What's the big deal about marriage?

Lprod	I totally agree with you!!! I'm 30 and never plan to marry.... I'm happily in love with my partner, 1 year together, we don't live together yet but he sleeps over at my place almost every night and this has worked for us so far...... we've thought about moving in together someday, but we'll see how things work out..... For now things are just great this way and it doesn't make us any less committed to each other, we are together cuz we want to and if that ever changes we will be free to continue with our lives. He already had a bad experience with a ***** who used their marriage as a chain to keep him tied so of course he isn't planning to make the same mistake over again. And I'm just as happy with that, I want to keep my freedom to and have a man by my side cuz he WANTS to be with me, not because he's FORCED to! Keep your freedom too and enjoy your life...... you can still find the love of your life, and I don't know why people think that marriage is an indispensable condition for you to keep it!!! It's NOT!

Fabe	It's funny..cuz i don't have the desire to get married also..I don't believe in marriage anymore..I have so many stories of marriage gone bad..its like, what the point..for example My Uncle left my Aunt after 23 yrs of marriage, because he felt smothered..(u mean to tell me it took u 23 yrs to figure that out)..they are not divorced and not really seperated..they just live in different houses..they still go out and things of that nature..(so basically, u moved out so that we can date..lol..) Another example, My bestfriends dad left her mom for anothe women..they were married for 16 years, had 3 children (and at the time pregnant with another which he had the nerve to say wasn't his). yea right..Now he's married to this women who already has children, and he loves her kids more than he loves his..(isn't that a trip),..and i have tons of other stories..So marriage isn't something that I want to do..if it happens, then it does..I've been in a relationship for 6yrs..and I'm happy with the way it is...

Savannah's Mommy!	every person has to do what works for them...personally, i love being married and i would have it no other way, however, there are people that have no interest in being married and that is ok too because what works for one person does not always work for another...if you are happy not being married then more power to you!!!

falltowinter	Marriage is a big deal, because it becomes part of you. You make decisions, considering everyone involved, not only your family and friends, but also hers. You have to constantly think for others and consistently make your spouse happy to realize what you had actually pictured as what a marriage is supposed to look like and feel. I understand why you don't think it's a big deal, because you have to add value to it yourself; because it's yours.

MRS. MARTIAN	I was with a man for 7 years and i too was COMPLETELY against marriage. We lived together had a child etc. so i didnt see a point, it was only a piece of paper. then he left me because i didnt want to get married. Later i met a man whom i instantly fell in love with and i knew right away i actually WANTED to get married. ( It was a huge shock to me) I was anti- marriage until i found the right one. so you never know. never say never.

camerasrflasingmywaydirtydancing	the whole point of marriage is to make 2 lives whole. so, basicially im a half right now cuss im single and my future bf is also a half right now, so when we get married, we'll be a whole ^-^. i dunno, thats how i picture it. and also, some people dont want to settle down cause their afraid, like if they do something wrong or watever.

undone	Im not sure what the fuss is all about either. Its nothing like in the brochure. I think its a good idea if you plan to have kids bc they deserve a stable home. All the romantic blahdeblah associated with marriage is just a commercialized fantasy ( which leads to a lot of unrealistic expectations and finally divorces). Similar to the fuss about the Easter Bunny and Santa Clause. :)

Valerie X	Catholic marriage is a sacrament and has special meaning and purpose. Any other type of marriage is just a piece of paper and has legalities involved.

vycki n	it is too much of a big deal sometimes...planning, fighting over the planning, stress...ok happiness, love ect. i am married and love my husband but if i had to do it all over again...we would have had our own cermonmy. Once you are married you get screwed on taxes as well.

Lisa	If you don't want to get married, by all means, stay single. They stopped doing shotgun weddings a long time ago. Just when your older, and not as cute anymore, you might get lonely. My husband thought the same thing when he met me. 2 months later, he asked me to marry him. You probably haven't met the right person. When and if you do, you will understand what all the fuss is about.

