Should I leave my husband??

ryan's girl	I think you already have made up your mind to leave him you just need some support from everyone else. Its not that you married to early, you just married to the wrong guy. There is a big difference. He is verbly abusive and it may get worse so I would get out of this situation before it get any worse. I hope i help you in some way. Good luck.

Montee P	When you said "I do" do everything to try to save your married before you walk away. Have you tried counseling?

?	As soon as you can. No kidding. It sounds like you are in a hopeless situation and it also sounds dangerous. Please get out,go home, don't look back. You have a life ahead away from what you're going through right now.

noname	If what you say is true then leave. Do you think you can make it a lifetime like this? Find you a man who will treat you with the respect you deserve. Life is to short to be miserable all the time.

BluePassion	Girl, call stop what you are doing right now and call your mother. Get that ticket and leave. You are still young. This man is emotionally abusing you. It will in no way get any better. He will always find something else to complain about you. You should still be in the honeymoon stage, what will it be like when you get to 20 years. Leave before any children get involved. I know it's hard, but you have to do what you have to do before you lose yourself in this man. Take it from me. It took 24 years of emotional abuse from my husband before I opened my eyes and got out. You have time. Love is not supposed to hurt. You deserve someone that will honor you and love you for who you are, not for who he wants you to be. Go back home, your mom is waiting for you. Start over.

Angelito	I don't know him, but according to what you explained he is not a good husband. You are young and have infinite possibilities to explore. Don't waste your time with him. Go back home, go to college, and enjoy your freedom!

Lancer64	People do not change. It appears your situation will only get worse. The next step will physical abuse. Call your Mother and get that ticket home. Look into getting your marriage annulled. Don't waste your life being unhappy and afraid. Act now!

tiggerluvnmom	You are deffinately in a very on healthy realtionship. You do need to get out as soon as you can because things wont get better no matter what he says you have to do to fix it you will never measure up to what his expectations are. If your mom is willing to help you get back home then i would take her up on it.

Scott Sullivan	Call your mom and cash in on that ticket, sweetheart. Send him the divorce papers when you get back to the States.

Tessa	Leave him now! Don't wait till things get worse than they are.

?	pack up now get out before you end up getting pregnant complicating matters more. the man doesn't care for you. start over while your still young.. be happy be safe...

Neil B	You're right - you got married too early. You got married before you grew up. "He has always treated me with disrespect" - why did you marry him? I don't like for anyone to get a divorce, but if you do, please do so before you have kids. And don't think that having a kid will make everything better. It won't.

GreenHornet	If you found it necessary to tell us all this and ask what to do, the marriage is already over. Go home.

aries:)	Tell him bye bye before he tells you bye bye!! then you'll be in deep sh*t. If he makes you feel bad and says disrespectful things to you eventually he will start hitting you. Call your mom take the airplane ticket and go home to your family and friends who make you feel good.

dea_7	Leave him now. You should NEVER allow anyone to treat you like that. Have a little bit more self-respect for yourself and get out. You are young and will get it over him. Go to college, get a degree and find a job. Believe me, you will find someone who loves you and respects you.

Lou Lou	Girl, go back home. He sounds crazy. Its not you it is all him. Call your mom and have her send for you. U dont need to be degraded like that, you are too young to be going through something like that. Hurry up and leave him before you get pregnant and have a baby with him. U will find someone who will treat you better. Trust me!

Alterfemego	Tough question. It's pretty obvious that neither one of you is happy. Have you tried consulting? The military may have some very good medical professionals to help you. You pledged vows to him and he to you. But you shouldn't have to put up with mental abuse. I would strongly urge you to seek marriage consulting first, if that doesn't help, then you may need to go home. Homesickness can add to the problem too,so think hard about any decisions you make. best of luck! hugs

robertdihno	This is definetly something that you have to decide yourself. Please dont make a decision based on what you hear on yahoo. Sorry that your having trouble.

Shanni	I would say leave hm, there are much better guys who wil treat you with respect. A reltionship should be good otherwise your wasting your time. I know its very hard, but I know what its like to be in bad relationships. I even got beat by my ex and I didn't see what was happening becoz i was in love, now i have the best relationship ever. Me and my bf been together 9 months. But no1 can make ur decision for you. Its all up 2 u!

Shelley R	He sounds very mentally abusive. Get out before it gets worse. You are only 20 years old with your entire life in front of you. It sounds as though you have your parent's support; and that will be an added bonus in rebuilding a life for yourself. Experience: 24 year of marriage on my part,...I am a licensed social worker...last but not least, our 23 year old daughter just moved back home after leaving a terrible marriage. [And we support her decision entirely.]

mikebrennan_us	I only had to read to where you said he didn't treat you with respect. What are you waiting for? You only get to live once run like hell and don't look back.

Natalieeee!	I would leave him in a heartbeat - you are too young not to be treated like a princess. This guy sounds like a mean control-freak and is trying to put you down to make himself feel good. Divorce him. You will be so happy. PS I was married at 22 and divorced by 25 and I am 33 with a great husband and two kids now and can honestly say it was the best decision of my life and I only wish I had done it sooner!

abeautyourstruly	Listen to this ive told this to so many of my friends and it has worked get urself hobby,get urself a job even if its part time,get urself to do something other then ur husband/ur home then u see how ur husband runs after u wooing u and he wants u back in his life treats u right with respect try it it will work has for all my friends!

:DD dls kid	Get rid of him hes a peice of crap. Tell him whos boss or leave. When hes gone in the military give him a surprise and leave for when he comes back.

Alec the Dalek	Wow, how did you ever find a gem like that? Split before he knocks you up. And fast.

Justsyd	Honey, call your mom, get the plane ticket, and be gone. No one deserves to be treated that way.

willow, the yodakitty from hell	kick this losers butt.....there is no excuse for calling you names and treating you this way....

cee	hmmmm, call your mom for that ticket, now that you are isolated away from family, things could take a turn for the worse.

jazbas@ameritech.net	The both of you need to get counseling NOW!