Why does my husband confess things to me like what he told me tonight?

Just a guy	Unfortunately....it really was a guy he was peeping on....and it was me.....

Crunchy Sweet	Sounds like it's time for a talk with your hubby. Tell how that makes you feel and ask him why he felt he should tell you about it. Maybe he didnt' want to keep it a secret. I would rather my husband tell me something like that than to hide it and I find out later. Only he can tell you why he is dong it.

mailbox_5	I would go tell your neighbor that hes doing this,, Hes a perv.You should have low self confidence if you stay with him.

lilsunshineray08	that's horrible. ditch him. you're better then that.

Marshall	Give him something besides the neighbor to look at.

KC	How does it make you feel? My guess is that however it's making you feel is exactly how he's trying to make you feel. He knows you well enough to know how that kind of thing would make you feel. It doesn't sound good.

Ms. HeartBeat	No, what is YOUR problem? Why would you internalize the freaky pervert ** your husband does and turn it into some criticism about you? What kind of mess is that? What your husband needs is for you to rise up on his crazy * and tell him that he has issues, and if you ever find out he is doing anything like that again, YOU will call the cops on him yourself. That is what your man is looking for - you to grow a spine. If he says a woman looks good, tell him that you were looking at LL Cool J's new workout book and LAWD that man sure is big, black and beautiful. And since he wears a size 13 shoe you know what that means!! .... Go out to the grocery store with a short skirt on and then come home and tell him how many compliments you got on your legs from the guys and how hot it made you feel. If he says anything negative just say "stop being a playa hata!" In other words, torture him back. Stop taking his crap and not doing anything about it!

Julia	He might have just been really surprised that the woman wouldn't put a shade on her window so that people couldn't see her. He may of only wanted to share that with somebody and it just happened to be you! He probably did not think that it might have bothered you the way it did because he was in his own bathroom. I would watch and observe your neighbors bathroom if you can see it from another window in the apt. If your husband seems to be going in the bathroom at these times then I would go ballistic on him. You could go to your local Walmart store and purchase a cheap window shade ..........then go to her apartment knock on her door and hand it to her. Then inform her that all the men in the apartment complex has been watching her take a shower! Good luck and the best to you.

theoriginalquestmaker	My husband does the same thing when he is drunk. He tells me stuff to try and make me jealous. Sorry for his luck since I rarely get jealous. Just ignore it when he plays his stupid games.

tweedy778	it is a control thing. He knows you have low self-esteem and is using that to control you. If you feel bad about yourself what are the chances you would want to cheat on him? None. You will feel like he is the only one that wants you and he wants to make sure it stays that way. See these things for what they are. aform of abuse and you don't deserve it. No matter what your apperance is look in the mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful and someone does love you/will love you. Slowly bulid yourself back up from the ground he placed you on. Dress up and watch men stare at you! Anything it takes to make you feel better about you. Realize he is trying to make you feel as low as he does, but dont go that road with him walk your own path with your head held high!

Janet	I dont feel sorry for people that feel sorry for themselves. YOu should workout or whatever your prob is to even think that.If you get worked up about it he may think it turns you on to know about it.I would ignore him.

Fresh choice	Dear breezer: It is time to step away from the computer and create an atmosphere that would cause your husband to focus on you only. With every negative there is a positive and by this my meaning is now is your opportunity to build-up that low self esteem that you mentioned. Be creative....

Truth Hurts	Because he doesn't care that he makes you feel bad and he has no respect for your marriage.

Jessy	Why don't you leave him if you think he is doing this on purpose to hurt you?

Psychgrl77	Three things in my opinion could be happening here.... A.-He wants an open relationship, and to be totally honest with you. B. Hes building up small moments that make you tick to get you used to it. Then hes going to open up a can of worms about something bad hes done. C. He wants you to be jelous! He wants you to yell, and want him to stay. He wants you to feel he must stay by trying to satisfy him. In short, he wants you to be jelous to satisfy him Hope i helped!

freedom fighter	you're married to an insensitve loser and maybe you should seek therapy and sort out these insecurity issues. and gain some confidence. get a divorce and then find you a guy who truly loves and respects you. that was the angry me talking. may i suggest both individual and couples therapy on the real. it seems like you both need to talk to someone but that's not cool for him to do. keep your head up. but try doing something different like going to get a make over or what ever it takes to make you feel good a/b yourself. best wishes.

EW	Maybe he feels guilty!

nina j	The problem is move on because thats metal abuse and it gets worser then that he is *** hole

punxsutawney phil	what's your problem? he trusts you. he's telling you stuff, just like you were one of the boys. you'd be whining if he tried to hide it.

contessa	He's a ninny! and you're Mrs. Ninny for marrying him.

Emma	Turn him in to the police for "peeping"... and tell the neighbor that he TOLD you he looked... bet that stops the confessions...

mtnhotte	maybe he is just a dumb a&&.and thought you wouldnt even care..my bf tells me ppl r lookin at me cause im always in front of the window when i get out of the shower..who wouldnt look into there neighbors house if the window was open its funny..i doubt hes trying to make you jealous guys r just like that..and if you have low self asteem its not up to him to make you feel better about yourself you have to do things for yourself that make you feel good

honeybunny	If I where you I would go and tell the women that your husband was peeping into her window, and let her know that your husband told you, then what you need to do is pack your bags and go live with a friend or your parents this man needs help.

mj69catz	He is trying to be honest. If a guy doesn't look -- then I would worry. You do need to tell the woman next door - discreetly - that you can see into her bathroom window when she is showering. She may not be aware of it. And if you don't want your guy to confess this stuff, don't ask him to be honest with you. Get over the feelings that because he looks it means he isn't interested in you -- he loves you and is married to you. Unless he is unable to 'get it up' I wouldn't worry about it.

laura_paura	Maybe he's just telling you to get a rise out of you. Since he knows how to push your buttons, he's gonna do it. Don't satisfy him by blowing up, just say something, like, "oh cool, come get me next time" That should put him in his place.

Franchesca P	He's horny! duh!

ladynamedjane	Well, maybe he looked on accident. The lady should have her curtains pulled where no one can see in. We have a neighbor guy that we would like to go BUY curtains for as he parades around with his curtains open all the time.