Should I kick my Husband out of the house?

Becky	well it seems to me that every time he sees the other woman you must be feeling pretty awful like you are not good enough and that is not OK to do to yourself time and time again and you children might be picking up on some feelings from that, and that is really not OK you just have to make a decision , Do you want to settle for someone that doesn't think you are the one and only in his world???? Or do you want to live a a life where you are not always wondering if the person you are with is wanting to be with someone that he thinks is better. You only have one life and sometimes you have to make a choice to be happy

michele_fct	He should go. You need to stay and take care of your kids. I'd be willing to bet that once you put you foot down that other woman won't be so attractive to him. You've already done everything you can. It's you or her. I wouldn't wait around for him to decide. Decide for him. If he doesn't come to his senses in time you'll find some one else and I 've got a feeling that he'll live to regret it.

kcw	Get rid of him! By letting him stay your just reinforcing his behavio, he will keep on doing this until you put a stop to it. Your worth more than playing second. And what are is it teaching your children, that its alright to cheat, that its OK to be treated like this. Your worth more than that stand up take a look in the mirror and say to yourself I am somebody and I deserve to be treated with respect. You will feel better about you, and your kids will respect you more. Just remember YOU ARE IMPORTANT, AND YOU DESERVE TO BE TREATED AS SUCH.

me-the girl	yes kick him out now...

Searching for answers	get a good lawyer and show him the door....and tell him don't let it hit you on the butt on the way out. He can't have his cake and eat it too my mama always said!!! Sorry...it is hard to hear...harder to do...but you deserve better!!!! Focus on keep the house stable for you and the kids.

jdhs	If that's what he wants then let him go. He will more than likely regret it anyway but then again, when he comes crawling back to you because he found out the grass isn't really greener on the other side, don't take him back. Let him reap what he sowed.

guraqt2me	Wife: since you made an attempt to salvage the relationship with sneaky Pete, there, you have done your part. Now; think about how you are going to leave this cheater, get him to pay for you and the kids. Act on the plan and get out - far away from him as possible ! Your staying with him will not guarantee that he will change - chances are he won't ! This now, a no-brainer! He setting down conditions for you, for HIM to stay ? He's a kook and the girl he is screwing deserves him . Let nature take its course - leave him. Good luck to you and the kids !

Eek	You should let him go. I bet, though, that he will be back. And then you will need to take him back and he will never leave you again.

Jay	I think you've already answered your question on your own, right? Your relationship obviously means a lot to you and has a lot of time invested in it but there comes a time. It sounds like he's pretty confused if he takes off to see her when you get out of counseling. Only you know when enough is enough and it sounds like you're getting pretty close to enough.I'm sorry that you're in a spot like that and I hope your kids are alright.

goldenmarie	yes...you've tried hard to save your marriage and it seems there is no helping it on your husbands part atleast. in order for the marriage to last, your husband has to want to be a part of it and clearly he doesn't. i'm sry, but you have to kick him out for you can start to move on.

?	does he smoke Ice too ?!

mstngnette081760	I'm sorry for your trouble, but if that's what he wants let him go. it's time for you to move on, like you said you have two beautiful children and this type of atmosphere isn't good for the children so please you must think of them and your sanity. because it sounds like he don't give a darn. good luck sweetie and may god bless you and keep you safe

geronemo	I am sorry to say this but you are right my friend. He has to go. If this obsession he has for this other woman can't be stopped, just be the bigger person and let him go. He will only cause you further heartache if he stays and neither of you will be happy. Remember him of old and the times you shared together as a major part of your life, then move on. Don't feel resentment as it can make you bitter and its best to realise now rather than later that its not your fault and you are a beautiful person and even moreso on your own. A time will come when you will meet the man of your dreams all over again and life will be glorious for you again. Until then focus on something positive and be happy in yourself. Good luck.

inquisitive	Yes he should go, you don't deserve to be treated like this.

libra1079	Yes. He should go. This situation is not fair to you or your kids. I know it's hard now, but I've been there and I can tell you once he's been gone for a bit you really will start to feel better. Kick him out.

Cymbaline	It sounds like there is nothing there to save or work on... so, yes, he should go. Then you can heal because with him there you wont be able to begin the process you need to go through. I have heard that you can expect the healing to take half as long as the relationship was. Focus on yourself for awhile and your kids. You are special.

The Grit	"If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, it was always yours. If it wasn't, it was never meant to be." Let him make his choices. He will fall on his face if he is wrong. If he comes back to you, it will then be up to you if you are willing to allow infidelity destroy your marriage, or if you marriage can survive anything.

pinniethewooh	Yes, he should go. If he does want to come back later, it needs to be on your terms with no contact with the woman. It's BS

A	If you re-read your question, I think you've answered it yourself. :) You shouldn't have to compete with another woman for your husband's love. Let her have him - you could certainly do better!!

ineedtono	Oh my goodness lady! Kick his assss out on the streets RIGHT NOW!!!! I only wish and hope and pray for the day that my husband would pull a trick like that!!!!! What is wrong with the world today?!!?!?! You have invested tooooo much of your time on this idiot looser so start investing time in YOURSELF!!! Let him go and go to a spa. Keep your focus on your children because "at the end of the day" THAT IS THE ONLY ONE THING IN THIS WHOLE WORLD THAT SHOULD MATTER TO YOU!

jumiboo	yes let him go. think about if he took it this far this time he will do it again. move on and raise your kids to the best of your ability and think positive. he has made his decision. sorry

Brian	Right now he has all the power. You are wondering what he will do. You take the power. You kick him out and tell him IF he straitens his act up you might consider giving him another chance after he proves himself. If not, plan on moving on. I am sure there are men out there who would appreciate a faithful loving woman.

bronzebabekentucky	your husband has what people call the "7 year itch" he wants what he cant have, mid life crisis... he will regret it later, but right now, he thinks the grass is greener on HER side of the fence... good luck

Justsyd	He should leave, and you should continue to go to counseling. I wouldn't be surprised if things don't work out for him, and he will soon want to come back.

Mikey Mike	If its that bad then maybe you should go...

hugo76	yes he should leave. he is using you again by staying.

Royalhinney	I agree with you...he should go. He's holding onto you, yet actively pursuing another woman right in front of you. How much more disrespectful can he be? Pack his stuff tonight!

yp_cindy_lewisburg	Yes Mam he should go and you should cut off communication with him. I suspect if you make him think he is cut off cold from your mothering and love that soon he will want to run back home. I would tell him hit the road jack and don't phone home and stick to that for several weeks.