Should I loan my ex wife money?

mystina777	Pay your alimony and if the kids need something -specific- that can't be paid for with the money you already give her, pay for that. Do NOT loan her money and expect to ever get it back. It is not your responsibility to help her and her new husband pay their bills. It is only your responsibility to make sure the kids you made with her are taken care of.

murphdogg4	hell to the no. If she's that hard up and wants what's better for the kids let them come stay with you. Women in general use their ex husbands like money slaves anyways, when we divorce a women and we have the kids we make ends meet and usually don't even force her to pay child support.

Czech Chick	That's a tough one. If they own a house, they could get an equity loan. Her husband will get EDD benefits. If the amount she is asking for is not a large amount, then it might be ok with a promissory note! Get a note signed by your ex. That way, if it is a large amount, and is not paid back, then you have recourse with a signed/dated promissory note. Good luck and God bless you.

memyslf&I	Kids come first if she is needing the money to make ends meet for things for the kids then you might want to consider helping for that reason only.

Naomi	I think you should for your kids sake, but have her fill out a prommisory note and have it notarized! I mean its ok to lend them money but you should get it back too!

shopsummor	if you have another family now, a new wife and children, talk to your new wife about it. don't do anything behind her back. even if you are going to do the opposite of what she wants still let her know. if you can manage it i would say give your ex the money if it's not too big a burden on you financially. make it clear to her husband you want the money back when they are working agian tho. let them write you a receipt for it and make it clear on the spot, a time frame in which they must repay it. let them know you are only doing it because of the children.

HB	kinda depends on the situation. is she good for it? is she a good person? a good mother to your kids? or is she a crackhead? if its a good home and all then go for it. sometimes people just get down on their luck. it'll be a good example for the kids too. but if you do.... dont rub her nose in it.

Emily Dew	I can see your point. Does the husband get unemployment? Does the ex-wife work? Do you trust her to pay it back? If you do loan her the money, make sure you work out a reasonable repayment plan.

Cdubya 1906	Don't give her money. Offer to pay a bill so that yo have proof that she isn't running game on you for money. offer to keep the kids more to ease the burden of feeding them if that is the case if money is that tight. If you pay child support, she shouldn't need anything else as far as the kids are concerned.

onychopagist	All depends if you have it to loan. If you have the money to spare that they need then do it, but let her know that you are not her personal atm or she'll be back for more.

a_lot_smarter_now	If you have it to loan, then you're showing your kids what kind of person you truly are by doing that. You ROCK! However, make sure you get a little "contract" typed up and signed by both her and him to pay you back. Have it notarized.

Marianne T	No. If you decide to "loan" her money, give it to her with the idea that you will NEVER get it back. You do what your conscience says. I think it would be embarassing for the new husband to have her ask you for money. This is a sad situation. Maybe you could help out instead by getting the kids some extra things they need. Then you know the money will go to help your kids. Good luck.

Jordan H	Yea, u don't want your kids to suffer but then she is with another man you can't be bailing her out all the time thats here man jobs to take care of the family. Besides what happens if he doesn't have a job next month? You could also try to take the kids off their hands for alittle while.

Romeo C	If you can lend a helping hand to a woman who onced cared for you then you should.

pookiemct07	Offer to take the kids until she gets back on her feet. That way, the kids are fine. You know you won't get that money back, right? I can't believe her husband would even consider letting her ask unless he wants to rip you off. Sorry, but you're not a bank. Unless you're really, really well off, I would say no.

Little miss Desert Freak!	hell no! let them work it out.if your kids need help with clothes.,food or other stuff buy it for them....but if you give her money you don't know where it's going to.

â™¥Alexis â™¥	I think you should, but make sure you tell her its only because of your kids that you're doing this.

2qt4u	ofcoarse you shpild help her out! no doubt about it! she has your kids! u need to help her!

Kitikat	I think it'd be a nice gesture, show your kids you care for them and even though it didn't work out with their mom you still care for her slightly, maybe....I'd write up a contract on the stipulations of how and when they pay you back.

Maiya W	yes for ur kids (just keep thinkin that and u will feel good about ur self and god will feel good about u too)

Judge Judy of Y/A	I think you should see if she can barrow the money from a bank or a "payday loan" place. If there is absolutely no one else she can barrow the money from then maybe you should consider it but I'd bet she can get a loan somewhere else. Also, don't expect to see the money back.

zj	no!!!!!

?	I think you should but don't do it for her do it for your kids.

SillierKimmie!	That's what her now husband is for, he needs to get a job or file for unemployment. It's not your problem. I doubt it's for bills and that your kids will suffer because of this. Don't let her pull this bs on you.

annie	yeah cause i know how it feels when my dad won't pay child support.

Abstinence_Education	If you can afford to do so. You may or may not get it back however. Can't she take a loan from the bank?

â™¥SummerRainâ™¥	Yes, if you trust her. She probably would not ask YOU unless she really had to.

i â™¥ Food	have a heart, you now what you should do

questionman	yeah, i think you probably should.