What is the most hardest/painful part of a divorce?

hillbilly	THE COST!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

D.E.O.N. Sphinxxx	feeling like you failed God, your children, and your relatives

lasman37	Starting over.

nanhowala	because no divorce can wipe out memories of intimate moments shared together. Every attempt at a new, post-divorce relationship dashes against this wall.

beaddiva	The most painful part to me was "what could I have done better to save it?" But I realized I did almost everything and he just wasn't interested in me. After I got over it, I am better and looking forward to life without wondering "what if." If you are going through this right now, I am sorry to hear that.

Joni L	Letting go. Don't let your pride tell you that you failed. People stay angry for so long and it is because they are hurt by the loss. Take it as a learning experience. And the next time will be much easier

alive on the ball named earth	the fact that when u got married, it never occured to u that it could end. u grieve the loss, even if u hate each other. ur alone again and need to question what could work next time u try for a relationship. its easy to become jaded, but if u want love, then risk trying again when ur ready. be in tune w/ur feelings, and don't just find someone in order not to be alone. we are alone in our existence even if we're madly in love. so be sure ur ready

Anthony	walking away for good

nvp	KIDS SUFFER

God Bless America	Taking the children from a stable relationship to an unstable one. Some parents can't see how it affects children, but it does and will forever. Some children believe that they are to blame for the break up. A lot of times both parties try to work out their differences for the children. I hope this will happen in your case since it sounds like you are going through a divorce.

iddybiddy_1962	If there are no kids, then it would be letting go and moving on. Kids in the picture- very hard to explain what happened without them feeling to blame.

mssgtmidnight1	KNOWING YOU HAVE INVESTED ALL THAT TIME AND IT WAS WASTED. THINKING ABOUT WHAT IT SHOULD HAVE BEEN, WHAT IT MIGHT HAVE BEEN, WHAT IT COULD HAVE BEEN. THE THOUGHT OF STARTING ALL OVER AGAIN BY YOURSELF.

aaina f	When your child has to stay with only parent all her life and be desperate for the love of another parent***********************

"SWEETHEART"	For me it was trying to figure out what went wrong...Where and when did the Love I once had for this person go? How did it just be gone like that? How come it was fun and I was so happy to start with and then all the sudden it is gone...Because I really don't think people spend enough time working on there marriage as they do working on the divorce..really stop and think about it...we wont spend the time talking to a lawyer and telling them all our problems...but if counseling was mentioned if at all its a no, I,am not talking to no stranger about our problems.....its funny but it happens.....so in closing I would have to say just trying to figure out how is all fell apart to begin with....where did the love go? did you ever really love? do people fall out of love?...good luck Hun....write if you need me...GOD BLESS....ttyl

Nena S	On a personal level, finding out you were wrong about the other person. Also, letting them hurt you and feeling bad about things that you sacrificed. If children are involved, their pain and impotence.

Leafs Rule!	writing allimony checks.

Colleen O	for me it was waiting for the final decree.

appel jackes	the bill

Lydia	Ripping out the hearts of the children.

nicholettejohnson	Knowing you have to get up and go on with your life! I was having a hard time at first but it gets easier. I have children, so that was a hard discussion to have!

Safaia	For me, it was having to put the children thru it. Children are stronger than we give them credit for, but it's never easy seeing them hurt when mommy and daddy no longer live together. My heart goes out to you.

*suger()lips**	probably custody of children and explaining to your family why you getting divorced

AK	For me it was the horrible feeling that I had failed. No kids involved thankfully.

mom of 3	i would say the children. they are the ones that will suffer the most.

danny c	CUTTING THE KIDS IN HALF!

kicking_back	the kids not knowing what the hell is happening

Brian D	not getting to spend as much time with your kids.

Lacie Kay	I have never gotten a divorce but I would have to say if there were kids involved then that would probaly be the hardest part.