Should I pursue a younger married woman?

ladybyrd_20	You should really take it easy with her she seems really vulnerable and is probably looking for some security but don't let it ruin your friendship.move in slowly even if you have to ask her what her intentions are.If she wants more than friendship.She should kick him to the curb if he isn't going to help her now.he was all gung-hoe to help her make these kids and he would be helping me or getting out of my life so I could find someone to help.

aquarius_spa	NO sir, you are her friend, why do you want to be more? she is going threw enough might be a divorce. If you can't just be a friend to her, just step back for awhile , let her deal what going on in her personal life first.

m_cyberfriend	If you both feel you have soft feelings and are in love and you both can live a better life and She will be happy to be with you.. its a good idea to live a life together.. but true love must be there and not just the sympathy or any other feelings of exploitation of feelings from both side.. If human can feel good about anything between two its good to do that, rather than thinking of all moral and cultural values.. After wall society has been made to make people happy in organized way in general but all problematic cases are specific cases and any decision one may take should be taken in context of individual situation..

a.vasquez7413@sbcglobal.net	This younger Married Woman should be trying in having a serious conversation with her Husband, because they have two kids together, and for those kids she should find a way to communicate to her Husband about the problem that they have together and try to find a solution to it. Why did she come to you for solace, when she should have told this to a Woman friend she might have. My guess is that she is looking for a way out of her Marriage and needs another Man to help her out financially when she decides she wants out of the Marriage. You should stay out of her life, or you will find out that the only thing you should have done when she started telling you her problems was bow out of it.

Mon-chu'	steer clear of your temptations because they will turn your life and hers upside down. Bad, bad deal for sure.

Elle M.	wait til her divorce is final before pursuing anything.

Terrie	One word - DRAMA. Sometimes we get so bored that these situations might actually seem inspiring, but usually they are nightmares. If your children are grown - why on Earth would you want to start all over? Do you really want the hassles of a relationship with this woman when she hasn 't even let go of her marriage. Do you really want the title of "homewrecker" being applied to you? This is just NOT a good situation. Run away!

kbama	Are you nuts? ANd let's say she leaves the current - marries you and you tick her off - will she then decide its ok to replace you before she tells you? Honey, if they'll do it for you they'll do it to you. DUH!!!!!

Nora C	I think you should stay away from married women, young and old. You're divorced and she is not. Your kids are adults, her kids are still babies who need both their mom and dad. If her husband is not abusive towards her and her life is not in danger, then leave them to sort things out on their own. What are you doing in their lives anyway? You should be listening to her husbands version instead of hers.

Nena S	She is obviously very unhappy and would like to flee and have no problems...But she is married to someone else, so for your own sake DO NOT get into more problems...You are already involved as is. Remember, we are human and we tend to grab whatever is available and seems better than what we have now when we are sad or have problems. Sounds like you are being her 'support' right now....and that is dangerous. Some men also have this thing to be considered 'saviours' and to be seen as knights in shining armor, coming to the rescue of a damsel in distress. That would explain why you are attracted to the idea of pursuing her. I guess I'd say back off right now and see if she clears her head and decides what to do. When she is free of her husband and feeling better, you can evaluate if you can see her as something else. But not right now. Good luck!

dan	I'm in the exact same boat. Everything is the same she has little kids and mine are grown. Shes much younger but very smart for her age. I was just a friend that turned into a good friend then a lover. I'm soo in-love with her it hurts pretty bad knowing she's going home to a man who cares no where as much as I do. I would take her and her kids into my life in a minute. As far as marriage goes, I said I'll never marry again . But with her I feel that we would have a great marriage , so I would do it with her. She holds all the keys and has to open the locks and free him and unlock the chain on my heart. I feel for you brother.

