So, you see your buddy's wife out with another man...do you say anything to him? To her?

balvanera2306	Stay out of it. Your friend's wife may change her mind about her boyfriend & dump him before her husband finds out. If she keeps the affair up, soon or later her husband will find out without you telling him. If he does find out that his wife is cheating, be there for him for support.

lizzibell	My husband told on his best friend. They had been friends for over 8 years,now they haven't spoke for over 2 years. He said if he had it to do over again he wouldn't have told.

â™¥ jojo â™¥	He deserves to know the truth and a real friend would not sit back and watch him take a hit by finding out too late. send him an anonomous letter or something. So that way he will have the choice to intervene if he doesn't already suspect something to be going on already. Good luck.

suzanna2224	Tell!! It only backfires if you keep it to yourself. And if it was you, wouldn't you like to know??

cascade_waterfall04	talk to his wife first and let her know what you saw. and tell her to come clean with your buddy.

Garfield	Say something to her first. Your buddy may not believe you if you tell him and it could cost you your friendship. Of course, if he's told you he suspects her of cheating, then I would tell him what I saw.

polockpete40	Ask her if you get a turn

eddie9551	NO! It's not your place to get involved. Don't say anything

the Goddess Angel	When you see her, make a effort to speak to her. If she scoots away, the space she was in was inappropriate and you can speak to her later if that is the type of relationship you have with her. I would complete the conversation with, "Tell husband I'll be around to see him tomorrow." See what that does!

sherylmca	There's only one thing that you can do first of all talk to the wife to find out if she was really cheating. You never know who the person was that she was with. If you really have to say something then talk to her find out why she is cheating and see if you can help her. Secondly never tell your friend but be there for him when he finds out. I am a firm believer that everything that is done in the dardk will eventually come to the light.

loveandwar	Am I my brother's keeper? Yes! I'd introduce myself as a close friend of the family--giving her a stern look making her know that she better get back to me asap with an explanation. I wouldn't want to see a marriage messed up...a family destroyed---knowing I could've done something about it beforehand.

Peaches	WTF

Vee	Absolutely not! One never knows the conditions and rules of others relationships.

ksgohard	NO. Nothing! Nada. None of your business. If it meant to be found out, then it should not be from you. Keep your friends. Ther're grown folks, I'm sure they can manage without your personal input.

Delta O	No. Matters of the heart are very sensitive and your buddy may not thank you for it. If it bothers you that much, then I think it is safer to confront the offending spouse and urge him or her to stop her affairs. He or she may reflect on this inappropriate behaviour once they are aware that someone else knows about their secret.

preciousmoments1962	you should tell him

craig m	Tough one. I would maybe keep quiet if this is only once. If you feel you must say something I would maybe say it like you didnt think it was anything, make joke out of it: " hey I saw <wife> with <guy>, cant you control her!" it will give him an out if he doesnt want to talk -- he can just 'laugh'.

Simply Lovely	If it is my best friend, then I would already know she is stepping out on her husband. People need to mind their own business. You can something to the person you saw, but not their spouse.

sobrien	OH MY GOD MIMORCY MARRY ME! you know the block like the back of your hand!! YES TELL HIM, or suffer the consequences and guilt. maybe they are just friends, btu most likely not. dont say "your wife was cheating on you" say "hey, i say (her name) at (the place) with some guy" he will respect your loyalty.

AZmama	To her, and ask her flat out if you have reason to believe she is cheating. Tell her you expect her to tell her husband about the situation. While you may want to let him in on what you saw, it could also potentially cause problems in your friendship with him. If she is creating marital problems, it is her responsibility to own up to them. If it were me, I would talk to her, not him.

wlm71	Ouch - that is a horrible situation. I would let her know that you saw her (if she doesn't know that) and tell her that she needs to tell him or you will. Give her time to do it but I would not ignore the situation. Good Luck!

Catt	I hope I have one of those camera phones, then with proof ya, for sure. No proof, I would try to feel out my friend and see if he knew she was there with this person, but in the end, ya, you got to tell. I would just kind of make it a comment, not waiting for a answer. Like I saw What'sherface at walmart yesterday, started to talk to her but she was with some guy I didn't know, and I was in a hurry, so I just kept on going.

ginalhannon	You never saw anything.......

â™«	Talk to your friends wife, and ask her if it was a date. If it is, you should tell her that she needs to tell her husband what is going on. If it isn't, then just let it go. She has a right to be out with a friend, and it doesn't mean that your friend has to tag along.

twentythree	always, always, ALWAYS mind your own business...these things get messy and you'll find yourself in the middle...i would approach the woman, tell her you saw her and the other guy and that she needs to speak to her husband about it or you will...tell her you do not like being in this situation but you cannot let your friend be taken advantage of and hurt

godsgirl	It depends on if they are going out as friends or as a couple. I would ask her about the nature of her relationship with this "other man". Maybe they are just friends. Don't assume anything. Doing that could ruin a friendship.

arsenic	mind your buisness. never say anything.