Should I let my bestfriend make the biggest mistake of her life?

br@ski	i dont think you can really do anything about it she has to make her own decisions

Loves the Ponies	A true friend is someone who will tell you truth, even if she knows that what she's going to say isn't what you want to hear. Sit down with her and tell her she just doesn't seem to be all that happy. Tell her what clues you have used to come to that conclusion. Maybe she'll come clean about how she really feels or why she's staying with this guy. Bring up her cheating incident and ask her why she would cheat on a guy if she really were so happy with him. Tell her you really like the guy, but you just can't help but wonder if he is the right one for her. Be sure to let her know you will support her decision, you just have this weird feeling that something isn't quite right between them Hope it works out for everybody.

Harleygrl	Give her an opportunity to talk to you about it, see what she says. If she says nothing, let it go. It's HER life going down the toitie.

bff is retired	Yikes! Sounds like she's got some problems if she's whoring around on her fiance. Honestly, she might just get defensive if you try to talk to her about it. I'd maybe say something once, and if she gets bad, let her make her own mistakes. Maybe she'll learn when she'd divorced?

White Choc Kay	say to her make sure your happy and not having a boy to make yourself look better

katesusanne	I say bring it up to her. Talk it out a little, but don't be pushy. Sometimes it's easier to see these things from the outside, maybe she doesn't even see it. Help her out.

Diva In New York	Let her be the hoe she is and keep your man away from her.

amy00	I would say something to her. If she is your best friend she will understand your concern. If she still wants to go through with it then you should stick by her. That is what friends are for.

Ela	Stay out of it, dont say anything. If she wants to get married then let her be. Hopefully she will come to her senses later on...

kgib808	i agree with kellie

Sheri M	I would come up with a tactful way of asking questions, like are you sure you are ready to be married, are you sure he is the One. Make it like a fun, I really care about you, kind of thing, not an interrogation or pointing out the flaws of the possible nuptials. She will get defensive if you do, and possible hurt the friendship.

Melissa	If you are her best friend then you should talk to her and be honest with her. Honesty is the best policy. Just because they are engaged it does not mean that they are going to be getting married anytime soon.

playas_girl01	best answer is since she's your best friend, BE HONEST! Let her know how you feel. Make sure you tell her ring is just a ring happiness is more important.

BabeHart	It's her decision. As crummy as the cheating incident was, perhaps that was what let her know he is the one for her (hopefully she felt crummy afterward). You, as a friend, can discuss the situation with her, why she cheated, how she feels about it now, how she feels about her fiance', and such but don't try to dissuade her from marrying...just help her to look at the big picture realistically, what she wants out of life, and if her current path can take her in that direction.

Busy Lady 2010	I would really talk to her. This decision is one of the most important of her life.

iamwhoiam	Tell her how you feel once. If she chooses not to listen, it's her problem not yours.

so alone	let her make her own decisions and stand beside her no matter what her choice...

Southern Girl	Personally I'd voice my opinion if I felt that strongly about it. I feel it'd be right to say something just because you are concerned, but not let it be a thing where you're trying to get her to do or not do something.

pebbles06106	I've been in the same position as you and I said something and now I don't talk to my best friend any longer, it's been two years. They got married and divorced but she and I still don't talk. My advice to you without sounding harsh......mind your business.

rocanlover	Give her your advice, if she truly loves this guy, then why did she cheat on him in the fisrst place?...Like I said give her a piece of your mind, and if she doesnt take it, then, oh well thats to bad....she is an adult, itll be her deal, shell have to learn on her own.

Nalady	speak to her that's what friends are for but let her decide out of your advice.

Pat	Sorry but I think you should not say anything. She will find out eventually if this is truly what she wants. Unfortunately she may have to go through it to find out it isn't right. Saying something could possibly ruin your friendship. Which is more important to you? Her friendship or her happiness?

Kellie	You have the right to state your opinion, but she has the right to completely ignore you... which is probably what she'll do. Honestly, it's probably pointless to say anything.

ltchirkov	I would say that you shouldn't interrupt their relationship. If he is not the one for her, she'll see it later, but if you going to say anything and then they will stay together, she might finish friendship between the two of you.

â™¥Spiders Squirting Sweetheartâ™¥	Sometimes you just have to let people make their own mistakes and learn from them. It is hard to just sit back and watch, but most of the time there is nothing you can do.

Britt	Oh god- stop her as fast as you can! That poor guy! She needs to fess up to him that she cheated on him. If she did it once she will do it again and he deserves to know what kind of person he is saying "I do" to. (if you cant tell I have a HUGE thing against cheating) I had a friend who also had a similar situation fortunatly she broke out of the engagement before walking down the isle. Some people get engaged and married just because they need security. Even if they aren't madly in love with the person. I would say something to your friend..or else you might regret not helping later. Sure she might get angry or upset- but woudnt that be worth saving her from making a huge mistake and suffering more later?

â™¥Ti Amoâ™¥	Well if she wants to pretend to be happy let her, it is her life and if she knows she is not happy and marries him anyways that is her problem not yours.

Sarah I	Let her know that marriage is ALL ABOUT trust. She made a mistake by cheating which is going against all the rules in the book. Just let her know, if she did not tell him about her affair she should so no lies are kept. Then it will be the man;s descision from there on what he should do. Marriage is a big step and she can't keep this up. Marriage is NOT a game.

scpathfinder	It would be okay to discuss your concerns with her especially in light of the fact that she just cheated on him. At the end of the day it is her decision and as best friend I would hope that you support it.

Randy	To "want" to change her life shows your unhealthy emotional state. You watch out for you, and advise her of your opinion... she has free will, and you shouldn't try and take that away, no matter what. Fix yourself, then worry about your friends.