Should I really leave?

dark juggalotus	leave him its not worth it he could give you a std.would you rather have that and an a--hole?im going though the same thing right now its hard even when there are kids involved

yousexythangyou	Listen i know it normal for a person to try to make amarriage work but if you love yourself you will not put yourself through mental abuse it is not healthy for you so you have to ask yourself you or him. the fact that he still wants to gaurd his passwords is a god indicator that there is no change in mind so don't fall for it. while i can sit here and share my beliefs they are only just oppinions you will ultimately do what is in your heart i just hope i was able to help in any little way possible!!

ineedtono	I THINK YOU KNOW THE ANSWER TO THIS QUESTION. BUT I'M HERE TO TELL YOU THAT YOUR EYES ARE SOOOOOOO UGLY IF YOU REALLY LOOK LIKE THAT IN REAL LIFE YOU NEED TO DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT -GOOD LUCK W/ YOUR LIFE

TrippleThreat	yes... he won't change... i recommend you leave him... although you may still love him, you need to realize that you can also do better than him... definitely don't just struggle through the relationship... i think you are making the right choice... leave him.

C H	I think you would really benefit from reading the following: Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood This book explains how we women have tendency to be co-dependents and sacrafice ourselves in order to be that co-dependent. Good Luck, but BUY THE BOOK

linda	I feel for ya... You are in a tough situation and one thats not easy. Have you tried counselling before you throw in the towel? Once a partner cheats it will always be in the back of your mind. If you need his email and passwords you don't trust him.... that's something that comes with time. But only you can make that decision.

hannahonelove	I understand about getting married and staying married, and I agree that is the way it should go, as long as their is no abuse. Ask yourself, if you would have cheated and gotten boyfriends on line, would be wondering if he made the right decision? I think that it is a wonderful thing that while you agreed to marry this man, that you do not become trapped in oppression and deceit just because this man says that is the way it is. Will you always be wondering who he is emailing or where he is when he gets off work? If so, than that is not a relationship, that is not trust, and he shows no love. I do think he may love you, but for a relationship like marriage, you do need love, unconditional love, love you can trust and count on no matter what... This situation does not sound like that. You did well by getting out, do not turn around now and take that abuse lying down!!!

marilynsplaytime	yes. The trust is long gone and he has made no attempt to gain it back. He told you he CAN change, but will he or will you be back here next year asking for the name of a good lawyer?

used and abused	i agree with all of the above. i kno u might have strong beliefs in staying together, but if u have nothing to tie yourself to him like kids, then get the heck outta there. he will continue to have relationships on the net, and may even continue to have them physically. ur only hurting urslef by staying with him, everyone has a gut feeling about everything they have to decide on, what does urs tell u to do?

angelcdm228	mental abuse is still abuse. if he says he can/will change and you really do love him make him prove it, but have your bags ready to walk away and never look back, if he doesn't change. if he cheated once he is more capable and apt to do it again, he has to build back that trust that he lost, and thats not easy to do! and if you do decide to walk away remember that it was for your own good, and for your sanity, it doesn't matter what your family thinks about your decision because you are the one that was living with him! (do you have kids-- if so spare your kids the mental abuse you have been through also-- just one more reason to leave) good luck!

Sandie L	alot of times a man will really want to change but they also know if you have forgiven them before, you will forgive them again, in the long run you will only drive yourself crazy wondering...wondering....wondering.....sâ€¦ its best to just cut your losses now and move on, better to hurt all at once with the pain of leaving him than to constantly keep yourself in pain for all the years to come with him...

JustMe	Yes you are. Life is too short to have to struggle through it. Life is hard enough without having to deal with the ahole you have. Leave and never look back. There is a reason why he wont give you the passwords.

hutmamma2004	no person deserves to go throught that over and over again. you are doing the right thing. there is no more trust . and he still continues to do this . he wont ever change no matter what he says,

Quasimodo	Won't give you the passwords eh? In a nutshell...what does that translate to you? Yep....exactly what you're thinking it means. Let me tell you this. It's alright to still have love for him....but trust is certainly taken a hit hasn't it? So....would you prefer to carry on with this relationship that has no trust? (I mean after all..he says he'll change but he refuses to give you the passwords. It won't matter anyway...he'll just use new names and passwords anyway). It's your life...not mine.

jarhead1937	get the freak out of there!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

kalsmom	You deserve better. Mistakes happen, you deal with them and move on. If he can't treat you like you deserve to be treated, then he loses.

Ms Curious88	Nothing's perfect no matter what you decide. You just need to be able to look in the mirror and know that you made the right decesion. Good luck.

wishingstar50	OK glad I'm the one got this question first and feel free to I'm me . You might want to hold on to him if you can get him into therapy that's the only way to save the marriage if you really want it. I'm a perfect example of what can happen . I was addicted to the net and I don't drink or smoke it sneaks up on you worse than any addiction .

ambys2k3	Run Blistful Run. I ran and I'm very happy.

Mz_AmanDA	100% you are right in my opinion, get out of there!

pacoficha	You can probably find someone who will treat you better, it may take time, but in the long run you will be happier.

cosaxteacher	I think you are completely in the right to be ending the relationship. Most families are ones where you 'get married and stay married' but how many of your relatives have had affairs? I bet not many if any at all. Go, find yourself someone who respects you and loves you.

Your_Star	You are making the right choice. He cheated on you...no one should ever cheat on someone they love. It's not right..and not fair to that person.

*mZgRoWNsExY*	Yes you shouldn't stay somewhere you aren't happy and your family will have to understand because it's your life and they aren't living in the situation. If he cheated on you already he will keep doing it because you took him back and he will feel like he can do it whenever he wants because you will be there to take him back. Make yourself happy and if leaving him will make you happy than do it because you deserve to be treated like the queen you are

monkeymustard	First of all, you ex giving you passwords to his e-mails aren't gfoing to do a thing, but get you mad. What good is it going to do you? Do you think that's going to heal the situation? does he have to give up a certain amount of freedom just so he can prove what?...that he's sincere about changing? Forget it. You either accept what he sais unconditionally, just like your beleife in marriage or you can walk. This is a no-win situation for you. The trust has been broken and now you want to "Lord over his privacy". That's asking to much and leads to a dead end. If you think that digging in his privacy, will lead you to an act of vengence, it's you that's going to get hurt. Besides, it'll be another job for you to watch him, an it's a waist of your time. Wake up to the reality that both of you have to move on and make some changes for yourself instead of being a gatekeeper for his trust.

Kittn	You are giving up on your beliefs and morals if you stay with him. Why suffer any longer?

Lady Rhianan	leave, once a cheater, always a cheater!!!!

glw	if you don't have kids, get the heck out of there. don't waste your life on that.

mi_gl_an	leave him