Tweety	Apart from the fact that it would not be right to get involved with a married woman, it also would not be right to get involved with her because she is not in a good place emotionally to have a healthy relationship with you, on top of all the other issues she's dealing with. You can try to be an objective friend, but even that would be chancy right now.

mommyshake55	if you like her talk to her about it,BUT please dont do anything with her until she leaves him,if you like her that much then you dont want to add to her problems.Her cheating on her husband isnt gonna solve any problem, it will cause another.she is very vulnerable right now, dont take advantage of that it sounds like she has enough problems without you adding to it

believe in miracles	Stay away, remain only friends. She is still married and so you shouldn't get involved. Also, if you two get involved and she gets divorced and the husband finds out about you two you could possibly jepordize the whole custody issue.

Jenny T	Certainly not and I would recommend not being her confidant any longer due to the fact you are feeling romantically inclined towards her and your advise might be more on the self-serving side (with or with out intending it to be that way). With her child being only six months old she might be suffering from postpartum depression and may not be seeing things clearly at the moment. Also, if she is seeing things clearly (husband not helping and being distant) it might be he is having trouble adjusting to the tremendous change a child brings in. Maybe they are also dealing with some financial strain with have a new baby. Having a baby is a life altering situation that can take it's toll on a couple and put postpartum depression into the mix is could really make things trying for both parents. She needs time to adjust and try to work things out with her husband. If she does leave her husband in the future, has had time to heal from the experience, and you still feel compelled to pursue her go for it but for right now leave her be.

racermom	Cheating is cheating. The "reasons" are just excuses. She needs to leave FIRST then once she is ready for a new relationship you may have a chance. If she is so miserable she needs to leave before disrespecting herself, her spouse and the vows she took.

Brenda C	Dear: Should I pursue a younger married woman? Your coworker seems to be in end of a friend, someone she can vent her feelings out with. I suggest t you take it for what it is now. This situation make a women vulnerable, so take your time. By the way all therapist feel we need antidepressants. I would not take'em, obviously she is just having some family problems not mental problems. Good luck, me from Patillas, PR

Valerie	Starting a relationship with a person that is still married is about as stupid as you can get. You have grown children, that means you are no spring chicken. Shame on you! You should know better! You don't need to be asking this question. A grown man like you already knows the answer! BUTT OUT OF HER MARRIAGE and life!!!!! I hope her husband kicks your old azz.

sweetemtation_123	You are old enough to know better. Don't pursue her. SHE IS MARRIED!

sexy-star	Bad idea. I think its best not to cross that path. If she isn't married then it might be different. If the temptation is strong, keep your distance. It will look bad on you if they really separate and you are the reason for it.

Dino	Not just no, but HELL NO! It may be as you say, but she is looking for a friend to help her. If you want to be a friend then don't add to her problems by adding an affair to the list. Continue to be her friend, continue to be there for her, continue to be attracted to her (but don't share that with her just yet), and if her marriage fails then help her pick up the pieces of her life. If you two share your feelings, express them then, when her marriage to her husband has ended. Don't be so selfish as to make her life worse (it will make it worse, you know deep down that it will). Care for her the way you have been, but DO NOT complicate her life any more than it already is. Also, avoid the temptation to sabotage her marriage. That's not being a true friend either - that's your only role, keep it that way.

panamacityplaygroups	you should not be her reason for leaving her marriage. she is in a vunerable state right now and starting something would wrong. if independence is what she is suppose to be having then leaning on you is not helping her. leave her alone

Motorpsycho	Red Flag

km t	why go with someone who already has problems to bring into a relationship. Your asking for trouble. She is always going to be connected to this guy becuase of the kids, if they decide to break up and the "work things out" you'll be left behind in the dust then also how do you know if you hook up with her she isn't just looking for a way to get away from her husband (using you) don't do it.

Stefka	If you want to cause more chaos in her life then by all means, go after your selfish desires!!! She is her own problem and if you try to have an affair with her it will take her that much longer to figure out she is her own problem. STay out of her life and tell her to find a woman to talk to about her problems as it isn't your place to try to help her. GOOD NIGHT - wake up!

Maureen B	You should not be getting involved with a married woman....

[operatic stock character]	Definitely not!