Stay at home mom...I do everything, I feel like my husband does nothing...Am I wrong??

Tristan	Save up a few used diapers, and put them all over him when he is sleeping. Let him wake up to reality and then have the chat with him.

Laura E	If you're not communicating with your husband about this, he may assume that you're happy with the current situation, so set a time to talk with him and tell him what you'd like him to do. And if he's anything like my husband, be SPECIFIC with him! :) Not "I'd really like you to help more" but "I need you to ... (fill in the blank)." A couple other thoughts: 1) if your husband grew up in a home where his mom did everything and his dad did very little, that's what's normal to him. 2) Many men are uncomfortable with babies and feel more confident with older children. Good luck to you ... you're doing a wonderful thing being home with your children!

OK Faith	wow, i stayed home with my girls for 9 years and my husband didn't do **** around the house. if he would have done all the work in the yard AND a garden then i would have been thrilled. he would leave at 4 in the morning and not come home usually until dark. he would stay gone all weekend from sun up to sun down as well. i'm not trying to say you have no right to be upset because i don't know the real situation but it sounds like you're pretty lucky to me.

Nena S	Dealing with kids all day is exhausting; nobody can deny this. But if you start acting like this ....and greeting your husband with a sour face as soon as he comes home, chances are he will start arriving later....and you don't want that, do you? Children are a lot of work; and if he is a good dad and husband then get creative and see what you can come up with so you two can have more "couple-time"...! See if relatives can babysit once a week, and go out with your husband. I understand your point of view; but it also helps to try to put ourselves in the other person's shoes so we can see how they feel. How do you think HE feels after working all day and coming home and finding his wife in a grouchy mood? Food for thought.....Hope you can find a solution to this. Life is much more pleasant when we live in peace!

lady_phoenix39	You said you "feel" like he does nothing.... then you say he : Works Brings in the only income (which allows you to stay home with your babies) Does all the yard work Spends "A LOT OF TIME" with the older child....... So why are you feeling as if he does "nothing"?????? There are some ignorant people in the world who would say that because you are a stay at home mom that you do "nothing".....but we know that is far from the truth. If you would "love some help during the day" have you asked him for it? How do you know what he "expects" if you aren't talking about it?????? You really have no right to be upset because he IS helping....he's just not doing what you are doing. What I hear you saying is that you would like a break from the same old, same old....so ask for it. He's probably tired of his day to day routine, too. Why don't the two of you get a weekend away? You need a break, where you can reconnect, just the two of you.

CupCake	Girl !!!!U have what i wanted in my ex husband.. let me tell u this.. and please listen to me okay .. 1st my ex husband was very lazy... He didn't help me in nothing.. When baby was born he didn't want to feed her. change diapers give her a bath nothing... he want it easy .. he never cook for me or clean the yard. what i'am trying to say is that .. your man sounds like he trying all his best to keep him family happy by going to work bring the bread on table. play with the kids. maybe he is not good with the baby. at time daddys gets cold feet to take care a little one.. But i know deep down he is happy your being the mommy and letting u be you.. let him.. he will come around. I say to start ask him to help you with baby laundry or help u fix a baby bottle little by little.. be patience mommy. I know is hard.. i'm a single mom of 2 kids i wish i had my ex husband to clean my yard all what u say... Be patience.. he is bring the money to have your home peacful and beautiful stop fighting is not heathly either.

luap	You sound like a spoiled child,grow up.

galichealer	Have you tried talking to him about it.

Scott M	Jeez, don't married couples talk about things anymore? Talk to him about it,he might not even realize he's doing it. You're getting mad at him, and he might not know why.

gary c	OMG, never fails! Every day I am reminded why I married a Ukrainian woman. You are a whiney, spoiled, sniveling nag.

I â™¥ Cheerleading	Well, just kindly ask him if he would mind having a specail time put aside for the baby and your other child. My dad never really did anything with me either, but, without him, imagine where you'd be.

Nora C	I bet it makes him proud to see you doing your best for the kids. Moms know best. What does a dad know about caring for babies? Get him books on infant care to read. Get a nanny if you can afford one.

ohioconservative	I gave my wife 2 nights off a week and some weekend time to go have coffee with a friend or whatever. You will go nuts with the kids all day and night.

drifter69	yes he does work his 8-9 hour day or whatever it may be, but you are working twice that. He should be putting an hour or two in every day to help. You need to talk to him about sharing the workload.

pica858	You need some time away from the baby. It is not an issue about who does more of what. It is called MENTAL BREAK. Talk to him about it. Let him know you do really appreciate everything he does.

mary	that's something you should done before. to teach him so. women who do not work outside of house, their husband expect that they should do everything for the baby. it is normal .so get out and work outside and you get more appreciation.

Leelee	Not helping?! He's supporting you so you can stay home and he keeps up the yard and plays with the kids. WTF more do you want? You're being whiny and demanding.

jaded	stop it right now. you are being unrealistic. men are not as interested in babies as women are. develop an attitude of gratitude, and dont complain. praise him for everything he does do, over and over, and thank him. you are mad????? shame on you.

Isabelle	Hello!? He's working, providing for you and your family....It is just normal that you take care of the rest! I mean if you were both working it'd be different but you are a stay at home mom...Your job is to take care of the household and the kids!

Meg	Communication honey.... first off bottling that up inside will only cause tension, you need to just open up to him and be honest. He married you because he loves you , and im sure he'll do anything to make you happy. Just tell him where you're coming from, sometimes guys are obvious to the fact that women dont have 10 arms.

suzieeswim	tell him you'd appriciate more help, but it seems like he's doing a lot more than many fathers (but many fathers don't do anything!). Try to tell hima few specific chores that would lighten your load but not completely throw off his scheduale. try to assign things that are hard for you to do with the baby.

LISSA	communicate this with him not us. He can not fix it if you do not tell him. despite what women think our men can not read us. only women can read women. Talk to him and just tell him that you need a break, you need a long bath or nap or to just go shopping alone, you know that he works hard but he gets to leave work and you do not get to leave home, just talk to him. communication is what keeps a family together. Good luck

vis	he works and you sit home and do everything.. don't seem fair.. go out and get a job .. put the children in child care..than ask for his help around the house.. oh yeah help him in the yard as well.. then everything is 50/50 as it should be.. i think you have it pretty good

Melissa	Men are weird when it comes to infants. They don't get involved really until they are older. He may think he's helping out by spending time with the older on, working, and doing yardwork. If you need him to do more, ask him for something specific... taking the baby while you go shopping or with a friend. Or while your making dinner ask if he can tend to the baby or take the kids for a stroll.

2Westies	I'd say you should be happy ... you husband works so that you can stay at home, he loves his kids, spends a lot of time with the older one, does all the yard work. Do you have any idea how lucky you are? Read some of the post on YA from women who are desperate because they have loser husbands who are cheating, drinking and abusive. Take care of your baby and be thankful.

Bambi	If you want to get him more involved, just sit him down and have a talk about it. See if you two can make a comprimise where a few times a week he has the baby for a few hours and you can chill out. Tell him how you are concerned that he's not spending enough time with your bub, I mean it's important, he might regret it later on that he missed out on the early years.

Jordan M Ø´Ù¡Ù©Ù§Ù¦	Your job is at home....His is wherever he works. Do you help him out with that? You see "stay at home" mom may sound as though you are Special, but it's real hard work. Get a job, put the kids in Day Care and now you can say both of you are bringing an income into the household, so the work must be shared. Was the 2nd baby planned? Maybe he doesn't spend time with the baby because he wasn't real excited to have another one with only one income.