Should I leave my husband?

jackbutler5555	You can get over your love for him. With that knowledge, you tell him he has to find a way to make up for all this. Sit back and wait. If nothing happens, don't waste another 12 years. Get out.

Mamour	i can imagine a little secret being kept , for you have rights to have a private life before , but a child ! no ! there is NO way i would stay with him ; that is too serious to keep , it is his child , how can he hide him ? what kind of person would do this ? that would qualify as a big lack of respect , first of all , for his child , and then relationship he has with you ! the man does not know what respect is !and he is a liar ........

ajoke77	why should you?! marriage is turbulent and so is being alone or starting all over again. So don't! God help you!

nutty	Yes that cheathing b********!

babe	this happened before you were married so forget about the past and focus on the future with your husband hey no one is perfect not even you. stop letting the jealousy ruin your life . good luck after all he is with you not her so chill hon

chocolategoldnc1	The neat and clean answer is to get counseling together if you truly love him and want to work it out. But let's be real babydoll...this has put a dark stain on everything you have been building. Nothing will be good enough anymore and you will always wonder what else is he hiding. If that's how you want to live then go for it. But real talk, six years is a long time to build one thing and find out it's something totally different. And oh yes it is something different than you thought because now it is out in the open that it was all built on a big fat lie by omission........that you know of anyway.

sweetgranny06	if your UN happy then leave you know if you can stay in the marriage or not

hatchertammy	well you have to ask your self do you love him and can you forgive him if you cant forgive him then it will drive you crazy to the point that you hate him . i would no the same thing happened to me i stayed and now i hate him more then ever . so i had to leave

beenie 21	Leave run as far away as you can. Remember he is not honest what makes you think that there are no more children that he might have and he is not telling you or other woman. My advice run now quickly. In time you can find someone that is not a liar

brittinye007	leave him quickly.i have been in this situation just not married but i found out he had 2 more children and things only get worse and my mother had to put it to me this way she said brittinye if he will lie to you about something big like a child then just think of what else he lies to you about and could be hiding and in a way ur husband was not claiming his own child what kind of a man is that .leave him alone let it go i know its easier said than done . the good years that you have spent together will not compare to the long and hard ones you will face if you stay with him it will always be in the back of your mind and you will never fully trust him again .and then he cheated on you right before you got married long distance relationship or next door nighbors it doesnt matter a liar is a liar and a cheater is a cheater .I have been through it .yes its hard at first and you will go through some things but in the long run it gets better in the end and you will find that RIGHT person that was ment 4 you and will never decive you.good luck

SillyKimmie	Why does everyone tell this poor gal to get a divorce? Yeah, he lied to you, but if you truly want to get over something, you will. What difference does another child make? I think you can get over this, but that has to be your decision.

jeanschles	sweetie, if you love him, before you leave him why don't you try both individual and marriage counsceling? I wish my ex would have agreed to go, i think that it might have helped. At least it is worth a try. Good luck

Thomasina	Because you love him it is worth the fight. If he has not had a relationship with her since this child and you believe you can trust give it a shot. Maybe he was afraid of loosing you. I'm sure he is glad you finally know now. I say marriage is a lot of work but it is so worth it if you are both in it for the long hall. good luck

mrs_endless	Look the x may have been dating around too...so she may not have actually known who the father was anyway. Has you husband cheated on you in the six years that you have been married? If not.....then just get over it....but first make sure you ask him....if there are anymore children that you need to know about that is younger than 6......If he has been faithful, stay and work it out....He may not have found out that the child was not his for some time after it was born....and unless a DNA test is done I would not believe it anyway. Best of luck

DeAnn	Time heals all wounds. Hopefully he will forgive you for what you are thinking right now. Honeslty, you should be proud of him, at least it is with the same woman. It could be worse deary! Besides, men who get desert at home do not have to go out to eat! Apparently you are not satisfying his hunger if you want the truth! You may not know this but your not fufilling his needs is a form of abuse, and I think you own him a big apology and soon!

dms56blonde	It's hard when to call it quits when you really love someone. Even when everyone tells you to do that, him being dishonest and all and how can you ever trust him again. Possibly do you feel you can ever trust him again? Is he working hard to prove himself to you? Only you can answer these and other questions, but as I said matters of the "heart" are so hard to decide what to do. Ask your heart what you should do and listen to that.

Claire	Only you can know if you should leave him. But I agree, that major lie is a serious blow to your relationship. Now, the only advice I could have is to look forward and not stay "for the time you have invested with him". That time is not lost in any case. It has contributed to shape who you are now. You do not mention if you have children with your husband. They may be considered in the equation. Good luck.

â™¦ Phoenix Risingâ™¦	I don't know if I can tell you to leave himbut one thing is for sure, If he can be selfish and cowardly enough to hide the fact that he had another child before you got married, then you know he is not trustworthy or a real man! You need to come to your own conclusion about your marriage and your happiness.

Common Sense	Time heals all wounds.. You will forgive & forget in time..

swtlilblonde31	he hid it...for obvious reasons. I don't know if I would leave him but you should definetly get some marriage counceling.

atiana	sweetheart, I am so sorry about the situation you're in right now. and honestly, I think you already know what to do. I know that you can't get those years back that you spent with him, but you can get away from him and never invest anymore of your time in him. he kept something from you that you should have known about all along. the best thing for you to do is divorce him and move on with your life. I know that's easier said than done, but you are stronger than you think you are, and you deserve so much better than what he's given to you. just remember sweetie, you need to do what's best for you. I wish you the best.

zellparis	look i can tell you this and that is if a man keeps his child a secret then he is no real man i would not care how much i love you or our marriage the fact that he has a child that he could not care to see makes him a *********. in my book

raashi	Pl talk it over n dont make it public. Pl accept the reality. Atleast from now onwards the relatios should be transparent if still no solution{hope there will be}then be yr own judge n live yr own life.U still hve rest of yr life{can not ignore yr biological needs ,yr future life n also can not live with suspicion always. Therefore must talk it over n take it seriously /dont get misled.Dont show yr weakness,be strong to make ur husband realise n jion u in solving this problem.

Jay Jay	OMG!!!! liar liar pants on fire... What else has he lied about???

Private P	Leave him

Kass	A marraige that isn't completley honest is a shakey marraige. by hiding the truth, your husband probably knew that one day, the problems he tried to run from would catch up to him, and only create more problems. Had he been honest with you before, you would probably have been okay with the situation, and he would have been able to be a good father and pay child-support funds. I think what he did was quite deceiveing, but the choice you must make here is your choice. If you really, truly love him, then you might forgive his fault after a vigorous talk.

â™«You hate Cuz I'm a RockStar	Leave him.He was not honest with you about something very serious .he will lie,and lie again.

2Jaded	Been there, done that, run. It doesn't get better and you will not be happy. Sorry to be so blunt but that is the way it is.