Therapist is making me feel guilty about leaving abusive husband, how do I get through this?

finaldx	I must say I agree with the other people that this therapist is in need of license censure or termination. You should first while your husband is not around, contact the local battered women's shelter. Document every instance of abuse toward you or your child, either physical or verbal. Develop a plan to financially secure all you can before making sure you and your child disappear from his life in one bold and solid move, only answer his interrogatory papers through your attorney. You may need to move far away, do you have family in some other state? If you do not do this and soon, it won't be long before you will be witness to him doing this to his daughter. And if you DO allow this to happen to her,you, as well as he, risk losing parental rights.

pixiedust	Does your therapist know this much detail about the abuse? If so, you need a knew one. If not, that's why she's telling you to give it more time. I think you need to move out & if you feel your life will be endangered by doing this, than file for a restraining order. It's also unhealthy for your daughter to see/hear the abuse. Protect yourself & your child - move out, your husband can take care of himself. In the meantime, look into your own attitude, your comment about the wedding - it'd be a shame if your daughter wasn't in it etc - is a little overbearring, that's not your husbands call, so don't nag him about stuff that's not under his control. But that's still no reason for him to lose that much control over himself.

tamara s	yesssssssssssssssssssssssssssss leave before he hurts you or your daughter. or some thing worse.

Bonnie L.	Get out of there fast and don't look back . And as for the therapist HE / SHE doesn't have to live with him or the abuse, leave him , and tell your therapist to go live with the abuse . Kick them both to the curb !!!!!!

Joanne B	Get out now and find a new therapist. 12 years is more than enough chance.

zzHoUnDzz	I would leave no matter what anyone said or put him out.Dont listen to that therapist,,a good therapist wouldnt tell you to take that abuse or wouldnt want the child in harms way..You & your child could be hurt or worse.And the mental abuse will harm the both of you.I think once you are away from him,,you wont need any therapist.

angel	ya take your daughter and leave like find a shelter or somethin cause it sounds like he really will hurt you dont wait to find out it could be to late by then please leave i am truly concerned hope this helps

Poppet	Run. Run as far away from that man as far a humanly possible. Take your little girl with you, and NEVER visit that therapist again.

Ginger Sling	Please call alcohol anonymous. Go to a meeting. Once you stop drinking and start thinking more clearly all the right answers will become very apparent to you. Please go right away. If you feel as if you are in immediate danger at home - get out. Go stay at a women's shelter until you get things sorted out. Good luck and God Bless You.

my middle name is danger	take your daughter and leave his *** go some where that you are safe and once you have left file for divorce get out while you still can before it gets worse ............people don't change

Debby B	Intimidating isn't he- if he keeps going on w the anger he will probably be physically abusive- is the therapist working on his anger issues- and you knowing how to push his buttons- if not she should be- maybe you need a different therapist- if he ever lays a hand on you- get out the door and to a womans shelter- fast!!!!D

General Custer	Unless you are purposely leaving out important facts you need to see a different theraphist.

christy	you should find a new therapist & leave your husband asap

tigger_cat05	Please leave..you child doesnt need this and neither do you...did you realize,by exposing your child to this type behavior...your child will probably grow up to marry an abusive spouce...if it is all she has known and been around...and I know you dont want this... Its hard to leave someone you have been with for that length of time...but wouldnt it be harder to watch your child suffer....??? Please go stay with a friend or relative,... The therapist doesnt sound as though she is considering whats best for you...but rather taking the approach of trying to save your marriage..which..if there was NO ABUSE involved would be a great idea...but otherwise she needs to realize what she is trying to talk to into doing... You dont desearve this hon....your child dont either...

robertm220	1)Take your daughter and LEAVE! 2) notify the police 3) get a restraining order 4) find a new therapist 5) report the old one

FairChild	oh dear. first off your thearpist is a flaming idiot. and should be shot for telling u stay with him. get out. and run as far as u can. call the cops.

wickedkiwi	1. that therapist is a retard!!! 2. i say you leave him imediately and call the cops on him!!!

Royalhinney	Leave the abusive husband and find a new therapist.

magicallybeautiful10plus	Report your therapist and get a new one. Yes get out while you still can and make sure to take your daughter, if you don't your sending a message to her that she has to deal with a man like her father.

Darcy	OMG hunny you need to leave ASAP.......take the kids and yourself far far away from this horrible situation. This is not a marriage, this is not what love is about.

brand_new_monkey	Change therapists. They do not know everything, and if they're giving you advice that is clearly wrong, find someone else. If you think your husband is going to hurt you, leave him now. Don't wait until it happens. You can file for divorce anytime. Plus, many people get upset once you file for divorce from them and that will make things worse for you if you havnt moved out.

askaway	i would be leaving....and also finding a new therapist....put some distance between you and him.....at least that way he cant hurt you....and if he does change then you have a choice to make......i would not give him any warning....let him come home to a note from you and a empty house....think about yourself and your daughter only....

bead2much	Yes, leave him. He does not treat you good. If he loved you he would not tswear at you and tell you the things he does. You would be better off without him even if it is hard at first. Honey you are worth being treated better. Leave now, you cant divorce untill you have lived 1 year apart anyways. When I left my abusive partnet he went out for a fishing trip. I called my dad and uncle. 1 hour and 2 trucks later I was out of there and I never looked back with regret.

catintrepid	See a lawyer about the timing of leaving, and start getting ready to leave as soon as you can and as soon as your know your legal rights. THERAPISTS AREN'T ALWAYS RIGHT!!!!!!

flavorlicious	your Therapist needs to get fired and lose her licensce **** people that verbally abuse................ go to somebody else

lizisbored	1. Leave husband 2. Fire theropist 3. Hire new one, and call your mother or close friend to help you. 4. Finalize divorce.

Your Best Fiend	Leave. Get a new therapist.

free_angel	Tell that therapist to go **** herself. Leave and don't bother telling him you're going.

asholee63	okay if the relationship is abusive in any way, u shuld get out if it