Whats the best way to bring this up?

Kay	Remove yourself and the baby from the situation... Call your parents and ask them to come and have a meeting with you. It might be better to discuss this on your turf. Let them know you have decided to leave the drunkard and need their help. Soon, you can stand alone, get a job and make some preparations to move out on your own. There are millions of women doing it and you can, too. Good luck.

your_mija_69	You won't seem like a "moocher". She offered the help and you hadn't reached your limit at that time. Go to her explain what you just told us and ask her if the offer is still open. When your there help out the best you can, if you help out your mot a moocher.Also if your husband hasn't admitted his problem something drastic like this might help his realize. My husband is now 4 yrs sober and we are back together and doing 100% better. When your out of the house try and bring up the problem with him maybe he will listen! Hope everything goes the way you want it to. My prayers are with you.

Become a better person	either you can ask, since they know your sitiuation..or just be independent like most single parents are and do it on your own.

Help Me Help You	your mother wants the best for you and your child, she would never think you sound like a moocher. swallow your pride and do something now before its too late.

Aine14	You shouldn't be worried about your pride. Be worried about yourself and your baby. Get out now. The situation is bound to get worse. Your Mom offered to take you in. You and your baby are safe there, isn't that the most important issue here? Good Luck & God Bless.

yubuggin?	your desperate loose the pride and do whats right. "hey looks like I'm gonna be staying with you for awhile its here or a shelter" I'm sure they wont mind or think any less of you they probably hate him anyways.

greengirl2202000	Let your love and concern for your daughter give you the courage to ask for help. Call them up and say, "I am ready to make a change in my life for the sake of my baby and I need your help please". She's your mom... she would be devastated if you didnt ask her for help when you need it the most. Be prepared to give them a plan for how you intend to get your own place as soon as possible. Good luck!!!!

Tammy G	Don't worry about what you look like. The most important thing is getting you and your baby daughter out of a bad situration. I left my alcoholic husband 12 years ago and my kids were 8 years old and 11 years old. I didn't care what anyone thought, I knew I had to get out. You deserve better and it's time you do it. Call your mom and tell her you are leaving him and need a place to stay until you get on your feet. Trust me, she will be there for you . Good Luck and God Bless!!!

Toto	No other and better choice - Only move out option. Thanks to your parents to bee for you, take the helping hand move out. Maybe the alcoholic is going find out what he is loosing and wake up to save his and family life.

Like Glue	She loves you. She wants to see you happy so she would probably enjoy you moving. No sweat.

<<SEXY MOMMA>>	Just tell her that things have became unbearable for you and you have to get out of there. Explain to her that you just need some time to situate yourself and you will get a place of your own as soon as you can.

pinky-9	I guess you're not so close with your mom ... are you? Well i think you should complain about it to her and be like i have no where to go and try to make it seem like they came up with the idea. and then wen the ask u to move in,,, you refuse a few times and then say well i guess for a little while, till i find a place of my own... try it out take a chance , if they don't ask you ... you don't have anything to loose. good luck

mr. Bob	All you have to do is ask yourself what is more important your pride or your daughter? once you answer that question then the rest of your questions will be answered at the same time.

cajunpalomino	I went through the same thing but ex-wife was not alcoholic. I asked mom for help with accomodations, but, I also gave a timeline as to when I would leave as well. This gives not only you a realistic goal, but let's the parents know that you are responsible and prepared to work on your situation accordingly.... :) Worked for me...:)

lisaisfunn1	your mom will not feel like your mooching if she asked before then im sure the offer still stands now that you have a child you need to swallow your pride and do whats best for your kid that baby comes first and if its not safe get out your mom might give you the i told you so speech but anything is better then staying in a bad relationship

WellTraveledProg	I really think you should just be straightforward and honest...but if that's a problem for you then try it this way: You: Mom, I can't stay with that loser anymore. I'm afraid for my safety and for my daughter's safety. But I can't afford a place of my own, what do you think I should do? Her: Oh, dear, you can come stay with us! It's no problem, that's what family is for! Of course you should leave him, it's not safe. You: Thanks, mom, you're the best! I'll take you up on that until I can get my own place. How's that?

razzyrascal	You are right by leaving that is the best thing for your daughter. I would swallow your pride before your alcoholic husband harms you or the baby, and just stay with your mom until you can get on your feet. I am sure the pride you feel you will lose by asking to move in would be less devastating then your daughter getting harmed by her father. Good luck and I wish you the best.

mande	The good thing is that you've already decided you need to get out...both for yourself, and for the baby. I don't think you'd sound like a moocher. Just tell them you've decided what's best for both of you, and that you'd like to take them up on their offer for help...until you can get established. Then, when you move in, do things like offer to cook or help clean up. As long as you do your part and they see that, I don't think they'd mind. Families stick together in times like these. Good luck.

ed201283	GET OUT NOW!!!! Tell them what you just told a few thousand strangers and they will be glad to help.

daggermouth	well my suggestion is just ask. they have offered so I am sure they will be happy to help, if you want to make it seem less like mooching, they you can offer to help pay for food or utilities or something. they know your situation and you should not feel bad about needing help. Everyone needs help once in a while, you should only feel bad if you never try to get back up ;)

cupidgirl	I think you should take your mom up on her offer & do what you have to do until you get on your feet- it will be good to have emotional support from your family during this transition also. Best of luck to you & your baby & I commend you on being strong enough to make the best decision for your child- God bless

txgirl_2_98	Your mother has already offered to help you, so it wouldn't be mooching. I think a good way to open the conversation is to just tell her that you've made the decision and you think you are really ready to leave your husband. Let it unfold from there. Good luck!

sarah071267	Just bring it up. She is your mother and she will not want you or her grandchild in that situation. Just tell her that it won't be for long, just until you can get on your feet.

GeysaVD	How about sharing your story with your family and asking for their advice on the situation? You can explain the fact that you've reached your limit and that you fear for your child. Most likely your Mom will offer to help you without you having to explicitly have to ask to move in with her...

Privratnik	Just leave a "Dear John" letter. It's a classic and it still works. Seriously, there's no benefit in turning this into a confrontation. In fact, it could be dangerous. Just tell your Mom you're doing it, set a date, leave the note, and get the heck out.

foreverbean	Use you baby as your in. Make it to be that you need to stay with bthem till you can get on your feet, so you can get your daughter out of possible harms way.

Tet	Um...get a job, one that pays the best?

wmichgrad	Explain it to her exactly as you have right here. Caring about the welfare of you child is not mooching.

non_apologetic_american	Don't ask her. Tell her. Say: "Mom, for the sake of your grand daughter I need to come and live with you for a while."