Wife vs. Husband? Wives: Wouldn't you be mad?

d-g	you have every right to be mad but at the same time at least he got you a card. then i'd ask why MY naked husband was at someone else's house with flowers lol

Chef Susy--Cookin it up!	I would have to say: if its the thought that counts--his is poorly contrived one! Sorry, you didnt get sweet words. Happy birthday from me!!a complete stranger! lol!

Sweetie	I WOULD LAUGH AND BE GRATEFUL HE CARED ENOUGH TO DO MORE THAN ANYONE ELSE DID I'M SORRY BUT MEN ARE RIGHT SOMETIMES ABOUT THE MAJORITY OF WOMEN THEY AREN'T HAPPY EVEN WHEN A GUY TRIES

HappyGirl	He probably saw how upset you were and tried to lighten the atmosphere for you. Don't get mad at him.

ladygaux	Mad? No. Lets think clearly. If no one called you and the weekend is almost here I would think they were planning something. Just snoop and see what you can find out!

Jack X	Yes. Get mad at him. That will fix the issue he's kidding, but in a serious way, about. It amazes me that women wonder why men have affairs.

BeachBlondie	I's be pretty upset too! That's pretty passive-aggressive of him!

Goodness Gracious	That is very inconsiderate of him especially since he is your husband.

Lucy	His birthday was just last week and I happened to give him a greeting card at 11pm too. Thank God we're not materialistic, we wouldn't survive.

ll <3 II	I would rent a hotel room or bring the kids to a babysitter because obviously he wants to do those things but he can't because of the kids?!?

mjmayer188	I gave my wife that same card last year and I haven't gotten laid since. Do you think it was the card? I laughed my a$$ of when she read it.

cuttie91730	we don't know the other side, so i am sure you are going to get all the, " oh no he didn't" crap on here by most women, so try tobe understanding, you should know why he didn't do more. he has no money left after paying all the bills. duh!

jetta	I would be pissed and I would tell him. I agree with you on your feelings. He didn't think enough of you to buy you anything other than a card. WOW! I wouldn't break him off anything either until he fixes it. Quick, Fast, and in a hurry. Two can play that game. Best wishes.

â™¥ ÅÎ±rá»‰ â™¥	yep... i think it's time to do the same for his birthday. he'll get the point then. i know it's hard to even do that to him. but just say...i just figured you didn't care. then say sweet, now you know how i feel. it works, i promise. gotta have him taste his on medicine.

Gypsy Red	I like funny cards myself. I think you need to lighten up. If you wanted something for your birthday, next time just tell him maybe he just didn't know what to do. If this made you that mad then you need to let him know so that it doesn't happen in the future. Boy I can't wait till Christmas.

abby	idk it seems inconsiderate but maybe he really did forget. did you remind him the day before or week before? you have to remember that he is a MALE and is therefore going to be inconsiderate and forget things. do what YOU think is right since none of us can fully understand the situation. no one can tell you how to feel because its the way that you feel.

â–â–€â–€âœ¿â–€â–€â–Œ LIL BEAR â–â–„â–„âœ¿â–„â–„â–Œ	i like woman 3's answer! I'd be pissed. Especially if I treated him well on his birthday. As his wife, you have a right to voice your opinion. Tell him he hurt you and you deserve better. I'm not talking about him buying you something expensive. I'm saying he should have been nice to you and treated you like a princess if he couldn't get you anything.

LittleMissLate	I can certainly see why you would be mad and hurt by this. How long have you been married? is this normal for him? Some guys are just not all that mushy, but he should certainly do atleast SOMETHING to make your birthday special... I feel for you girl, try talking to him about how it made you feel. He can't undo what has been done for this birthday, but could certainly try and make up for it next year. Hope this helps!

cutiepie216	shut up...are your and my husband friends?...my 24th birthday was sunday...you know what i got...a happy birthday...thats it...not a card nor a present nothing!! i could not believe it...and its not like we dont have the money for him to have gotten me something...i was so hurt by the situation especially since i did alot for him on his birthday...not that i was expecting that much from him, but a little something would have been nice...when i asked him about it the next day he said he didnt know what to get me and changed the subject totally....i swear is it that hard for guys to do something nice for their wives on special days

Vanity Affaire	I would be very upset, not because he just gave me a card, it's not the gift that counts but he put no effort into it whatsoever. He probably grabbed the first card he saw. I would expect a little bit more effort, maybe not something grand but just something to let me know I'm appreciated.

TrueBlond	I agree with you. I would be upset and I would let him not let it go until I knew he would be more considerate. The card is funny I give him that but if that's all you get and you get it at 11pm then I would be so disappointed. He would be treating me to a day at the spa to get over it mentally.

ana malak	I will cry. but of course what can you expect he is a man they don't feel like us, they don't see how important is a birthday for a women and that day we want them to go that extra mile for us, and do something really nice, they don't understand, I would it kick his sss so bad that he wouldn't be able to sit.

choko_canyon	Wow. From a mans perspective I would have to say that not only would I be disappointed in my spouse, but seriously concerned about my relationships with my friends and family. What the hell is going on here? NO ONE even acknowledged your birthday, and all you're worried about is your spouse? That sounds like the LEAST of your issues. Something is seriously wrong.

Mother May Eye	My husband did forget my birthday one year but we were engaged and we were getting married the next month so it was really crazy. It hurt my feelings and I cried and what not. No I didn't hit him or anything, he called me at 3pm on my break to talk and after a couple minutes I confronted him about it and he apologized out his butt! He made it up to me bought me flowers before I got home and had a present but just for got it that day.

RayneBow	I don't think I'd be mad that all he got was a card, but I'd be mad about what the card said probably. As long as he knew it was my birthday and spent some time with me, I would be a happy little duck. But if he didn't even bother to take the time to even just say "happy birthday" or spend a little time with me, then I would be mad and hurt.

sparrow	JoyJoy, sounds like the issue isn't the card, the issue is setting expectations. Obviously he didn't know what your expectations were for your bday. My husband didn't get me anything but that was the expectation. Tell him how it made you feel and let him know you could have done a better job communicating what you exect for your bday. I don't believe in that "he should know" BS, he isn't a mind reader. On the other hand, if past bdays have met your expectations and this one fell thorugh the cracks, you have to find out what is going on with him.

tuffgirl08	I would laugh it off, toss it in the bathroom trash can where he can see it, and when he asks say "oh, I already read it -it was cute". THEN I would be relieved because why do I need him or anyone else to get me a gift I really don't want in the first place??? I would then go and splurge on the exact item that I really did want to treat myself and acknowledge all the triumphs, challenges, and obstacles I have faced over the years and that I am still alive to celebrate them! Last time it was an EXPENSIVE handbag that I always wanted but felt too guilty to ever buy. I still LOVE that purse. When friends saw it they would comment in front of him" WOW, you really treated her for her birthday - what an awesome guy" and he would have to admit he didn't, and I would nicely say "aww, he got me a funny little card though". Ever since he has been really sweet about my birthday. It is very empowering to know you don't need to depend on anyone - you can celebrate yourself and give in to that one splurge every now and then. When you think you are special, others begin to see it too.