When do you know enough is enough and to just get a divorce?

DEDE	WHY PUT YOU AND YOUR KIDS THROUGH THAT YOU AND YOUR KIDS DESERVE BETTER. I THINK U SHOULD SEEK HELP FROM A PROFESSIONAL AND IF HE CONTINUES THEN DO WHAT U HAVE TO DO

curious connie	Honey you have two choices. Take your children and leave or if you love him enough and can do it, turn a blind eye.

raven	enough is enough the first time he cheated on you. do you think you deserve that kind of treatment? cheating is disgusting and wrong. what if he brings home a happy little std? your children would be better off without seeing him treat you like this. do you have girls? boy? both? what if boys think this behavior is ok? they will likely cheat on girlfriends/wives in their future. and what about girls? if they think that behavior is ok then they are likely to be cheated on. you should leave him, teach your kids not to cheat and not to put up with a cheater. then, find yourself a nice guy that actually cares about you and loves you. that's what you deserve and what your children should be raised around.

snapdragon	If hes doing it to you and the other men in his family do it to there wives do you really want your children to grow up thinking this is ok. Come on lady if this what your children see this is what they will learn. This is not ok pack your stuff and go. I mean fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me and you waited for a third time and are still with him your letting him think its ok to cause your still there. If God wanted you to be a rug for someone to wipe there feet on he wouldn't have made you human.

Prechaman	I prefer if you divorced him because cheating is the only grounds of divorce according to the Holy Bible or yall can seek Christian counseling and work it out but you need to do one of these that I have shared with you and please remember God is behind you in what ever of these decisions you decide. I'm praying for you. God Bless

free_angel	As the old adage goes....3rd's time a charm. Show him the real meaning of that and let him know you no longer find his cheating "charming."

kandjforever	OK I THINK THAT BY 9 YEARS YOU SHOULD KNOW THAT IF HE LOVES YOU HE WOULDNT HURT YOU BY CHEATING ON YOU. I KNOW ITS HARD WHEN YOU LOVE SOMEONE AND THERE IS KIDS IN THE MIX. BUT THINK LIKE THIS, YOUR KIDS SHOULD COME FIRST, SO IF YOUR NOT 100% HAPPY THEN NEITHER ARE THEY. SO TAKE A STAND FOR ALL THE WOMEN OUT THERE THAT ARE TOO SCARED AND DONT HAVE ENOUGH CONFIDENCE, BECAUSE YOU CAN DO IT! YOU DONT NEED ANYONE TREATING YOU THIS WAY, AND YOU DEFINATLY DONT WANT YOUR KIDS GROWING UP THINKING ITS OKAY FOR ANYONE TO BE CHEATED ON OR TREATED WRONG BY ANYONE! IT WILL HURT FOR AWHILE BUT GIRL TRUST ME, IN THE END HE WILL REALIZE WHAT HE LOSES OUT ON!!!!! AND BY THEN YOU WILL HAVE SETTLED DOWN WITH MR. RIGHT!!

scott_v1963	The answer is quite simple, the choices are just 2: Enough is enough, leave him now Enough will never be enough you will stay forever and tolerate his activities

Stewy	Well, there's no easy answer. There's the obvious choice to say that you should pack up and leave. Then there's the idea of settling things in court and hopefully you're capable of taking care of the children. There's also the notion of having your children raised in a disjoint family. Then again, having them raised in a family where the father is cheating isn't setting a good example. Overall, I'd suggest leaving... though this is so much easier said than done... and the sooner the better.

stepintostep	When you truly feel you have had enough you want be asking us you will be doing what you know you should do LEAVING HIS A**. I'm sorry but you have to stop this on going cycle of being lied to and taken advantage of. First respect comes for one's self and then you will demand that others have the same. But, if you keep taking him back no matter what the costs then he is going to think that no matter what he does that it is ok, because you are only going to take him back. Some women think that they need a man so bad they are willing to do and take anything to keep him. So, stand up not only for yourself but for your kids. What are you teaching them(kids are really smart now a days)that this behavior is alright. Show this man that there is a new light and that you are not going to take it anymore. Remember, the best revenge is simply move on with your life and don't look back. And I promise you one day in his pathetic miserable life he is going to look back and wish he held on to a woman like you. So stop moping and wondering how can you change him cause you can't he has got to want to change for himself. Good luck to you and keep your head held high.

lsp	yes leave-do something for yourself for once. and never stay together just because you have children thats not helping them they don't want to live in a broken household. they want a happy mom.You deserve a normal relationship

TO	you should have chase him out of the house and get child support from him. If you still can't bear to do this, give him 1 last chance without telling him. If he cheated the fourth time, it time for you to take out your courage n chase him out of the house, out of your family. The children will understand you when they grow older.

