What would you do when your spouse get a divorce over the preasures from your handicap ?

Well my handicap is severe language disorder & comphemain learning. It did not help us when he became abruseful toward me & our 3 children.5 years ago we were having major problems in our ordained marriage & my husband { Paul Heinz }wanted out so he took the coward's & quiter way out with a divorce. The fact remains is marriage is what it is UNTIL DEATH.Divorce is so wrong !He jump over the fence & commited adultery with my x- best friend.He could care less for his ordained marriage,his ordained family & God.He has no conscience;if he had one than he would NOT did what he is still doing.Our children has handicaps also so that means he can not deal with them like he is with me.His girlfriend has no handicap so he does not have the pressure.He is two face toward our children & they see that in him My christain counsellor told us that is how he can now live his life being two face.He is not a man,he is still a boy & does not want to have responsibilities& be the leader of his true family

Katrina	Honestly, what can you do? Do you really want to do anything? Especially if he is abusive. I would get myself and our kids together and move on. That's what "I" would do.

bigmomma s	if he divorced you over something like that the he really never loved you.because if he did then he would have looked over that promble of you.i,m that way and my husband is still with me.

tjnstlouismo	Stay in counseling to deal with the fact that he's gone and not coming back. Then using your handicap as a crutch and learn ways to work around it. Let go of your anger and parent your children. Don't worry about why he did it, the fact remains that he did and you can't control that. Move on with your life.

joe	june, my wife answerd you just the other day(sxybrwneyedgrl) her son is terminal and has had two liver trans as well as being deaf.your counselor is right your ex is a boy and doesnt stand a chance of being a man. with out sounding condensending you now have the decision of either being like him or rolling up your sleves and being a real mom. he is what he will be , and nothing will change that. its time to teach your kids how to be and how not to be you have an opprotunity to take advantage and utilize this as a learning lesson for all involved. find a real man and a real role model. my step son has a real role model in comparison to the father that left his family becuase "he thought" his sons illness was to much on " him" i love this boy as if i was his biological father and he recipicates his love as if i was. you can acheive being the best mom by not dwelling in the past and move on... i wish you all the luck and all our prayers on your future

janet r	Count your blessings Sister!! He sounds like a tyrant, you and your children, should be much happier without having to deal with him on a daily basis. Handicaps cannot be helped and anyone who mistreats someone because of them, better look out!! The old saying "What comes around goes around",could very easily hit home with him! All it takes is one accident. No one has to wish it on him, but trust me, God sees all!! No bad deed goes unpunished. You just try to get over this guy, he is the one who bailed, so don't feel guilt over being attracted to another man! There is love for you, just get out there and find it! Best of luck to you and yours!

free_angel	You found out Mr. Right turned out to be Mr. Wrong. There are other fish in the sea, it's not like he's the best catch of the day. He's this other woman's problem now. Be glad you're rid of him.

Lili	IF HE WANTS TO LEAVE JUS LET HIM LEAVE..... HE NOT DOIN NOTHING BUT JUS HOLDIN YOU N YOUR FAMILY BAK GIVIN YALL STRESS!!! SUE FOR CHILD SUPPORT GET FINACIAL & EMOTIONAL HELP FROM FAMILY MEMBERS &FRIENDS U CAN TRUST!!!!! GET A LAWYER!!

ozjason76	Im sorry dont take it personally its life.