Would this be considered cheating?If I met a guy here on yahoo answers...?

Betty M	Are you cheating? Lol There's one way to find out. Tell your husband exactly what you just told us.

None of your buisness	Don't open up that door!!!! Until you close the one in you marriage.

jimmy hendrix w	your definetly playing in a dangerous game sweetie its one thing to be friendly its another to get verbally intimate

John	Ask your husband. If you don't want to let him know about your new friend then you have your answer.

Love Me	yes, because you shouldn't talk about being with someone if your already attached to someone else.

muse5878	It's called emotional cheating

Mystery Person	yeah. start saving some money so you can fly over to him

The Original Magic 8 Ball BILF	Emotional affairs are cheating in my marriage. You should ask your husband if he thinks it is cheating.

Exotic Coconut	well would you call it cheating if your husband was doing this to you?? i would be sooooo outraged. if your unhappy let him know, if things dont change maybe u need a change. good luck

babylove	Well I would say yes. You ought to figure out if your husband is what you want or not and if not, then get a divorce, esp when your not happy. Its no fun when your not happily married.

Cham	it does not MATTER if you did not touch him..its EMOTIONAL CHEATING okay lets say your husband met some girl and they talk EVERYYYYYYY night..would you like it??? would you say COOL BABY IM SO HAPPY!! um no! shame on you!

Teenie	You know dame right well it's cheating just because you two never touched (YET) the thought of someday meeting him will happen if you keep talking to him.

Bizzarizzy	If you believe in emptional cheating, then yes, you are cheating. Maybe you should use the energy devoted to the other guy to focus on your husband and marriage. I'm not in your situation, but it's just a thought.

abc	yes that is cheating and may I also mention, that all this glee you get from him is merely projected from you; from what you are looking for.....it probably has nothing to do with who HE actually is....you like the attention....

pointono	Yes and No, I think if you are not happily married then you should have a talk with your husband and try and sort this out if worse comes to worse then get a divorce and get together with this guy you met on yahoo answers. hope this helps

RPrincess	Yes, cyper relationships are just as bad as one on one. It's the emotional bond that you create that makes it cheating. How would you feel if the situation were reversed? If your not telling him everything, than you know it's wrong.

stormy	OMG!! EEWWWWWW!!! its deceitful and dishonest to the MAX! Are you saying that you cant figure this out on your own??!?? are you retarded??? and then,why are you hiding this from your husband , if you dont think its wrong?!? IDEA: Go ask your husband what he thinks about your telling some dude you never met how great it would be if you were together? How do you look yourself in the mirror or sleep at nite and next to your husband. I would die...This is so disfunctional. The only reason you havent "CHEATED-CHEATED" (phisically) is cuz you havent actually met the dude, yet. you and the dude are dirty!

Negra	Yes, is actually called an EMOTIONAL AFFAIR and studies show that it can actually be more harmfull than a physical one because the severity and hurt somehow seem and feel worse to the partner being cheated on. You need to make a decision on your marriage and if you are not happy then get out.

Rene	How would you feel if you found out your husband was talking on the phone everyday with another woman and telling her how much he wanted to be with her? Emotional connections with other people are just as harmful, if not more so, than physical connections. Yes, it's cheating.

Michelle	I've been in your shoes, and urge you to think carefully about this other person you're talking so intimately to. It's far too easy to fantasize about how much better things would be with this other person... But what do you actually know about him? Why pursue something that may not (or should not) be? Email me if you want to talk more about it.

shesho	yea, I think it is cheating. If you are giving you love and affections to someone else I think it is. If you don't want to be with you huband leave. It is always nice to be flattered by someone new. But will this guy turn out to be the same as your husband? Then someone else will come along and do the same thing. It could become a cycle. All men and relationships are pretty much the same. It is not all dramatic like it is on t.v. Good Luck!

myflower4you2005	Well, your kind of having an emotional thing going on. It seems you may be living out a fantasy that you know won't come to fruition? Or, perhaps, you think this guy is the solution to your unhappy marriage. Why are you looking at this guy to be the solution to your problem with your husband? Why don't you leave if you're not getting any of your needs met? It's really not fair. If he were doing it to you, how would you feel? If you've fallen out of love, leave the relationship. I don't know why people settle, or sell out? Which ever one it is for you, you should ask yourself some questions.

