Why does marriage make me feel ill?

Brittney	Is it possible that you are gay, and not really attracted to men? This happens a lot more than you might think. Maybe your boyfriend is not the man, ( or woman) for you. I would not advise entering a marriage when the thought makes you physically ill.

Don't take life 4 granted	ur unsure!

Killa	Because your not ready to settle down you need to explore your options my advice is not to move to fast or you could hurt someone or you could get hurt, mess around a little have fun

cowdog8me	Well, to my knowledge there is no medical reason for this feeling, but what it sounds like to me is that you really aren't in love with your boyfriend, maybe you should make a list of all the things you like about him and all the things you don't like about him, try that and if the don't's are longer i would get out of that relationship.

clusterfuster	Not to be mean, but personally I think marriage is a waste of time. Sounds like you may need to get out of it and start having fun.

Becky	if your boyfriend is saving to buy a ring and the mere mention of becoming his wife makes you sick, then get the hell out of there. be honest with him and tell him how you feel. and for gods sake, as long as you feel this way, don't get married! there are enough divorced people out there.

David C	It is a big decision. No doubt about that. Marriage can make you very happy or very unhappy.This is very scary. After 5 years you should be sure of your feelings.

lillybreeze	it's a premonition

prrfect	if it is making you physically ill then you are not ready to make that big of committment....or you could just be getting cold feet - remember some people get engaged for years prior to actually getting married or don't end up getting married at all - take things one day at a time

C2C	sounds like ur not ready for marriage. my advice is: DON'T RUSH INTO IT or do it just because...

CHEESY â™¥	If your parents had a bad marriage, that would explain it.

Amy B	I felt the same way the first time I got married, and it didn't last. Your bodies way of saying this is not the right thing for you. Do you have doubts?

Rash	You're just nervous, don't worry you'll be ok.

Lost	Your mind is what makes you feel sick practice have one of your guys friend propose to you in your mind think something else it is all in your mind it is not a condition and if this does not work they try a shrink they will be able to help you this a physiological situation it is all in your head.

missy	mayb ur scared of gettin married?

yazmin21	Perhaps your NOT as ready for such a commitment as he is. Talk to him and tell him ahead of time before he goes out and buys you an expensive ring and starts making plans.....

kclarkhorses	I believe they call it nerves. A boyfriend of 5 years buying a ring is a sign that he deeply loves you. If when the time comes and he present you the ring and asks you to marry him and you can not give him an immediate answer than you should not get married because you are not ready for it.

kj	Maybe you are afraid of the commitment. Marriage is suppose to be forever, maybe that's what scares you. It could be simple cold feet and it could be much more serious, like you not feeling that he is really "the one". Only you can decide what makes you feel this way, but you need to think about EVERY aspect of it.

free_angel	He's not the right one for you.

Sandy Sandals	It's nerves or anxiety. If you don't want to get married tell him now. It's hard to say no when they're down on one knee with a big smile on their face. <cringe> If you do want to get married, just take some time to get used to the idea.

foxymoron	uhh sounds to me like hes NOT the right guy.... and what is marriage anyways... a peice of paper from the government... dont do it!

Thomas	You been with your boyfriend for 5yrs that is a good sign that you're satisfy with your relationship. Only a few things that come to my mind and one is Fear! I am sure that you have heard so many bad story about fail marriages that it makes you sick. Because you don't want it happen to you and destroy your dream and hope of a good marriage life. Next, I think you're not ready even being with him for 5 yrs. You feel better in a relationship than married him. Maybe some where deep down inside of don't love him enough to married him. So, I suggest that you sit down and rethink what is wrong and good about married him. If the wrong out weight the good, then you need to have a serious talk with your boyfriend about marriage. Don't let him get his hope up too high when you know that you really don't want to married him. Good luck

jojo	You just aren't ready. You need to let him know how you feel before he spends all his money on a gift that you have no intention of accepting.

Ayo A	then tell him he should hold off for a while. u don't want to get married if u are not mentally ready. it's not a cake walk.

nita5267	Do you not love him, are you not wanting to spend your life with him? If not, best end the relationship. After 5 years, I would if I wasn't married.

Amanda H	Probably just the butterflies from excitement espceailly if this is your first comitted relationship OR could be that you're just not ready yet...........

gone!	Then maybe you should think about NOT getting married to this man. You will probably devastate him when you tell him but you'll devastate him if you, tell him how you feel about the thought of marriage to him Anyway. so don't ruin HIS life by keeping him hanging on when you have no intention of marrying the poor guy.

shellie c	It could have something to do with your childhood.... was your parents divorced.. it could be just part of you being scared of making a commitment.. either way whatever it is.. it seems it is something your not ready for..so take some time and explore why you might be having these feelings..

bSquirrel	Anxiety! It could be the GOOD or the BAD. At that very moment and the onset try to write what you are feeling and thinking and any thought, no matter how obscure. It may be fear of commitment, btu it could be that you are there cuz you 2 are feeling "it has to be this way" and to wait. I am being told that over & over again and I am at 4 months - I hope to make it to your 5!!!!!!!!

PeeTee	This is a psychological problem. Get professional help. Then decide whether to listen to your bf or your subconscious.