When did cheating becomes "mistakes"?

presleygirl	Poor girl, this should be her happy time- you are so right! cheating is cheating, buying the wrong ingredients for a cake you plan to make is a 'mistake', Like the way people are so cavalier about their lives today? It takes time to cheat, to flirt, to drive somewhere, to get undressed, etc. all this time you know exactly what you are doing----A MISTAKE IS SOMETHING WE DO BY ACCIDENT.-- no, I would advise her not to get married to him. Good thing you have wisdom as the older woman. if he's not madly in love w/her at this time--when would he be? There are good men out there, she deserves better. she should take a trip to Europe with her best friend in June, or with you and have a ball, and get him out of her system.

Kiss Me	dump his ***! once a cheater always a cheater! i know i've dealt with plenty of them

cathy	ive been cheated on and its not easy to forget about but i think she should post pone the wedding and wait a bit until shes over it if she doesnt get over it then he needs to get out of the picture.i mean you can never forget about something like that but give it time

mrs_endless	He is just trying to see if she will buy the "mistake" excuse....to him it was only a mistake because he got caught, and next time he cheats he will be a little more careful so that he will not get caught at it. My opnion is that I think that your daughter should call off the wedding. She does not necessarly have to end the relationship....but I do think that no marriage should take place. It is much cheaper to stop it now rather than wait until they are married....and end up divorcing. Plus she is not going to be able to trust him in such short amount of time....and it would just be crazy to marry when you cannot trust your mate.....for her to every trust him again he is going to have to earn it, and I mean work hard.....but this is something that is going to take a long time, and she will never fully trust him again. I just don't think it is a good idea for her to go through with the wedding.....she needs to show him that she does have a back bone....because evidently he does not think she does. To save her sanity....call it off. she will eventually feel better. I just don't think this is the guy for her, and he definantly does not love her....because if he did, he would have never cheated in the first place....and this may not be the only time he has cheated...but it may be the only one he will admit to, because he got caught with this one, but not the others......I do feel sorry for you daughter....it is always so exciting to plan and shop for this special day.....but she needs to save it for that special man. Good luck, and be there for her....she needs support, someone to listen.

boomboombaby	Depends.... If she loves him and he TRUELY loves her then they can get through this. She may have some trust issue's but if she will let him he can gain some trust. Have your daughter look at some of these. http://dating.about.com/od/cheating/qt/SaveRelations.htm http://www.celebratelove.com/cheater.htm (down at the bottom) http://www.whispy.com/infidelity_affairs_cheating.htm

ro19_2000	i know what u mean...its cheating, but may have been a mistake to him, which in reality may have been what it was, that really depends on if he ends up doing it again...as far as if she should end it or not...that really depends on if she thinks/feels that she can trust him again...if she can't, end it...if she thinks that she can, maybe just postpone it a while...even if just until she knows what she really wants to do...sounds like she is really torn up about it if she's crying all the time, which i understand...but if she's that unhappy...then she should end it now... now what i would do, cuz of what i've been through myself already...i would end it, cuz i may be able to trust him again, but it may always be in the back of my mind, which in turn would drive me crazy if/when i don't know where he is...if she ends up like that...it will tear what relationship they have apart...u have to have trust for any relationship to work...good luck....

Maricel S	Either postpone the engagement or end it altogether. If he's doing this now before they are married, think of what he's capable of after they're married. At least she found out before it was too late. Saying that cheating is a mistake is just another excuse among many excuses.

Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot	Someone once told me that the man you marry should never make you cry. I've cried over the actions of my husband's family members, be he himself has never done anything to make me cry.

livingstonseagull43	Cheating is a mistake but most cheaters don't see it that way. If your daughter's fiance cheated before the wedding, it could be a sign of what will happen after the marriage. This guy clearly is not ready for a serious commitment like marriage. The big question is what is he doing to show he is serious about not letting this happen again. Is he still seeing the one he cheated with? Is she someone that will be in their lives all the time? If she is crying all the time, she is still very very hurt and probably not ready to marry yet either. Myself, I would at least postpone the wedding and see if this guy is truly sorry and serious about never cheating again. And if I was the bride to be, that would take a very long time.

twin2	End it...if the foundation of the relationship which trust is flawed. She will always have a question in the back of her mind if he could be truly trusted. A mistake is running into the store and buying the wrong brand of tampons, not consciously falling into bed with someone.

no noe special	No! Especially if she has morals by which she stands. I'm sure your daughter deserves the best, and cheating is not a mistake. People have the wisdom to know the difference, they just don't choose the wiser decision at that time. She shouldn't have to be apprehensive for the rest of her life everytime he goes out. No one deserves a cheater. Convince her to break the engagement and make him cry for once. Hope I've helped.

Troberson21	I recommend that they seek pastoral counseling b/f they marry.

jacqui w	Yeah a mistake all right if she goes ahead and marries him she will be making a doozy! But it is her choice.

blazegirl	End the relationship because if he already makes her cry she is in for a lifetime of tears.

#1 Happyslip fan on Youtube	u already know the answer. she already knows the answer.

Goodspeed	end it...mistakes are preventable but cheaters are not!..

bayphoto3001	It is a mistake that will happen again. People who have done it will do it again. Try to convince her to find a more stable person.

a.rose19	Haven't you ever heard the phrase "Once a cheater, always a cheater" it is definitely true most the time.... basically either your daughter can leave him now, hurt and get on with her life or hurt longer and eventually have the same results..... Tell her to dump him and find a guy that will appreciate her and what she brings to a relationship!

Poppet	End it. No reason to enter a marriage with deceit and lies and pain.

Curry	Cheating isn't a mistake; it's cheating. The mistake would be in marrying him.

nidan	cheating is premeditated and says a lot about someone. Mistakes don't usually require a truthful answer and obviously can be forgiven. I would suggest dumping the bum being as this is a prelude of things to come. Much easier to get rid of him now than it is after the marriage and a couple of kids.

jnt308	End or postpone the engagement. It sounds like she hasn't yet forgiven him for his "mistake". That is no way to start off a marriage, IMHO. As my friend always said, better a broken engagement than a broken home!

B Jones	I recommend ending the engagement. Most men do not change who they are and what they want just because they get married.

Ms Pollyanna	She should put off the wedding until they can see clearly, what they really want in a marriage.

Violet Pearl	he's a lying cheater who could have even given her an STD-- or a baby from another woman in a few months. Crying all the time isn't the way to lead up to a marriage. Dump the loser.

fireball226	I sure wouldnt...they havnt started and already he does that? NO way

dad	Your the dad bust him in the balls

Tanara J	end da damn marrige dat guy can rot in a sac