When my husband gets mad at me he doesnt come home at night, what should I do??

Ice	Please don't get upset, but it sounds as if he's using anger with you as an excuse to stay out all night. You may discover that he's getting mad at you or starting fights with you on certain nights of the week. I would be speculating only, but I think there is something else going on here and the fight with your is a farce. Try to notice a pattern. See if he creates problems so he can fight with you. If you see a certain night repeating, be unavailable that night, go grocery shopping or out with your sister or something so he has no one to fight with. If he still makes up a reason to be angry and goes out all night....pretty good sign something is up. You are going to have to make a decision regarding your feelings about the marriage, as I think there is some damage here. If he's getting physical when you fight, you need to have the locks changed and let him stay wherever he's sleeping from now on. Good Luck

keziah	I don't know but it doesn't sound good. My husband gets mad at me too sometimes but he doesn't do that. We talk about our problems and work through them. I think there might be a different reason why hes gone, besides being mad at you. There might be another woman somewhere hes spending the night with but he claims that hes mad. You need to wake up and do something. That's a red flag!! I don't know what u should do but you need to do something, don't just sit there

betty	KICK HIS *SS,AND BEAT HIM WITH A CAST IRON FRYING PAN THAT'S WHAT I DO.

SEXXYDARKCHOCO	It could be his way of getting out of the house to see the other woman he has.Think about it's time u argue. He probably is the one who starts it hah. u need to sit down with him and ask him what's really going on. Do u even know where he lays his head? honey if it is another woman leave his dusty tail

...	do what he's doing...cheat!...or not.... I'm sorry to hear that but...I'm sure it has crossed your mind on what it is exactly he does......don't be mad or sad...get even!!!

ameer z	a man always do what ever he wants to do if you think how much he loves you,then first ask yourself how much you love him

coast2coast5150	get counseling for your relationship (which sounds like it's pretty close to the end) or cut to the chase and make it possible for you to separate until you can find a more compatible person to love. people in love dont leave eachother alone at night or hanging like that. lose the loser. or maybe you should do some sort of self evaluation first - take an outsider's opinion.

Stars-Moon-Sun	I would demand that he tell you where he is. Maybe you can have a coworker of his help ya out. I had a similar problem with an ex...That's why he's my EX....If he loves you, you have every right to know where he goes after work. Good luck.

charlesjerrell	one of two things, boot his *** out or u do the same and see how he likes it

moma	He might just want to spend some time away from you to cool off or maybe he doesn't want to come home because he doesn't want to argue or get mad at you anymore. He really shouldn't be doing this, you two need to talk over your conflicts in order to move on from them. You might want to get some marriage counseling so the two of you can learn how to communicate better and to be able to air out any problems you have with each other.

chicotylerkatie@yahoo.com	when he leaves you leave and he will come home then you come home till he gets tired of leaving and you get what you want

flawless_n_enviied	you should not second judge yourself unless you feel as your wrong...dont let him make you feel bad...there is a possiblity of stress at work or family issues...so try to sit down with him and slowly help him to open up...this could make your relationship stronger rather weaker...and if that doesnt work...try to do thing wit a little more "umph"...things should get better...take care and pray...its probably a sign...

assajvent	leave.... go to a hotel or something... that way when he comes home and doesn't find your there HE can worry for a change... do that every time he does it... and every time he does it do it for one more night than the last time... that way he'll get a little more scered each time and won't know that ur just doing it for revenge... tell him the next time he does it you won't come home at all!!

girleyusa	My suggestion would be counseling. If he's not willing, you may need to consider living separtely.

sweetgurl13069	stop doing things that make him mad at you. If its on-going and your tired of it, pack up his bags and set them outside.

3D Farms	Change the locks on the door .

n9flyboy	just tell him that you will do it with or without him... he'll stay home then... or he will never return... its your choice. but you will know the truth.

joejoe	ask him where he goes

Valley Mental Health tooele Utah	stop being bossy and tell him you love him more often

simplyenigmatic25	Him not coming home because you have a fight is not acceptable. You need to talk to him about his behavior. It's fine if he goes out to cool his head but he should come home and you should be talking your problems out and resolving them.

willow, the yodakitty from hell	Get a new door lock !! ;-)

Jennifer B	be grateful he had the good sense to leave and get away from you and the situation instead of beating you within an inch of your life for being such a b*tch!

Marines 4 Life	find a new husband. listen, im sorry, but if he takes off and doesnt even come home, more likely then not he is or has cheated on you. im sorry, but i think you should leave him and start over. good luck hun.

gcbtrading	Don't make him mad.

c'estmoi	Lock him out. If he wants to stay out all night, fine, but he shouldn't expect to get back in right away.

Chantele M	give him time and space

Justlookin	Consult a divorce attorney.

Joe	Demand that he respect you and come home to you everynight or to not come home at all. Trust and respect are key to any relationship, and it doesn't sound like you two have either right now. Best of luck.

smoochy	thats a bad sign..........i'd find out where he is going