Was My Stepdad mean and abusive? sorry this is long?
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Was My Stepdad mean and abusive? sorry this is long?
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i think that my Stepdad (my moms soon to be ex husband) was really mean and abusive, but i wanna see what other people think. My sister and I were 12(me) and 9 when this all started, and now were 18 (me) and my sister is 15. My mom was dating this guy for about 6 months and he proposed to her. he seemed to be a nice enough guy so we were happy for her, but after they got married everything changed. My stepdad became really controlling, he started shutting the power off at night to mine and my sisters rooms, and my sister was scared of the dark and she would cry at night and stuff. He made her cry all the time, and was always telling us we were rude and disrespectful kids, and that everyone elses kids deserved to be treated right but we didnt. He would shut the internet off to our computers and we couldnt do our homework cause you need computers for it. He would yell and scream at us, there was rooms in our house that he used to keep locked up so we couldnt use them, we lived in a huge house, and we were only really allowed in our rooms, we werent allowed to have a dog, or christmas lights at christmas, he would spy on what we were doing around the house, and blame my sister and I for anything that went wrong around the house, and expected us to clean up after him and my mom. We had to have seperate family vacations to our place in florida, and up north and stuff, because he didnt want to be anywhere near us, and didnt want us included in the family and he always treated me and my sis like we were awful people even though were not. My sister and I are nice people and have lots of friends and family who love us and think were great, but my stepdad never took the time to see that. Even now that my mom is getting divorced from him he's blaming us for that saying that we tore their marraige apart.. I dont think its fair what he did to us and how he controlled my mom and made her too scared to do anything about his actions, he never physically hit us that I can remember but i think its still abuse
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SugarStar
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That's isn't really abusive, but REALLY MEAN. Abusive would be burning you or electrifying you when you do something wrong or stabbing you with a knife. |
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gorgilicious-pmoz
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yes |
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rachel
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well its not abuse but he is a nasty t*at. |
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Kristy D
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that is clearly mental abuse. you are lucky for getting out of this.
i went through the same story with my real dad. |
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Magnum Heaven
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SEND THAT LITTLE fvk TO THE POLICE NOW! |
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raphajr56
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it is probably not major abuse but it is still abuse. at least he is gone yer? |
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John
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This is very sad. |
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s t a t
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yes that is mentally abuse. im glad hes out of your lives now. |
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Alex
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He touched you didnt he |
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oscarboi
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it doesnt sound like abuse it just sounds like he is a horrible nasty ****
he will never be in your life again and u can move on and never look back
good luck |
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urfriendfrlife
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It is emotional abuse. Your mother should sue that man! |
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Chippy 241
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i would say it was abuse but he doesnt sound nice at all making your sister cry i mean my dad wont let me have a dog but christmas lights thats mean if hes swearing at u its verbal abuse |
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She
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definitely |
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sausage
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Ignore the piece of **** and focus on your own life. |
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Adam Evans
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not really abusive but OBVIOUSLY not a nice guy |
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Frank Dabeake
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its a$$holes like your stepdad that when they die no one will show up at there funeral, my ***** father was like that when he drank , Im glad that you and your sister and mom will never have to deal with him again |
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soc
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he is showing abuse through his behaviors. |
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Layla
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He sounds mean, but by abusive i don't think he would get prosecuted or in trouble by the justice of law. |
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I'm a mommy now :)
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That is mentally and emotionally abusive |
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Jessica
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Yeah that sounds mentally abusive. |
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Dani ♥ ♥
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This is really terrible, it's great your mom is divorcing him, but if she had known about this... shouldn't she have divorced him earlier? |
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alex07
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forgive and appreciate the good he had done for you and mum, He can't be 100% nasty n mean. he is a broken man, not your enemies, wish him luck, |
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JIM
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Your mom is eqaully responsible because she allowed this to go on which implies she also disrespected you and had no strong feeling for you |
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Honey
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If you feel that he mistreated you and your family then that is abuse. He sounds like a horrible man. Looks like you won't have anything to do with him for too much longer. |
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Iammatt
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Yeah that was definitely a form a metal abuse, and was totally crossing a line. i think you've done well to not have some sort of breakdown during those 6 years. |
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Toothyemmy
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I don't think it was abuse, but that man sounds like a truly horrible person. He treated you and your sister terribly and I don't think that is right or fair. |
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Tashaa
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yes that is clearlt abuse, wether its mental or physical its still abuse, you shouldn't of put up with that and your mum should not of put up with it either, i'm glad your getting out of it now, and don't ever listen to him when he says its your fault! x |
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Sheung007
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He is definitely an eccentric and doesn't like kids. On the plus side he hasn't been harming you physically, so that is a blessing. No doubt he is not a Dad that anyone can tolerate so it is good you will be departing from him.
Draw a line and forget him from then. |
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