What do you do with an addict?

k02scorpio	Well let me tell you by experience i did all kinds of drug es and i try ed to quit several times until i didn`t just quit the drugs but all so quit hanging around the people that use them and it made a lot essayer to let go 3yrs now with out them and much happyer.

cutehrgrl	He needs a rude awakening. If he knows you will leave him maybe he will wake up and really try. This is not a good environment for your child. It is very hard to quit these type of drugs when you are an addict. If he cannot commit to a long term rehab then he will have to hit rock bottom before he realizes that he needs to quit. Please think about your child before you think of him. He is an adult and your child helpless. Obviously he is only thinking of himself.

Steve_Mcqean007	Getting over the psycology and dependance of drugs is a family affair for you and your child. He must want to give up. He must want to stay straight. Take him to the morgue for a tour. Also, go back to rehab. Finally, the area that you live in makes it "suitable" for his drug use. He must have a different enviroment that is free of drugs and his friends or locals that can get it for him. Time to move and far away... If he does not change then the child deserves a drug free enviroment. Good Luck

Venessa D	NOW IS ENOUGH!!! When there is a baby involved.. OMG!! BOOT HIS A S S OUT NOW before he goes phycho on you and your little baby!! Right now the baby is your only concern... f u c k him.. he has made his choice and you and your child is not it!!!! And dont get married to him!! oh my f u c k i n g god girl GROW UP!!!

mishle	What you need to do is leave him and get out of the situation. He needs to get through rehab on his own. You can love him and support him as much as you can, but he needs to help himself first and find the strength on his own. There's no one that can give him that strength. The addiction is within him. Find a safe and non-chaotic environment for your child to grow up in. Having an addict around your child is fool hardy and dangerous. When he finally kicks the habit and gets his life on track then you can consider continuing the relationship, but you are in a dangerous situation for yourself and child. Don't stop loving him but you need to separate. He will finally understand that drugs will lead to loss of everything including you and the child. good luck.

justmebackagain	sorry for the three of you, to answer your question,, you need to think of your child,and show your fiance, the door. dont attempt to reconcile until you know for certain he has been clean for at least eighteen months. then you can try and reconcile. sorry to be so hard. i have seen what class a drugs can do, best of luck to you all

slither22a	You need to decide this for yourself and your child. He is trying but its hard to just quit.. I hope your not living with him.. he needs to do this for himself.. live your own life and move on for now. You just never know about an addict. Good luck to both of you

lebanesebabe	well he obviousli hasnt learnt his lesson from rehab.. maybe that isnt the solution, i would imagine that if u sit down with him everyday and give him a lecture about stopping and about controllin himself and why he needs to do it eg u and the baby and his whole life is at stake, keep repeatin these things to him and keep on nagging him that he needs to try harder and the am sure hes gona get it into his head that he shouldnt be doind drugs even if hes addicted.. good luck

lauren s	enough is enough when you see your 1 yr old imitate him & then you realize "why didn't i leave him before this happened"...but by then you're too late...shouldn't you seperate yourself & child before this happens?

letterstoheather	You have to set your own limits and boundaries. Addiction is a powerful thing... and it's very difficult for a person to quit... of course, that's not an excuse, i'm just commenting. If you have not attended an "open" Narcotics Anonymous meeting, perhaps now is the time to consider it. Narcotics Anonymous also has a website and i believe, chats.... just do a search for Narcotics Anonymous Chat... I am sorry to see you're going through this... i know how difficult it is for you, believe me. Do what you feel is best for you... take care.

RAB in Venus TX	You need to focus on giving you and your child a safe, happy life. Let the dad know that you will be glad to consider his participation in that life, if and when he can sustain sobriety for 12 consecutive months. He needs to worry about himself until he gets clean and sober.

kevin h	what the heck he should quit all illegal drugs not just what u call hrad drugs!! u probably do the soft drugs with him like marijuana and alchohol. that is stupid trying to quit hard drugs? my big old brown eye!!!

Kendi	Sweety you have a one year old, dont you think enough is enough now???? RIGHT NOW. i would force him into rehab, and wouldnt take him out, until he is 100%. I know how hard it is, i watch shows on intervention and stuff like that. Dont marry him until he is through with that crap. Believe me. Try and move to another state, or area - where he wont be so much exposed to people he deals with and people he buys and does this stuff with... Remind him he has a son.... Good luck it must be so hard...

kookoo4travel	CUT HIM OUT OF YOUR LIFE! INCLUDING YOUR BABY'S! PEOPLE DON'T CHANGE UNTIL THEY REALLY SUFFER AND PAY FOR THEIR BAD CHOICES IN LIFE.

Blahhx16	Send him to rehab longer! or some kind of institution?

Patricia A	You say he has gone thru rehab, is he actively seeking counseling now? If not, he is not trying hard enough! Everybody has their limit, when you give up is up to you. So far it does not look good but you might want to set a time limit for yourself so you are not hanging out in "Hopeful" forever.

purplelites	don't marry him until there are many years of sobriety... You have to see that he really wants to change and that he will value your relationship more than the drugs. You should break off the relationship (it might be hard, but he will only get better when he is ready and not because of you or the child) Stay strong.

Gogo S	throw the drugs away and take him on vacation for 3 weeks without drugs, really, i was addicted to computer games and when i went on vacation for 3 weeks without computer games, i got used to no computer games so im no longer addicted, remember, leave the drugs at home, go on vacation for 3 weeks, come back and he'll be used to it, reason why to go some where else because if he were at home it would be so tempting to take the drugs

ladynamedjane	I truly think you and your child should move away or at least else where. Tell him you cannot bear living without him but you just cannot sit and watch him destroy his life. If you arenot on drugs you don't need to be saddled with it and your little one doesn't either. tell him when he has managed to be clean for a year you will consider another try. Life is way to short to deal with that type of stress, it is called OPP (other peoples problems)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

VivaChivas	dump him....like yesterday!!!

bryanna p	haha..i have the same problem with a computer game runescape.com....i love it so much itz a addiction..so my advie is fine something else to replace..then u should have no problem and u will forget about the addiction u have..

Terri J	You can hang in as long as you have the stomach for it. But I'm worried about the child. If you separate, it will be easier to deny access during the periods that he is not clean. Please put your child first.

MAN ON A MISSION	addicts can only change themselves, and that sometimes means a whole fresh new start. But unfortunatley most addicts need to hit rock-bottom and lose everything before this change of life occurs, if you really love him, leave him, and let him bottom out, then the changes will seem miraculos.

meowattheo	you seriously need to get your child away from him. if you dont, he is going to bring you down and you will end up getting your child taken away. use your brain

mel	hopeless case here. too bad you were both too stupid to have children. babys having babys redux.

kat	take em from him and smack his @$$. tell him w t f is wrong wit you? you have kids and your getting married! mabe it will knock some since into him. lol. but if mine did drugs, i would leave him.

lady_phoenix39	You get away from him until he's been clean for at least ONE YEAR. Good idea, having a baby with an addict....WHAT WERE YOU THINKING??????? Give him back the ring, get a child support order, and get away from him ASAP, if not for you, then for your child!!!

wc2ketey	As long as you stay with him you're enabling him. Time for you to move on. Good luck to you.

philosophynerd	Maybe you should pick better mates? But failing that have you considered having an intervention for them.

?	at the 3rd relapse... :D