Should I marry again?

sun_shinevt	Is there any reason you have to get married to him? Why not date or be together awhile before taking the plunge again. I would definately wait awhile before taking the plunge again. No offense but it looks like you might have rushed into the first 2 marriages, the 3rd I'm not sure what to say on. I would say maybe down the road think about getting married but after 9 months of dating I think you should wait awhile before taking the plunge again.

Pooks	Hope?

tamarack58	I've been married twice and I love marriage. It's just I got married for the wrong reasons such as yourself. YES, definately be open to marriage again. HOWEVER: Give yourself a minimum of two years (three would be better) before you and your partner even mention the M word.

sean a	no i would say just stay like this for a while and if he is ready that's different and this is his idea go for it but if its just urs no i wouldn't cuz Ur doing great right now and Ur living to gather and he is with u so y do u right now need a piece of paper and a ring to justify that ur happy and in love and comfortable with this man ??? ur fine and it has only been 9 months

oh_jo123	why do you have to get married my BF has asked me more than 25 times to marry him and I say NO. I then explain to him that we are living a married lifestyle together why mess with it. My BF has been married 3 times 5 kids in all. I have been married once 1 kid only. Good luck

Karla T	No. If you are asking then you are not ready. However, it does sound like you are content enough to consider it. Keep the relationship going, fall in love and make him fall in love with you, but don't get married until YOU are sure. Plus sounds you could use some more time to fully and completely trust this guy (since you are still bitter about husband #3). You will be ready to get married when you are willing to say yes even if everybody else says no... not the other way around. Good luck, I bet you deserve it.

philosophy	Yes, if you are going to live with him, you need to be married tohim.

julvrug	Together only 9 months, take your time. If you question if you should attempt it one more time, make sure and don't rush into it. If either of you have issues from past relationships they will find a way to interfere with the current relationship. Work out your feelings of bitterness over the ex before you even think about marriage again. Talk it over with you partner and give it time. Never get married hoping things will be different unless you have healed yourself enough to know it will be different.

girl880	I belive yes you should if it will make you happy. Write down on a bank paper what went wrong the other times and just try to get arounf it. You sound nice and I wish you the besto of luck.

Big Rig	Consider professional help before you marry again. I suspect things have happened in your past that are causing you to choose the wrong men.

StarGazer	i hate husband #3...just wanted to get that off my chest. the question isn't what i think...it's what you think? hope this is the one? well is it or isn't it? that's why you probably got divorced the first two times. if you're skeptical about it now, how can it work. people should be certain when they marry...not just be married because it seems right. i know it wasn't much of answer, but i really think this is on you. good luck.

deevon911	just don't stop givin up the pu*sy and they won't leave you!

bellatrix	listen to your heart do what you think is best for you

aintlifegrand	I would highly recommend waiting especially if you have only been together 9 months. Why don't you try some marriage/couples counseling before you get involved in a commitment of marriage. Looks as if you may have some personal marriage problems. It takes 2 to make a marriage work.

mindseye06	Nope don't do it, people have this feeling they need to be married in order to be happy or something, just enjoy your freedom, travel, date, go out more.

tgibbyson	absolutely not!! you should consider living together atleast a few years before you marry. Moving out is alot easier than getting a divorce. You need to live together a few years before you really get to know one another/ habits, etc. Alot of times people will be the person they think the other person wants them to be, but after living together a few years, they have to be themselves, they can't hide who they are

jacquie	Yes and I'm sorry about your past but that's what it is, past. Maybe you should both go check out pre marriage counseling just to be assured you are on the same page. You'll be fine and I'm guessing you know what you want and if there are any doubts here, address them so you'll have no regrets or surprises later. How's your brother handling things now?

momofthree	Why not?It's your life!Good luck!

gail	no stay single u have done the marriage thing 3 times. stay away from it enjoy your life now.

red top	you seem to lose the fact of what marriage is all about you wpuld be better single

Sandra K	It seems like to you marriage is a sign that they "LOVE" you You can have a happier life with just being a couple. Is marriage that important to you? From your past 3, I would think so.

cjordan23	if all is good why bother...just go with the flow

Private P	You have to be in the clear, get premarital counseling, be sure for both of your sakes.

bubba	whatever you want to do, if you end up married 20 times isnt doesnt matter, its your life dont worry about everybody else if you have a chance of being happy then go for it. maybe its just been a longer journey for you to find mr right thats all.

romans_r_us	i think you really need counseling. Then a pint of brandy to chase your troubled mind into a room full of cheer.

DeeDee	Are you a glutten for punishment? Why do you halft to get married, evidently you dont have the best trck record what makes you think your all together now. NO DO NOT GET MARRIED

uteva713	Why ruin a good thing. I wouldn't get married again if my life depended on it. Unless it is goignt o ruin your relationship I wouldn't even think about it.

sunflowergal	if it feels right, and you truly love him, then go for it. You've "been there done that" enough times to know the different feelings, as you've described above. If he's not pressing marriage, i'd wait it out a bit.

Stefka	"I'm still bitter" jumps out in your question. Until you are able to get past the bitterness I would strongly suggest you do not get married. The past has to be dealt with and let go, first. Find a good counselor and deal with your anger and pain. Good luck.

keral	no hope