*Astro*	The definition of cheating is different for everyone. I don't know if what you are doing is something I would consider cheating as such, but the romantising of having another relationship with someone in a "what if" scenario is very disturbing and diffinitely a break of trust. What I think doesn't really matter - do you think your husband would consider what you are doing is cheating? Because if the answer is yes, then you are cheating because that is what defines the definition of cheating to your husband

lil_momma	yes its cheating and u need to think about what your doing....u made vows to your husband and now your going against Gods word...u need to quit dreaming and wake up to reality...the grass isnt always greener on the otherside even if it looks like it may be for a second or so....u need to sit down and talk with your husband there was something there at one point or u wouldnt have married him...work things out try different things...find out how your husband is feeling maybe he is feeling neglected too....go to marriage counsiling u have to give your marriage all u have its a 50/50 give and take relationship...i wish u the best...hope all works out

Song	You are CHEATING and you need to cut it out. Why do people like getting themselves in situations that will hurt someone else? Are you evil? You are sharing something with someone that you should share with your husband. Maybe you are not happy in your marriage because you are not adding anything to it. If you have a plant, don't you need to water it? If the plant's leaves are falling, don't you work hard to nurture it or do you just throw it away? Remember your vows and don't start something you can't finish.

Red Rose	Yes I see it as cheating. Years ago before I was married. I had that kind of relationship. I never met the guy in person. It even went as far as cybering. And I thought myself in love. It was more a one sided thing. I took it seriously while for him it was fun and games. Things ended up badly. Don't risk what you do have. For something that is not real but just a dream. A fantasy. If you want to find out if the guy loves you. Put him to the test. Have him make all the arrangements to make the fantasy a real thing. Then sit back and watch how fast lover boy cools off and makes a bunch of excuses why it can't be.

Soul T	Emotional cheating is sometimes worse than physical...it is more powerful and lasts sometimes longer...If you can't wait to talk to this guy then hey your in it already...Your marriage may not be good because your focused on other things...if you have decided that it isn't going to work or that you don't want it to....and really think this through ...look at your husband with the eyes you had when you were dating ...then when you were first married....see if deep inside you want or can get it back....then if you answer no....tell him you think you need some time alone....do it the proper way...tell this rebound guy that you are getting your ___ together and can't talk to him right now....you owe this much to your marriage..before walking away...

robsmom	well sure! Anytime you meet someone else and talk about how it "could be" then you are preparing to cheat. You probably think about him all the time and live for his calls. Are you not happily married since this guy came into your life or has it been a while....because sometimes it happens that a marriage goes to hell because of one partner meeting someone and then other times a partner meets someone because they are unhappy and lonely. If you and your husband aren't working things out then I can only say it's time to move on. But it won't be fair if you leave him and hurt him because you are out "shopping around"......

So sweet it hurts!!	I agree with asking your husband, see if he thinks it cheating. Tell the manly man on the phone to ask your husband if he minds that he is filling your head with useless fantasy's. Have you ever seen a cow that gets out of a fenced in area? He leaves the green grass where his comfort zone and the other cows are but as soon as he taste the grass and finds out that its the same damn thing he left, he wants back in the fence where his friends and the water that quenches his thirst remains. Where is this new hero from? Whether it is on the phone, computer whatever, if you have to ask you already know it is WRONG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Why can't people get married and realize that its not a soap, it has to nurtured every single day. Don't get married if you are not willing to work at it.

Jenn	If you are asking us on here then you are doubting this is innocent so you know it is breaking that bond you made with your husband when you were married. Besides thinking of how would you feel if your husband did this to you, but if he had wanted to go and MEET someone regardless if it is one time. Because you are lonely and un happily married this person is filling a void in your life which you are ignoring. Even if you could meet this man, until you face your problems your "guy" friend would not work b/c you have issues you need to deal with. I would either leave your husband or talk to your husband about this. You need to leave one of them alone before you cause too much damage to someone, mainly yourself.