What's the matter with my wife?

Princess Belen	Well she sounds alot like me theres not much u can do!! sorry some people are just like that!!!

ashleybredesen	you should have told her the truth to begin with because now its worse. since you DID lie then now she has a reason to doubt your integrity. you did that to yourself and your marriage. we women value honesty up front. as far as the email....my hubby is very protective over that too and i just have learned to respect his privacy and trust him. she should not have flipped over that (i know i get guilty of it myself). you did the right thing in letter her see it though. i would go to marriage counceling. or if you would like individual. but BOTH of you need to go and work through your junk in the trunk. my hubby and i don't go right now but we are reading "love and respect". google it and check out the site. its biblically based, however, my hubby is not religious but he loves the book. what we do is read a bit then talk about how we do what he describes and how we can make it better. since we have been reading this book, we both have fought less and have tried to see it from each others POV. good luck!

PeopleDog	She is being unfair, as far as I can tell. ASK her why she is upset. You will probably get an I'm not upset or a nasty reply. Tell her that you love her and you are trying to compromise. Ask her what her feelings are and just listen until she asks you a question. Then tell her how you feel about the situation. NOT what SHE does and what YOU do. Use the words, I feel. Then see if you can't compromise. Maybe she is insecure about being around your family, are they judgemental? There is a reason that she doesn't want to go. Maybe she is hurt because you keep your email secret. My boyfriend and I both can get into each other's accounts. There should be no secrets. He even tells me when his ex-crush still texts him, I don't get mad, because he is honest. (I trust him). If you can't come to some kind of conclusion, or she doesn't open up, you might want to think about counseling. I hope that you can compromise and have a good holiday, and holidays to come. Good luck.

Mrs. Jack Sparrow â™¥	Sounds like you and your "wife" need to work things out on your own and not yahoo answers

lady	what the hell,,you and your wife,,are seeking attention or what,,?!?! posting the same question,,,?!!?! i say your both freaken nuts,,,,

back2future	Sorry to hear that.. well, everyone react differently with the inviatation.. ..well, my hubby cares that too.. so, I normally dont give him the details.... just talk to her, or ask ur sis call her and invite her.. that'll be OK... Have a good Thanksgiving..!!!

RedMistPete	If she's insecure because of your actions, you need to talk to her. I don't have a password on my email, I'd let my wife read my texts and emails if she wanted. If you really have nothing to hide or lie to her about, what is she meant to think when you do lie to her and hide things from her? You could be the cause of this problem, not her; try to be more sensitive and give her a bit more respect? Why should she always do things your way? No offense.

Deb W	How bizarre that she doesn't accept an email over a phone call? She could possibly have social anxiety - something that I get when I think about visiting our families. It creates a sick feeling in the pit of the stomach. Of course, I go, but have a tough time enjoying myself completely, and watch the clock. This can go hand-in-hand with agoraphobia or other social phobias. Just one consideration. Another is that she doesn't feel comfortable with YOUR family. Holidays are stressful anyway for many people, as they bring up a lot of old issues that are buried the rest of the year.

pictureshygirl	Your wife sound like the typical female who always nick picks at every little thing, hard to live with someone like that. You need to stop enabling her and giving into her whims. Let her know how sorry you are that she decided not to attend Thanksgiving dinner at your sister's house and let her know you intend to go without her. Let her stay home and stew in her own self pity misery. Don't let her ruin any more holidays for her bratty reasons. Just know, people do what works, and she obviously has learned that her behaviour has worked to get you to do her bidding. She sounds immature and selfish and also possessive of your attention that you may give to other members of the family. Good grief, how have you stood this for so long? Good luck and try to have a good holiday anyway.

Delilah	Talk to her. Tell her how you feel and how it bothers you that she is like this during the holidays. Tell her it really means a lot to you to spend time with the family during holidays...especially with her in the picture. Ask her why she reacts the way she does. Find out whats bothering her. Maybe she doesn't even realize what she is doing. Maybe in her past, she got really burned by someone and it has affected her ever since. Whatever it is, she needs to learn to let go and forgive and move on as it sounds like it is hurting you and in the long run your relationship with her.

Atom 74	Maybe talk to her, I think she posted the exact opposite story in another post a few minutes ago.

Rach	Maybe she's depressed. Does she get on with your family? Do they make an effort with her? It sounds like she doesnt think your sister makes much of an effort, Id be a bit miffed with a lousy email too! It sounds like she doesnt feel comfortale with your family, so family holidays are never going to be nice for her, thus she'll make it difficult for you! bless ya chick!

Jollypixx	maybe u should try talking to her. she has to have a reason for wanting to be so suspicious. Maybe she thinks ur cheating, im not saying u r but maybe she thinks that. some women have that paranoia stuck in their head right from the beginning. or u culd go and c a counsellor, they may help ya Good Luck

Rachel	Maybe she has some kind of social anxiety disorder and doesn't feel comfortable at these family gatherings, so she makes up excuses. Or, maybe she doesn't like the way you treat her at the family gatherings (like if you ignore her the whole time to chat with your family, she might get bored). I would try to find out if she doesn't enjoy spending time with your family, and then try to figure out a way that you could make it more enjoyable for her. I doubt it is really because you didn't tell her it was an e-mailed invitation that she doesn't want to go.

treasuredwife69	I just answered your wifes version of this. You guys need to grow up.

jthurmanprice	Its hard to say because i don't know how far your sisiter's house is. Probably the best bet would be to just go rent some movies and stay at home with your wife. Then she might see that your trying.

The WiÅ¾ard	sounds like 2 different issues. But it sounds like you're not happy with her knowing your email stuff and she wonders why. If you have nothing to hide, what does it matter if she went through your stuff. Eventually she would get tired of snooping anyway once she realizes theres nothing to worry about.

yumaballer3	Mabey she has problems with your family, eaither that or she whats to spend it with her family. You should just sit her down, and ask her what she wants to do. Then talk about it, and work something out.

neoga illinois	try a marriage counselor

Timeflo	someone's very creative here. You posted the same question but as the woman. Wow, you're good!

Mars	Why shouldn't she go through your stuff? I don't care what anyone says, you can never ever trust someone 100%. If you have nothing to hide then stop pretending you do because that's how your wife probably feels. Maybe she is an insecure person but if you can't be open with eachother about everything then why did you get married?

Calm	Sounds like there is a communication issue here. I say have a serious sit-down talk about the matter. If that does not work a counciling session should do. Three years into a marriage you should both be in a comfort zone...,but this doesn't seem to be the case.

DirtyTires.com	Time to kick her to the curb before you end up saying "In 33 years we've never had a good holiday"

Nolean S	Sorry bud but your wife is insane in the membrane...you just have to deal with it or leave. Maybe you may want to consider marriage counselor.

â™ Merlin â™	hmmmmmm this sounds familiar http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=A0WTcZkwSkRHs5wAMwbB7BR.;_ylv=3?qid=20071121064733AAZaXWr dont you two actually TALK to each other lol!

WC	Respect her wishes, if she doesn't want to go to functions, forget about it.

just_a_hick	Sounds really immature. Assure her nothing is going on and you just want to have a good holiday

NY Yanks Girrl	Well there has to be a deeper reasoning. Does she get along w/ your fam? Does she not trust you, i don't really get it1 I hope things work out though and u have a good turkey day :)