Why do people think so little of marriage nowadays?

obese cat lady	Never underestimate the power of having someone willing to peel the cigarette butts off your back in the morning.

bestadvicechick	I agree. People tend to hear the statistics and blame the INSTITUTION of marriage instead of taking a deeper look at the problems that cause the break up. I believe the institution of marriage itself is a wonderful thing and can be great when carried out with wisdom, kindness, and love. But within those 50% who are getting divorced, there are teen couples who are only getting married because the girl is pregnant....or highschool sweethearts who have never experienced anything else so they get the wandering eye.....or people who went into marriage thinking that would solve all the r'ship issues they already had but it doesn't obviously. Marriage itself is a wonderful thing. The reason there is such a high divorce rate is because alot of people these days don't have a clue what one should consider before getting married.

NicotineFit	I don't understand it either. I adore being married and took the choice of getting married very seriously.

none	Marriage is an outdated obsolete social custom. You dont need it to love someone, have a child, or live with someone. Being married doesnt keep people from falling out of love with one another or growing apart. It doesnt keep cheaters from cheating and it doesnt make a relationship last forever that otherwise wouldnt. In short, there is no reason any thinking analytical person would bother.

Charlie149	Hundreds of millions of people are happily married. Don't put too much weight on the opinion of one cynic.

So Condescending	People now-a-days are spoiled. Weve come to acostomed to the fact that we have a lot of choices. We say that were making a commitment when we marry- but now ppl are bailing out at the very sign of complications. Back then people were taught to just deal with it and make it work. Dont get me wrong, sometimes divorce is absolutley necessary- but in the same sense societys ppl just are in it for themselves. Regardless of how it 'used to be'. Its a dog eat dog world, and almost no one is willing to stick around and 'try' to fix things- we simply just move on. All in all, be happy that you love your marraige. Your exactly what the majority of America wanted but just cant seem to acheive. Be thankful. So high-5 to you for your enthusiasm on marraige- i hope to be in your shoes one day. â™¥ KC

Sarah	Corruption of the moral structure of this country, and the world. People are becoming so desensitized and so selfish. It seems like everyone now is all about " ME ME ME". They don't hold themselves accountable towards anyone anymore. Marrage is completely a commitment and always will be. No matter what people start to believe about it.

USAGUY	The younger generation doesn't see marriage the same as the older generation. My generation doesn't see that marriage is the same as living with someone but having a piece of paper and ring that says your "married." Which is the truth.

carrythejacketflag	after 21 yrs of marriage and shes the one asking for a divorce---its not my fault--she gave up

no_fool	Well it is reading things like how you are happy to be married that makes a good counter-arguement to today's cynics :o)

KJ	coming here to see happy people is like looking for a sad person in a superbowl party, right after the home team wins the super bowl.

The One That Got Away	Yeah... being married is alright. But, I think a large part of people thinking little of it is the fluctuation of women. I think they are just less patient with men now. They have no problem with putting their foot down and getting out if she needs to. Women know now that they will be just fine on their own.

cooter726	I loved being married, but my ex did'nt. Once burnt, twice shy.

Rick	Society as become all about "me." Everyone thinks of themselves first and has become selfish beyond reason. The media has a lot to do with it but I believe it's more of lack of God.

Mickey	i think it is because they see so many failed marriages nowadays!! all they see is fights and arguments!!

natasha	I agree with you. I love being married and would hate not to have that bond with my husband. If you dont agree with marriage don't do it.

harold	Lot of people still like it and love it. Others use it as a way to get hot meals and someone to cook and clean for them.

docash75	women simply dont depend on men financially anymore

Matilda	i wonder the same thing too. i am not married though. i don't take marriage lightly and i think it's the ultimate commiment to each other. i guess everyone has their own opinion and beliefs and reasons why they don't think marriage matters. and with the times, people are getting married and divorced like it's a trend. so it could be warping peoples image of marriage.

Katrina Vladden	you can get married in a couple of hours and divorced in the same week no to mention the internet has caused a lot of spouses leaving their partners to pursue something that that do not get from the original. To me marriage is something serious and should be respected.

darbygirl	38 years and strong. Too many groups tell you to run as soon as any little thing goes wrong. There's no encouragement to try and work things out. good for you!!!!

imtheonenobodylikes	I love being married... I think that some people don't want to because they have parent's that are divorced and such and I think that they are afraid of making that commitment with someone that isn't meant for that person or that person just want's to be single for ever.

Marbts	Because they were not thought about morals, commitment , respect ect. PLAIN and Simple .

TheWanderer	It is sad.. Marriage isn't seen as a permanent bond. People don't take it seriously!! Till Death Do we part!!!

Flavor Vortex	I think the current generation of people getting married or people who have been married for a little while now are people that grew up in a time when a ridiculously high number of divorces occurred. If you compare your grandparents era to your parents you'll understand what I mean, divorce was almost unheard of. So I think these folks, myself included, just kind of grew up in situations that didn't really portray marriages in very positive light.

Unknown Alias	Why buy the cow...

gypsy g	I loved being married, I just couldn't love who I was married to. People are just too selfish nowadays to stay married. That is why they are calling it the "ME" generation. I can't say that I'm without selfishness, because I have my selfish moments as we all do. But when you give, and give and give and the other person continually takes and takes and takes to the point that they want more of you than you can give...Its bound to go bad.

Angela H	Not everyone feels the way you do...not everyone feels the way your friend does either. Plus, not all marriages are stable or healthy. Many people still view marriage as a sacred lifetime commitment. Others view it as people used to view "going steady"...a commitment to be monogamous to each other and own stuff together as long as you feel this way about each other...which right now, feels like forever. I think it's because divorce is easier now and is viewed as socially acceptable. Where, 50 years ago, a divorced woman was "used goods" and often looked-down-upon by the community, so they avoided divorce at all costs. It's also the result of the new "me" attitude. It's all about the individual now. Faith is about your individual relationship with God, Twix is now "two for me, none for you" when their commercials used to emphasize how nice it is to have one for yourself and the other to share, "Cheez It - Get your own box.", etc... We see messages everywhere that our own personal happiness and freedom is the number one priority. Not that long ago, family and community were #1. People just say "well, if you're not happy, move on to someone or something new."

Erika	I love being married too...I guess it's just so common for people to get divorced now some people just don't see the point.