Should I turn in my friend?

James R	How do you know that she isnt doing the same thing at her bachelorette party? It seems like you want to spoil this guys fun because you werent the one he wants to marry...

jen	Tell her she may not beleive you but do you have proof set up a camera or something go on a boys night out, don't let her marry a cheater NOWAY! Tell her in a email that is the best way to do it that way he will have no idea who sent it and she won't either but with the proof is better otherwise go into detail so she will know that the person who sent the email was atleast there and did see something.

Adele C	It's very difficult, but if you tell her she may not believe you and he will deny everything, so you could end up losing both friendships. She probably knows he is gonna struggle to be faithful but is hoping she'll be able to change him. Let her get on with it and be there if it all falls to pieces. But never say you knew he was a cheater.

Kaiden&JordansMomma	Yes you should defiantly tell her. Do it soon too because obviously they have a wedding planned. Its not far for her to go into this marriage not knowing how he really is. Do it nicely and say something like (when you do it anonymously) : "my boyfriend was at the bachelor party and I heard him talking about it. I just thought you should know yadda yadda, because if it were me I would want to know. I don't want your fiance mad at my boyfriend so I cant tell you who this is...I'm really sorry but again I thought you should know."

Patty M	First off, you are a gutless coward for wanting to inform her anonymously. If you decide to share this information, and don't take credit for it, you are lower than low. No wonder you are torn. You have no ethics and want to destroy this relationship by throwing rocks from a place of hiding. That doesn't make you a hero or a friend. That makes you just plain pitiful. It is his fiance's responsibility to decide on whether she knows her man well enough to marry him. If you feel that there are gaps in her knowledge, it is not your responsibility to fill in those gaps. For all you know, she may already know about his philandering and doesn't care. You say she has no idea, but unless you spend 24 hours a day, 7 days a week with her, you really DON"T know what she knows and what she doesn't. Its none of your damn business, so just take a step back and let them figure each other out. You don't even know that she didn't do the same thing as he did. I suspect that you have ulterior motives for wanting to break them up and are looking for us to ease your conscience by justifying your actions. By the way, don't think that you can send an anonymous email and be perfectly safe. I know people that can trace back email to their source with relative speed.

Granny	Talk to her tell her what you know, then it is up to her whether she marries him or not either way you will have nothing to blame your self for if it all goes wrong.......

iyamacog	Depends on how deep your friendship is, &/or how she may accept your news. And in fact, you may lose her friendship over it. On the other hand, if you know in your heart that you'd be saving her heartache down the road, I would be inclined to let her know. It's YOUR call.

njunprincess	You will find that most the time when you try to be the "good guy", it always backfires and makes things worse. You already knew your friend was this way and never interviened in his relationships before. Now you know he's engaged and ready to marry, and still haven't done anything. Plenty of opportunities have come and gone for you to discuss this with your Friend. Whether it is for the good or the bad, things always work out for a reason and I would definitely keep my mouth shut. It will cause more harm than good on your end. Trust me, I went through it.

bluegrass	I would tell her...wouldn't you want to know if it was happening to you???

jk1967	just tell him cause if he is cheating right now he more than likely will cheat on her again.

a.tex	I would want to know. If he's cheating on her now, he probably won't stop after they are married. How are you going to convince her you're not making it up without her knowing it is you? The fake email address is a good idea, but if you give details, she will know it was someone at the bachelor party.

uknowit	No way. I wouldn't tell her. You are the one whos going to be blamed NO MATTER what. You can't tell me that she doesn't already know what kind of a guy he is ...

True	I think you have a crush on his fiance. I would stay out of it. You may think she doesnâ€™t know already, but she does. When a man cheats in secret, itâ€™s harder for the woman to find out. But if heâ€™s putting his business out there for all of his friends to see, then deep down inside she knows heâ€™s a cheater and is still going through with the wedding. Plus, if he continues cheating throughout the marriage then he deserves to have half of his money taken from him. What you should do is explain that to him to see if he'll wise up.

pauljpray	Man LAW. You interested in the wife to be? When he cheats not if, she will find out, but you should bring it up with your friend about his behavior and marriage thing.

I Love Bondage	okay, i would just tell her. especially if you are friends. if she don't believe you, that's her decision but at least you won't have a guilty conscious. you may lose his friendship but he doesn't sound like much of a friend

D block	yeah i say do not turn snitch on your friend but I'm not sayin don't warn his wife either I'm just sayin give another two days or so and if she doesn't see it go with your plan and do the e-mail thing.

Anna Banana	Personally, I would want to know. But, how thick is she? I would think you could detect that minor flaw in someone's character. It's not that easy to hide something like that.

Dude	Good idea on the fake email address. I would do it because someone needs to know and you want to keep your friend. Be prepared though. He'll just deny it and she'll marry him anyway but at least it's her decision and not on your conscience.

Quiet Curiosity 1970	A responsible friend would talk to the fiance about his past track record. However, do not count on remaining his friend afterward. And if you choose to do so, do not use the fake email idea. That is the coward's way out of responsibility.

bsbrulez92704	well i think she should have known he was a cheater before they got engaged but if not u should tell her about this little incident but then again some ppl dont wanna know.

Marina	DO IT! This woman deserves to know that she is marrying a man that does not truly love her. Tell her ASAP, and thank you for having a conscience!

Heather	I would definately tell her....dont let this poor woman go into a fake marriage and bring a poor child into the equation. Don't you think you would eventually feel bad when this happens and you have to sit and watch knowing inside you knew the whole time?? Please tell her..

dolce	Tough call. As a girl, I would want to know. No one should get married to someone who can't ever respect their spouse and it definitely sounds like he doesn't love or respect his fiancee. I'd say an annonymous note or email might be the best bet, otherwise it could ruin a friendship. BTW - why bother being friends with such a scumbag?

Jami W	It's really a tough situation. You need to follow your heart on this one. I feel like she should know, but at the same time do you think she really wants to know?? This is a very happy time in her life and it will absolutely crush her. I think it's better for you to find out before she is married, but again as yourself if you think she WANTS to know.

Tina	She needs to know now. She also needs to be checked for STD's & AID's! Don't let her marry this @ss

apples	yeah i'd wanna know BEFORE i married the loser.

.	Yes, tell her ASAP. Divorces are expensive, not to mention emotionally taxing. And it's doesn't work like the way you think it does - she doesn't "get" half of his money if they have a child. It's far too complicated for me to get into here but suffice it to say that you're not even close to getting that right. A divorce with kids is even MORE labor-intensive than a divorce without kids.

â™¥Sabreâ™¥	I would let her know what she is getting herself into only because I hate cheaters!! Send her an annonymous email or something telling her about it