The hurt I'm feeling right now is indescribable.?

spiffy	Yikes, he's just got cold feet. If I were you I would give him some time and I would TRY not to react too much (yes, it's VERY hard). Was it his idea to get married? Does he feel pressured to tie the knot again? Why not just let him know how much you care about him and how much this has hurt you. Then give him some time and space (not too much though) and stay in touch with him but don't pressure him to see you in the mean-time. He hopefully will come to his senses.

mikestatic1	Write him a letter and let him know exactly how you feel. Don't mince words and don't try to protect his feelings. Just let it out. You'll feel much better after you do so.

Leah	ouch that must be painful. Im sorry. Just take your mind off of him for a couple weeks, for example go on a small vacation just by your self but nothing that cost to much or just do stuff that makes you happy and activities that you like, like shopping, tennis and stuff...

crb_1983	He might just have cold feet!!! Give him some time. If it is more the cold feet, nothing but time and prayer and some good friends will m,ake you feel better! Good luck sweetie!

Vegas	Talk to him and try to work it out. He's probably just scared but if you can prove to him that things will be OK maybe he will re think it.

lifesucks	Girl consider yourself very lucky,at least he did not get married and then realize that u are not the one .That would have been your second divorce.

nick f	Ok, hurt heart I feel for you. But what has happened here is you have saved yourself years of heart pain. Just because the love of unbound relationship was very good doesn't mean the bound relationship will. This could have very well been a bad marriage situation. Marriage takes extreme maturity to work well or at least a tone of luck. One must give and take compromised forgive forget and be assertive at the right times. Be well in know as time goes on the pain will fade and another will fill that space.

Why breed with pets in need?	If he's saying that he still wants to be with you, just not get married right now the turn that frown upside-down!! He still loves you, he's just being honest, and trying to avoid doing something that could ruin things. Marriage = Hell.

..;;..;;..;;..;;..;;..;;	you were probably not suited to each other in the first place.I know this isn't what you really want to hear but you are one step closer to finding someone that is perfect for you by not being with him.sorry to hear that tho!

Jenna W	As cliche as it sounds, Time....there really are not any instant fixes for anything as big as this. In time you will slowly accept it and find ways to move on. Just don't put a time limit on feeling better.

sHanNa	There is no "way" to get over......only time will make u feel better. cry as much as u want, sit home and do nothing as much as u want....once ur over the shock and hurt of eveyrthing everything will start to fade...... just remmeber be paetient. good luck

Soldier	Find stuff to keep yourself busy. Get a new hobby that has nothing to do with him and be thankful he did it this quick instead of waiting until the wedding day or later.

?	I swear - it's this whole year. Every since January 2nd or something like that when we hit the 13 cycle of the sun, I have heard of nothing but relationship heartache - (including my own). I cant answer why he did that........(Hell if I knew I would be answering my own question). Don't know what to tell you sweetie..........Just hope that we get out of this year fast.

aunt_webby	it will take a long time to get over it but some chocolates and an ice cream will help !

Eggroll Jenkins â„¢	Contact him and get an explanation.....that was really weak of him to break it off in a letter....he's not man enough to say whats on his mind. At least you found this out sooner than later....

Joker734	zormis is an **. similar thing: fiance put us on "break". how do you go on "break" with someone you're marrying?! rolls eyes* hunny, you're too good for him. find someone worth your time and who is as ready to marry and spend life together as you are. its what you deserve

physicsmom04	I think you already know the answer to this - especially since you've been divorced before. Calm down, focus on yourself right now, and stay away from this guy for a while.

JoJo	He got cold feet is all. Give it a few days and see if he's ready to talk it through. Keep in mind though: if he's genuinely not ready, there's not a lot that can be done to change it : /

misscrb2000	Only time, and you also need to understand his feelings.

dreamweaver	well at least he did this now and not later give him time if you love him that much

rkrell	As you know from having been divorced before getting over the hurt is hard. The only consolation in this instance is that he realized this before you got married and not after. Just focus on your life and moving forward. I'm sure there is still love out there for you to find. :)

katydid	It will take a while to get over the hurt but be grateful you didn't marry and THEN find out he wasn't ready for it. Your daughter deserves more stability than that would have provided. Take your time, take care of your daughter and be sure to take care of yourself. Good luck.

tC	If you really love him just give him time.

Andi	listen to some upbeat music! that usually helps me =] good luck

Red	Sit down and talk with him, but don't be angry with him. It hurts for you, but imagine how it feels for him to. He's probably just as hurt for hurting you, and the truth is he probably wants to get married, but is nervous. Sit down and talk with him.

megansm1975	Only with time! I'm sorry..I hope things work out for you!