What would you do if you found out that your husband was taking his wedding ring off at work so he could flirt?

JB	I'm one of those people who thinks he already is cheating; not physically right now, but emotionally.

â™¡ Candye â™¡	Sounds ike he has intentions on cheating..why else would he not want anyone to know he's married...??!!

eagledreams	You have all the signs there in that behaviour that he is looking to cheat. He would not stop at the next stage be sure if he is prepared to mislead others then he is also prepared to mislead you.

Lovin'life!!	I have no clue what I'd do because I'm not married yet (i'm 18, lol) but I would feel extremely sad and hurt that I wasn't good enough. Like I couldn't provide enough satisfaction for him. I'd probably feel that he didn't love me so much. I view it as cheating. When you get married, you commit yourself to that person. When he takes OFF his WEDDING ring, that says something. It sounds like he wants to get somewhere since he's taking it off. Talk to him about it, let him know that you know, and don't accept it. I'm not saying it'd be right blow up in his face and act like ******, but he needs to cool down and stop it. That's something a teenager would do, playing around like a foolish boy who doesn't give a care about deceny and faithfulness.

Cham	If he cannot get women to talk to him, flirt, what have you, with his ring on...then he doesn't have the gift of gab for you to even be concerned with him cheating cause his game is lame. On a more serious note, you should be upset but I don't think divorce is the answer here right off. What he needs is an understanding that continued behavior like this will result in filing for a divorce.

la vita e bella	My first concern would be: why does he need that attention? Is he having some sort of crisis where he needs attention from other women? I would be very upset, I realize that flirting is sometimes natural for people, and even when you're married you occasionally flirt--but you do not take off a wedding ring with the intention to flirt unless you want it to lead to to something else. Just my opinion. I would do the same thing to him and not wear my ring and flirt--I'd like to know how he feels when the tables are turned. I would also begin going through his things to make sure he wasn't cheating, then I'd sign us up for counseling--because it sounds like he needs it.

iyamacog	I would hock his ring. Since it means nothing to him. Who are you kidding? What makes you think he would never cheat?

K8	Get a good attorney and start to think about protecting yourself during the future divorce. Sorry, it does not sound good at all. If this was my husband, he would be gone!

willow	He is taking his ring off for 1 reason. Never cheat?...why else would he take off his ring...attention my butt...

Gwen H	i would tell him you knew and get a divorce. that is a terriable thing to do. Leave him

Tracy H	I don't know what's worse, him doing this or you trying to convince us that you are perfectly fine with him doing this and you justifying his actions to yourself and us. I would tell him to put the ring back on his finger and ask him what is missing in our relationship that he feels the need to give/receive this type of behavior. Maybe you should remove your wedding band and begin gallivanting around with single men.

Lil B	Um...not only No...but HE** NO...this is not ok. You need to have a nice long chat with him so that he knows that in no way is this ok. Yeah...he might not cheat today...but he will be tempted and do you really know that he will never cheat? No

vballandsoccer!!!	tell him you no what he is doing and it is wrong and that you think it is horrible and you are thinking of a divorce and then hopefully that will stop him. good luck!!!

MM	I would hope that his coworkers and clients would treat him in the same professional manner regardless of whether they knew he was married. If he's looking for some other kind of attention, that'd be a pretty big issue for me.

Angie	Ha, anyone that takes off their wedding ring "so they can flirt" would cheat. Trust me, my husband and I both flirt while wearing our wedding rings....it is fun and makes you feel interesting, but the ring is the symbol that you are married and it will never go farther. To remove the ring means he wants to go farther.

Emerald	And he told you this? That is interesting in itself! It needs to stop.

dosgrandestacos	buy him a new ring and then put glue on the inside so he will never be able to take it off

Doctor Click	I would tell him that if he want to be single, then that can be arranged.

gettin by one day at a time	How did you find this out? Did he tell you this is what he does?

Mrs Heather Schabby, M&D Goddess	I'd reconsider whether being married to him were the right decision, obviously. I'm curious as to why you think he would never cheat? If he's willing to take of his ring to portray himself as not married, why wouldn't he be willing to cheat? Where is the line drawn? My husband and I consider cheating to be doing anything you wouldn't do if your spouse was in the room or knew about it. Would your husband take off his wedding ring if you were standing right there with him? Highly doubtful. Besides, why does he need this attention from other women? He is a married man. Any attention that these women would give him thinking he's single but that they'd STOP giving him if they knew he was married is inappropriate attention, anyway. Good luck.

Here's your change	I would say you were married to a very insecure person. If they are embarrassed to be wearing a ring, then maybe he doesn't really want to be married.

guitarsoloist07	To add to what everyone else said... I would be seriously offended if I were his wife. I would want my husband to show that wedding band off proudly. My boyfriend gave me a beautiful silver ring as a gift and it didn't fit on any finger except my left 3rd ring finger. So it looks like I'm engaged. People have commented on this and I reply with "So? I'm proud to be with him and it keeps other guys from flirting with me."

Katie M	I'd be mad that he felt the wedding ring was such a burden. Seriously, how hard up must he be to behave like this? A happily married man wouldn't have to seek this type of attention from women he works with. No offense but I think you're a bit naive.

Antithesis	That's messed up. I mean if he was keeping his ring ON and flirting a little that's not a big deal. But trying to appear as if he is single is just taking it too far.

missmojo78	Would never cheat? I think you better rethink that one as taking off his ring seems like intention to cheat. I would not be cool with that at all.

Satanic Brainsmasher	He's looking to bang other women. I would divorce.