Will this ever get better? Or should I just leave?

Shannon	What a horrible thing your going through right now. I grew up in a very alcoholic/violent environment. GET OUT NOW! RAGE does not make sense, RAGE is not rational, RAGE does not understand nor explain. RAGE destroys, kills, damages. Depending upon the severity of the situation, you can possibly help by attending some meetings with him, but you need to do this from afar. He needs to do the work on helping himself out on his own. You need to go somewhere safe that he doesn't know about. Tell him he has three months to show that he's willing to get the help he needs and make some changes. If nothing happens, never talk to him again. But you need to get out for your own safety. He's a time bomb.

?	I would leave for now until u both get help maybe this can b fixed and maybe not but u cant stay there and wait for him to hurt u bad or even kill u . you both can do counseling even if you dont live there

carissa t	Leave. If he hit you once, he will hit you again.

Diddi Di	I think you need to get out of there. Don't waste your time asking questions that you already know the answer to. Phone your domestic violence co-ordinator or the police and they will point you in the right direction. If he is going to get help then let him do it on his own, explain to him in a letter and go somewhere you feel safe. Do it now before its too late.

catwoman	Let me be the first to say-LEAVE!!! Take pictures of yourself to have proof what he has done. Have a friend take them that you trust. I have personally never seen or heard of anyone who is violent get straightened out. Don't stay because the next time you could end dead. Good luck and God Bless.

Kailey	Regardless of whether he wants help....until he GETS it you need to get as far away from him as possible!!! NOW!!!!!!!

Rein	Good Lord!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

CindyLu	It will not get better and you are in serious danger. You need to get out now, get away from him to someplace safe and then stay there until he FINISHES COUNSELLING and even then I would not go back. Do it as fast as you can, get away and stay away, Call the police on him and press charges for your own safety, You cannot save him, you cannot help him you do not have to take this at all so don't

mingcrew	LEAVE HIM, you can live separately and still work on things and go to counseling. Tell him that if he loves you he should want you to be safe until he can learn to control his temper and stop the rages. Get yourself out and do it now before thing get any worse

Cassandra	Has he been drinking or doing drugs?? Because that could definately be the case. If you really want to be with him.. LEAVE and tell him your not coming back until he gets help, and go somewhere safe, and don't tell him where. because if he is THAT crazy, he could come find you. so just be careful hun. If he actually CAN change is the only way you should give in.. just be careful, keep a phone handy at all times when your around him. and TELL SOMEONE!!

Mongo	Go to the courthouse and apply for an ex parte order of protection. This will keep him away from you. Your safety is first. Then, you can consider counseling.

apples	oy vey do you need to ask?

letterstoheather	maybe a trip to jail for domestic assault would help him to see the light... what he is doing is abusive, and you don't deserve it. no one has the right to bring harm to you. your husband likely has some anger issues and problems which he has never addressed properly. he needs HELP... you have to decide what you want to do and whether you believe he can conquer these issues. if it were me? i'd get away from him for a while, still go to counseling but live in another place away from him.. or have him move to his mother's or whatever. then i'd observe to see whether he's making progress or not... some people do recover from these things, while others never do. i wish you all the best.

dixie	I would just call it quits. Hes aggressive and hurting you and thinks its ok, he may be offering going to counseling and getting "help" just so you'll stay but I dont think he'll change.

gatorgirl2e80	well first get out, he needs help if he wants help that is good, but only he can get that. after he has goten a lttle help then you can start coming around and seeing if the help is helping. if not stay away he may never change

irishfirefighter762	run fast and far call the polices

mw	It's not going to get better. Leave before it's to late.

Finally a MRS.. 9-27-08!!	This will NOT get better. Absolutely NOT. How long have you been married? and when did this start? Not that it really matters, but it won't stop. He obviously has some serious issues. You need to get away, move somewhere else, and then if you still feel the need go to counseling.. MEET AT THE counseling place and leave separately. You're life is in danger. Do not stick around...they just say they'll change to keep you around...

AnswerDude	RUN RUN RUN RUN God be with you! You need to be safe, get yourself help!

naj67	For your own safety - leave now!!! No one should be treated as you are. You are way better than that.

k	Leave or get him committed in a mental health institution.

Just me	Next time, you won't have the chance to write in here...go out and talk to someone who can help you.

vaughnc5920	This sounds like a life preservation issue. If he has already assaulted you with a deadly weapon, then you need to get out NOW, and get a restraining order.

Kathy R	I'd say until he starts counseling, you really should separate. Especially since things are violent. It would be the safest thing to do, plus it may also give him the push he needs to continue to get help for his violent behavior. But definitely leave before something tragic happens.

sick world,happy guy	call the police that's domestic abuse/violence. get a restraining order for your own safety

that girl	If I were you, I would have left and filed for divorce already. If you want to try counseling, only give him one chance. If you let him get away with this, you'll end up paying for it. Protect yourself and get out now.

Marina	Sweetie, GET OUT NOW! If he is threatening to kill you, you should take it seriously. He has already put his hands on you and cut you...what more evidence that he is capable of doing much more do you need? Call the police and get a restraining order! I thought my ex would change with counseling too---until he fractured my jaw. Get out while you can, and know that if anyone can hurt you the way that he has, there is no love there. The man is sick. Do what you need to do to be healthy and happy---waiting for this man to change is not the answer for you. Seek therapy if you need it.

*tamaliatink**	I think he needs some good old counseling from the county jail. What he's doing is domestic violence and abuse and you need to get away from him.

Jacquelineee	WHY are you still there, get out, Until he gets help and proves to you he wants to get GET OUT NOW.

Lioness	Did you eat a brain tumor for breakfast? Leave.......leave now.