why torture yourself? The lies will come out and most likely will be used against you in the divorce proceedings.

back2future	the point is u r a cheater....

00_tyradjh_00	no u shoundnt lie to ur mom because she is the only person in the world that can understand everything about u dont hide anything from her so in time that u need her advise she can just saythe right things that u need to hear like what others always say moms know best

jlcjills	Your terrible wife? Is that your opinion or your mothers?

Steph	Then don't lie....

boricua_2290	why don't you get a divorce from YOUR terrible wife, you won't have to lie to YOUR mom cheating on YOUR wife means YOU ARE a cheater.. LOL GOOGLE THAT MORON!!!!!!!!