Kaia	When you decide you aren't going to take any more. When you decide that what your children are being taught is that you are a door mat, and that's not what you want them to think. For me, I made two lists. One list was all the reasons to stay married. The other was why I shouldn't. The list with the reasons to stay was really small. The reasons to get out was huge. I put them away, and revisited them a few months later. I moved most of the things from the reasons to stay off, and added some on why I should go. I realized that I didn't want my daughter growing up thinking THIS was a normal marriage. So, I got out. You'll make your own decision in your own time, and in your own way. It'll either be to stay...or to leave. You're the only one who can decide.

spirit2	3 Strikes and you're OUT! You have given this man way to many chances. If he hasnt changed by now hes always going to cheat. You do have some choices, one you can stay and keep gettin hurt and continue allowing him to endanger your health (HIV, Herpes or any other veneral disease that could come your way.) Or you can leave have peace of mind, cry those tears and hurt for a while but recover eventually and meet someone esle who has the same ideas about marriage that you do. Its obvious marriage doesnt mean the same to him. Leaving isnt easy but it beats staying.

pamlar	the trust is gone and truthfully it cant be repairs i was married to my hubby for 13 years and i have 3 small children my ex cheated 4 times i finally said enough and now im happily married to a wonderful man i will always love my x husband but i dont think he really loved me or he wouldnt of destroy me and are kids the way he has sometimes you need to think of what is best for you and yes it will hurt but you can do better then that dont wait till you feel trapped in it my x begged me back cause everytime he cheated i took him back he thoughtid always be there ever time he screwed up and the last time i wasnt i got strong and walked away. good luck to you

sweetgranny06	if you think enough is enough why don't you divorce his butt

notyochic	most would say when the love is gone! i say it has nothing to do with love! ask yourself if you can live without this person in your life? if you can than you should not be together!!

Theresa P	I went through the same thing but without the kids. And it is going to be hard but I think that you need to be strong for your kids and you need to leave. He is not going to stop cheating on you. Even if he says he will he wount. So pick up your stuff and get out. You will be so much better off. I did the same thing. You will be happy again. please just do it.

â™¥Hottieâ™¥	l would leave him:)

dca2003311@yahoo.com	You only have two choices #1 Accept it or #2 Reject him and his behavior. Doesn't seem like a healthy recipe to me........If its contributing to your happiness or is it causing misery and pain? When is enough, enough*...

Mommy to Joshua	I think that when you are asking this question, you've already answered it. It's great that you gave him a second chance but... a third and a fourth? There is a saying - "Hurt me once, shame on you, Hurt me twice, shame on me." God Bless, Good Luck

Suzy Q	its enough when you can get moving and leave. if you are in the hosue throw him out. that is all and get lawyer but you have to be strong and not turn mushy again. yes, its all your ball game and when you are strongest and you nearly have to hate him that is what it is. but i can be done if you dislike him enough

Annie Oakley	Since you love him, leaving him would most likely be more hurtful that staying with him. My friend married a guy who cheated on her more than 20 times. I used to ask her why she didn't either divorce him or kill him. Her answer was this: "if I leave him, I will be alone with 3 children to raise by myself and he will just go on with his life and find someone else. I'd rather stay with him & make the rest of his life miserable." I know how much it hurts to be cheated on, but I wouldn't make my life worse by becoming a single mother. The odds of finding a decent man who is willing to take on a divorced woman and 3 children are very slim. Fight for your man. Don't let another woman take him away. Is he having long-term affairs with other women, or is he having one-nighters and never seeing them again? If it was happening to me, as a wife, I would find the female who is messing with my husband and confront her. I would make her life as miserable as possible. Your husband will think twice about messing around if he knows you are going to fight for him and not just belly-up. Your children need their dad in their lives. Fight for what is yours. Hire a private investigator to document evidence and confront all involved. You can make it so unpleasant that your husband won't want to even think about seeing someone else.

oday	You're a tough lady to begin with. I salute your endurance. Prolonging agony could harm your well-being and you kids as well. Don't wait the time when you don't even "know" who you are, because you've given your "all" to him. Being with him is just like hurting yourself and your kids, too. He never changed. It's already in his system, nobody could change that, even you. Learn to love yourself first. Perhaps, nothing had left for you any more. Give yourself a break.

letstalk	Dear Cookie, It looks like you are married to a run of the mill filaderer who is from a family of filanderers. He may not know what fidelity is. This however is not your problem. What is your problem however is the abuse you AND your children are enduring. Do you want them to think that dadd'ys way is the way? Because they don't miss a beat. If you don't want to uproot, Sue him for divorce and set yourself free, take back your power! You are your children's only hope for healthy relationships and a fighting chance at forming healthy families of their own. This man has a problem that is bigger than you. Let go and let God, put yourself first for a change.

RB. Johnson	If he is still cheating then you better get checked out for aids and STD's. You are playing with fire and you will get burned if he has the aids virus. Stop being so hard on yourself and start getting hard on him after all you do deserve better and so does your kid's. He is not at all a good roll model for them if he believes cheating on his wife is the norm. Get help.

Klingon	Pack up the kids & leave ,divorce him.You MUST do this before your health & the kids health gets worse . What kind of message are you sending your kids, if you stay.