Rain	Enjoy.... ;) marriage is a bit overated ...

finnlecarb	its a promise you make to your partner that you will be there always that your love is for one person and only one person that you are willing to spend the rest of your live with this person in good times and bad and said it in the eyes of your god or the law

Donna W	I don't think that marrige is that big of a deal any more. Nowadays more and more people just want to stay single or be with someone and never get married. Mainly because of the divorce rate I guess. Now there are still old fashion people out there who love the idea of marriage. But if you ask the younger generation it really isn't something that they see in their future. Personally I married, but never wanted to at first. I changed my mind after dating my husband for a year. Been married for three and a half years with two children and no regrets.

sheloves_dablues	When you invest in building a life with someone, you want some measure of security about what you're doing. Healthy relationships are made of give and take, but not all marriages stay healthy forever, and a legalized union ensures that if it doesn't stand the test of time, that one partner is not able to walk away with the fruits of the other person's labours over the years.

BNP	Everybody wants to be loved. Marriage is the traditional way of trying to signify that a love is permanent. Obviously this isn't always the case. Really, people being less brainwashed into assuming they have to get married would probably lead to people making better decisions about marriage, and the divorce rate would plummet! Anyways, if you can find someone who you want to be with who accepts your fidelity as a matter of trust rather than because it has been sanctioned by an outside source, more power to you! (Assuming the trust is justified, of course)

natasha	It is just a personal decision. I like being tied to my husband that way but if it's not for you then don't do it. To me weddings are a way to celebrate your love of each other with friends and family.

MS	marriage is cycle of life.if evey person will as you thought then world must be end.but if you r single than its ok. if you have any problem with marriage,as i have,i decied not to be marry

not this way	thats just the thing, people expect you to get married, if you dont, then you must be missing something or are afraid of commitment. thats pretty sad, you can be very happy without that title "married".

Esma	I don't understand all the fuss either. I think some people would be happiest when committed (legally and emotionally), some are happiest when only committed emotionally, and some are happiest without any such commitments. I think our country's obsession with marriage is really out of date, and even the traditions need a bit of a face lift.

LilyRose	AM A 22 FEMALE AND AM WITH U ALL THE WAY... I MEAN SERIOUSLY WAKING UP TO THE SAME FACE EVERY MORNING IS AS SCARY AS GOING TO IRAQ

Me	It just gives your relationship a deeper level! The thing is that you know you can rely on your spouse - more than when you were just BF / GF it really makes a big difference. There is more intimacy - deeper level - trust - hope and planing for a definite future together! But it is also really hard work - that's why some people shy away!

NEWPORT BEACH GIRL	well...good 4 u...but marriage is a special bond...and maybe you are not the type to want to share that....so anyway....diff strokes 4 diff folks

btpage0630	Marriage is something instituted from the Bible and from God. It talks about how God said "It is not good for man to be alone" etc. Marriage is the thing that separates us from the animals. It is the opportunity to be in a godly, blessed relationship with another individual. If marriage isn't a big deal, then commitment isn't a big deal. I suppose some people can be happy never being in a secure relationship and having kids that have no stability or family structure. I haven't met any, but I suppose it's possible.

freakboynv2000	only a person who is mature enough to understand the meaning of the commitment involved would understand. Judging by your question you have no idea what personal commitment really is.

Don	You fall in love, you get married. It's the foundation for a family. That's just how it is. It's also your choice if you want to be single. It's your life.

Allison, aka Nice Lady	Given how you seem to view marriage, I suggest you never get married. I likely couldn't explain it to you. I'm fine with you never getting married as long as you don't get anyone pregnant or lead anyone on.

floridaman39us	Good for you. Now move on. Jesus turned water into wine at the wedding party.

Happy-2	If you're never going to get married, then you should never have children. So, go get a vasectomy and don't worry about it!

CHUCK S	marriage no big deal-divorce is a big deal!