Women,why is marriage so important it's only paper?

Rose	some men find this equally important, their are religeus reasons, status reasons, emotional reasons, tax reasons, i mean come on now! if nothing else, a woman doesnt usually like to say " my boyfriend of 10 years" anymore than a guy wants to stop braging that he can keep someone 10 years without marying her... not to mention, marriage symbolizes commitment....thats a BIG one!

heather47374	It's important because of the idea of being married, not the piece of paper.

heidielizabeth69	It means your signifigant other wants to spend the rest of his life with you. Is not looking for a way out, and WANTS to be with only you.

*BUTTERFLY*	IT IS THE BEST WAY TO SHOW YOUR COMMITTMENT TO HER AND IT SAYS ONLY YOU I PROMISE FOREVER.

Curiosity	It might not be something important at the country where you live in.. but in my country, living together without any marriage paper is considered a sin, an illegal conduct. So, we have to get married and get the paper to make it legal. Someone might go to jail when they caught living together without marriage. And by the way, I dont really trust that marriage is something that should be patented by paper. It is because getting a divorce is something that can be done easily now. Maybe it is because we put it on paper, it can be tored away easily. We should start to consider puting it on stainlessstell maybe? LMAO

Jeans	I used to think the same way as yourself, and I guess I still do in some ways. I really think that what it comes down to (Just speaking for myself) is the name. I think it has a certain appeal, and even a turn on too. Again..That's just speaking for myself..Not for all women! :)

ashez	I don't think it's that important. My boyfriend and I share everything a home, a car we even worked together for a while. Now we have a daughter on the way. If we were to get married tommorow all it would change is my title and I would have a ring on my finger. Admittingly it has it's romantic side, saying that you will be together forever but most people just end up divorced anyway. i don't see that much of a point either.

tye_dyedfan	You're also part of a 'common-law marriage', if you've been living together for more than 7 years. And yes, that is legally binding. We care about marriage because it's a man's way of showing that he loves you exclusively, wants to be with you forever, and doesn't care that thy'll be 'tied down'. Yes, divorce is a common and fairly simple way of 'escaping' a marriage, but it's much harder than just moving out. In a marriage, you're expected to work though hardships that would ruin a relationship without the pledge of love until death backing it up. And not all chicks find it so important; they're calmer, more analytical, and lonelier for their prioritizing.

boyang	that is every woman's dream... to be with the man she loves physically and mentally... physically with the guy... mentally with the legal paper... that is two things important to us... for the ultimate fulfillment of our being a woman

skigod377	It shows a willingness to commit. Right now you can just break up and no need to try to patch things up. If you were married, itt shows a willingness to try to stay together forever.

mccamel1666	I don't know but it proves your with whom ever and if anything ever happens to that spouce at least there is proof to where that spouces things go to. You don't want your assets going to just anyone. If your married I'd hoped you want your belongings to go to your wife. Plus I think it's illegal ( not sure) to not have it documented. Plus your insurance rates and all that crap are lower I believe if you are married.

Magick_is_you!	not all women want to get married when they live with someone...I could be happy just living with someone and never get married............again..

DawnsEarlyLight	It is a legal contract and you know it! She has no control over your medical care, no right to half of the life you both created, no ability to receive your ssi if you die. These are a few protections afforded to those who marry. Yes many are "just in case" but who else would you trust with your life?

justnanous	It makes you an honest woman..not just some dudes girlfriend...plus in many states live ins don't stand a chance if you are hospitalized or die....no legal say in anything....you yourself used the word "legal"... I have seen many wimen get booted out of their house when their boyfriend died...the "family" of the guys went to court and got them thrown out with nothing in return for their money invested in helping pay for the house..NOW that's a big deal !! To be homeless after spending years paying for it ?? Not a great way to live on top of loosing the man of your heart..make any sense ?? she gave you 10 years of her life..so what's your problem with making her your wife ??? lol

*Kali*	i wanted the "big day" not neccessarily the paper coz, like you, i already felt married. a huge celbration dedicated to our love and our future together where all our friends and family can come celebrate with us. lots of fun!

cucumberlarry1	It is not only paper, it is a commitment made before God and by God's law and man's law. If you feel that your relationship is a marriage, then please profess it before God and make it legal right away!

Legandivori	Health coverage, social security spousal benefits, feeling comitted enough to go down the aisle, feeling loving enough that the marriage itself after ten years would be an indication of solifying the realtionship, tax benefits, desire to share a vepcial day with loved ones, etc etc.

syrious	For the several answers talk to a lawyer. I has a lot of legal implications, a whole lot. Once you find out you won't be so stupid and it will be important to you also. I have nothing against living together. But doing it without knowing the implications is dangerous to your physical, financial and social safety.

the_silverfoxx	paper means nothing but in gods eyes it means everything. my opion?

dragonfire	so they can take you for half of what you make and make you pay once they have it in writing you are screwed

meckadance	because wiyh the papers you is making a legal commitment and if all goes wrong the woman gone have half of everything but without the papers you leave with what you came with and i beleive the papers makes men more serious about the relationship and less tempting for another woman

jane l	It's not that important. I am married. Quite frankly, I don't understand why couples who don't have children bother to get married at all. I think it might be a status symbol, stability, feeling you have landed a husband. With the divorce rate like it is, I don't see why any of it matters. But ten years? gee, are you serious about her, don't you want to make her an honest woman!?

Alexandra Whitecastle	Because it shows your serious about your feelings and that the life you have shared together as value. It makes a person feel good when they have security in their lives. Someone to care for them, love them.....

Microbes	it's only a paper? A piece of paper can put you in jail, get all your assset, or win 100 million dollars. I hope you can see now how powerfull is that piece of paper. Doctors, lawyers, judges all hold that small piece of paper to be valid. I don't have a doctor's license will you trust me to do surgery on you? it just a piece of paper.

cryllie	you don't get it, do you? If you are not legally married you are not in any way "husband 'n wife"; being husband and wife requires a legally binding contract. it's not the paper, it is the private and public stating of your commitment to one another, which is of major importance in freeing each of you to be your best selves in the relationship. when you know you are truly committed to one another you have a greater motivation to maintain and grow your relationship, as opposed to the "oh, well, I"m gone" attitude. the security of committed love is the steadfast foundation a real family needs to grow and thrive.

bowery girl	What makes you think it's important to "all" chicks? U guys are the one's always asking. I think if it was your girlfriends #1 priority she would have left you by now for someone else. What gave u the impression every woman needs to be married, paper and all? I think you will find you are wrong assuming so.

qtee	It means as men do have a tendency to have wandering eyes, as women we always wonder if that will move to your legs one day. If we are married it would be much harder for you to leave us because there are so many legalities involved then. Especially when kids come in to the picture and we don't want to waste half of hour life with someone and then have them leave us for a younger women and not get crap for it. If we are legally married and with children, and you mess up, I can take you to the cleaners and gladly will.

Canadian Goose	It's all about the ring and what it means. It also shows respect towards her. "If it's just a piece of paper", then if this is the woman you love and this is what she wants; ask her. Marriage to a woman is what BJs and erotic material are to men.. and oh yes, football.

Brat-tett & Brat Pack's	To Me, Its Not Important, What Is, Honesty ~ Love ~ affection ~ desire ~ Getting Along ~ No Violence ~ Never Cheating. The Paper Is Just That A PIECE OF PAPER.~ ! I Want My Man To Come Home Because He Wants To, Not Because He Has To. ~ ! That's My Opinion. ~~~~~*~Peace.