What should I do? My stepfather is cheating on my mom!?

babie_racer_in	I would tell her the truth and then drop it. yes, I know this sounds bad but she is an adult and it is her choice to believe or not.

miia	I am sooo sorry about this but if your mom doesn't believe you with words thank perhaps you could hide a camera somewhere or something and then that would be proof

â™¥ Tokio Hotel â™¥	get proof. camera, video recorder, ANYTHING! then show your mom and tell your dad that you know that hes cheating on yo mama.

Josh	Call the cheaters people. They will embarrass the crap outta that loser. Then report that idiot for hittin u. Record what he does and show it to ur mom so she can see what hes doin

goldmann6585	Is there any way you can take pictures without your step dad seeing it? She just wants proof.

Dylan L	Try the best you can to get your mom to believe you. I'm sorry that this is happening to you.

Cracker Jack	Seriously talk to her and convince her with your willpower. She would have to believe you eventually.

SupaWhiteGirl	Please talk to an adult that you trust, at church, in your neighborhood, or at school. This is an awful lot for you and your sister to have to deal with. I'm so sorry. :(

Pickleheaded possum	Stay ready with an instamatic camera. Just one of those cheap ones they sell at the drugstore. Start popping in at odd times when he thinks everyone is out of the house. Always have your camera ready !

redis4luvers	So in a couple weeks or whenever you go with your dad agian you leave and go back to your house and videotape it.Once a cheater always a cheater. then your mom should belive you

Chart Mega	get a video camera and catch him in the act! then she'll have to believe. and im sorry. god bless you and your family (besides that backstabbing, two-faced blub you call your step-father)

kd_lifer	What can you do? Tell her what you saw, it is up to her to believe you or not! You can only be there for your mother when it all falls apart and protect yourself and your sister from this loser!

Rayne	Get a recorder and hide it in your pocket and then ask him about it. Tell him you're going to tell your mom, and I'm sure he'll try to talk you out of it, therefore admitting it. I did that before and it worked!!!!!!

sassie639	Your Mother is in denial. She doesn't want to believe your step-dad could be like that. I am sorry you had to see that. Just be careful he doesn't follow through on you as his pastime, I don't think I would be able to trust him.

Justin	well one day you should pretend to do what you did and see him with another women and catch him in the act with a video cam or a camera lol.but be careful he maybe violent or something and get pissed off when you tell your mom.

xo.emzy.xo	confront him, tell him that you know his dirty little secret, tell him to leave you and your sister the **** alone, but before you do that, get a picture or video of him with the other lady and make sure your mom sees it so she believes you!

jimmy	UGGGHHH I HATE CHEATERS!!!!!!!! UGH WHAT A BS THING FOR YOU TO HAVE TO DEAL WITH!YOU need a NON Violent way to get at him for this!! you should get some revenge!!! you should submit his WORST photos on http://www.didyoueattoday.com they will blast him for you and call him out for being a loser and A CHEATER!!!! this can help you get out the bad feelings out and help you move on in an anonymous way PLUS THEN EVERYONE WILL KNOW HE IS TRASH!

a_lefteri	I really don't know how to help you! I will tell you what I believe that I would do. I wouldn't let my stepfather learn that I know, but I would find a way to tell my mother or make her find out. God Bless you.

Maria	Next time you guys get out of the house leave a video camera and get the action or a tape recorder so you can hear whats going on. and tape record the next time you guys have a conversation with him and then show it to your mum.

shy2008	Maybe he was having company and nothing was going on! I would tell your mom in a way that seems innocent. When everyone's together, just ask your step dad who the woman was that came to your house...was it his sister? See what kind of reaction that gets.

elijah c	the only reasonable thing to do i take a dirt bike and while he is asleep put the back wheel on his face and twist the throttle so that it rips his face off. then take his face put it in the blender and microwave it then drink it. its the only way to kill a zombie, (which is what he probably is)

Robin	If it happens again, take a picture with your cell phone/camera. There's proof for your mom. If you ever get into an uncomfortable conversation w/ him... record it on your cell phone or mp3 player or something. This can't go on unnoticed!! I hope u and your sister will be happy if he stops hitting on u, that would be so creepy!!!

4 months and 27 days	you need to talk to your mom and let her know what he said to you and your sister and if she dont believe you make her and about him cheating you need to tell your mom and make her believe it no matter what or get proof find that lady he was sleeping with and have her tell your mom its true but dont let that man lie to your mom like that

Think about it	Your mom already knows about all this unless she is severely retarded. Even if you give her evidence she will hate you even more because she has decided to live with her head in the sand. It'll only make her hate you not your stepfather I'm sorry to let you know. That's how it always is.

Annie	You have a serious problem here. I would tell your Mom, she should know. You two sisters should also tell her he acts inappropriately toward you when she is not around and makes you feel very uncomfortable. I personally think you should stay with you Dad.Your step dad sounds like he is a pervert and not dad material at all.

Bonnie	next time when your mom is out of town and you go to your family house. leave something at the house that you know your family will take you back home to get it. and when you walk in the house take a pic of the woman and him. then run out the house. then when you see your mom show her. and let her know that he not the right guy for her. and that she can find MUCH better. tell her that you want her to be happy. but he not going to be the one that make her happy. and if you hits on you and your sister. then thats not right. get him with that. rec his ***. then show your mom.... Hope that works. :)

Rinoa	Tell your mom anyhow and also confront your stepfather. If your mom doesn't believe you and your stepfather continues to do this, you're going to have to do something I don't think you'd want to hear -- show your mom the next time he's with her or take pictures as proof or do something to get evidence. It may hurt her but it would hurt her more if she doesn't know and then finds out a long time from now that her 2nd husband was cheating on her for soooooo long.

Gerald	well if he's with some one else alot place a pinhole camera (one of those really small security cameras) that has audio in the room you saw him in or more then one and put them in more rooms find a way to record it when it happens then show it to your mom. if this doesn't work then place a cell phone in his car one where if turned on you can see where it is on another phone and check where he goes. Or tell your mom, say you do want her to be happy and to talk to him about what you saw. or as a final resort talk ti him about it.

ceinglehart	Talk to your step-father first. Tell him that if he doesn't tell your mom about this other word by tomorrow, you will. Let him know in a firm voice that if mom is still with him after she finds out he cheated that his treatment of you and your sister will not be happening anymore and that if you continue to feel uncomfortable in your own house, then you will be staying with your father and your mother will know the reason why. The more mature you act towards him and towards your mom, the more they will believe what you are saying. If possible, see if your dad can take you and your sister more often. Good luck!