Would this bother you or am I over-reacting?

Aussie 1	3 is a crowd. Your marrying his mother too. Its time to put your foot down. He is a mummys boy & unless you do something, this will be the way of life.

paul h	get over it, boys always ring there mums, we are scared shitless of them

Beckers	You are sooo over- reacting. I wouldn't worry about a young man who calls his mom. They obviously have a good relationship. What's wrong with that? You're not in competition with his mom. I've always heard that if you want to know how your future husband will treat you, watch how he treats the women in his family. Sounds to me like he is loving and attentive. If this is the biggest concern you have with your fiance, you're a lucky girl. Now go give him a kiss!

kny390	This is only a phone call to his Mom. You need understand that this is a small consideration that he is giving to his mother, not anything major. There is an old saying "Don't Sweat the Small Stuff". And this is small stuff.

Babycakes	I think it's great that he cares that much about what his mom thinks to call her so much. Keep in mind the phrase that says, "you can tell how a man will treat his wife based on how he treats his mother." It's understandable that it bothers you because it seems that since he's an adult he really shouldn't have to call his mother THAT much to tell her he's okay. Maybe it's not him that's the problem. Maybe his mother is too over protective and if he doesn't call her, he gets a lot of "flack" about it or something. At the same time, I don't think you should be mad at him about it, because it really doesn't seem that serious. I don't think it would be good to make him have a negative relationship with his mother or to let this ruin your relationship with him. Maybe he can talk to his mother and tell her that he'll call her and let her know he's okay, but not SO much and maybe you can also think of some other things that he can do just for you and no one else.

Michelle P	men and there moms - there is no coming between them its a good sign that he is close - the way a man treats his mom shows alot about the way hbe treats his girl... dont sweat it - would u rather him be calling some other woman???

I MUST BE THE DEVIL	well if he cant call his mom every time why should he call you every time, calm down he just wants to show apprecation for the person that gave him life and raised him.

lily_florance	You have to understand that a mans mother is the first woman in his life that he learns to love and trust. A mother will always be there, but relationships come and go. A man that is brought up right just appreciates his mother for who she is and what she has done for him. My advice, do not try to compete with the mother. Get to know the person she is and maybe you will understand then why he loves he so much. I have been with my husband for 17yrs. and he is the biggest mommas boy I know. And yes, he calls her every single day. I left him and moved across the country and he followed me. I got my answer right then. I am the one that he loves and desires to be with. His mother is older and I realize now that his biggest fear is the fear of losing her. But I know in my heart that losing me would be even worse for him. The thing is that he has me with him and he knows that I am alright. The real reason that he calls her is to check up on her to make sure that she is still there and that she is OK. You're husband married you. He loves you, if he didn't he would still be living at home with mother, believe that. Encourage their relationship, don't challenge it. Hope this helps you and good luck.

oracleofohio	I'm a railroad wife ...its fun isn't it? lol We all know what a dangerous job it is. Maybe he just knows how much his mother worries about him. He wants to let her know that he's okay. You guys are not married yet, he's making a transition from being a son, to being a husband. If anything, I'd say that he's showing what a caring person he is. Don't be jealous of his relationship with his mother. If he wasn't calling you I'd say it was a problem, but he is. Would you rather that he was insensitive to his mother? Think of how much you love your parents and how worried they would be if you had a dangerous job. He's just doing what he thinks is right. I'd let it go and be thankful that you have someone who is caring towards others. Working on the rr is a stressful lifestyle, I think all that traveling can make them feel out of touch. Encourage him to do whatever it takes to keep in touch with the people he loves. Good luck :)

texasstar1974	I don't think your'e over reacting @ all. My 2husband used to go to his Mom & talk about things like giving her money & not telling me. He took over payments on her car that we couldn't afford. So all he paid was the car payment & rent. One month he didn't pay the rent & I left him & moved to Missouri & got a divorce 3 years later. If he's a mama's boy Can he leave her behind & make you #1. Take Care &God Bless Star

4everinluv	Be happy that he loves you as much as his mom. Somethings should be just for you. But there are a lot of men out there who would call their mom before they thought of you.

ateiris77	I don't think your over-reacting, your just concern, and a lot going on your mind especially he is already your fiancee. Thats the unconditional love of a mother that no one can measure...Me&the rest of my family is very close..everytime we come late from school or work we let our mum know so that she won't get worried until now that im in the other country i IM them and even on my messenger all the time to know that everyone of my family is alright. That probably kind of family your fiancee have, in that case you lucky there is nothing to get jealous and even worried about, i think it's much better to talk to your fiancee how you feel about it so that he is aware aswell and he will surely make something about to make you feel better without hurting you or he's mum. I also suggest for you to get to know more of he's Mum, she will be your mother inlaw so know her better that makes you feel better. :-)

s. h	I dont see what the problem is. It is his mother. Dont be jealous-- If that is the biggest thing he does to you then i think you'll be ok. If a man respects his mom then he usually repects women pretty well. good luck

valjordan1112	you have to remember who gave birth to a child the size of a watermelon. When you are a mother you will realize the bond between mother and child and it does not matter how old they are. Just relax and remember that he loves you and you are going to be married and that his mother is gonna be part of your life too so you really do not to start a feud over nothing

Exoilfeildtrash	Sounds like a loving caring son be glad you have someone like him he sounds faithful and respectful don't be jealous of his mom thats crazy be glad he loves so deeply.

kitkat	You are sooooooooooooo over acting. I am married to a wonderful man like your boyfriend and I am very grateful. His mother did a great job raising him and you are the lucky girl who gets to reap the benefits. Be thankful instead of petty.......

kittykat	Most boys are mama's boys. I dont thin your overreacting because I'm married to one who acts like your husband and right now its kind of a who's man are you anyways. I use to over react and it caused all kinds of problems. Now I go with the flow and have a wonderful relationship with his mother. He also stopped calling and going down there so much. It'll get better.

miss voe	Let me tell you now, don't put stress in the marriage that is not needed, you have better things to worry about. Him calling his mom is doing nothing to you or your relationship, if wants to call his mom let him; just be glade he's not calling anyone else. I must say you are over-reacting on this, it is not a concern you should be getting yourself worked up about or angry over. To tell you the truth, in a way it is a good thing that he calls his mom to tell her where he is about the day or night to ensure his safety, and not to be an ***, but why does he have to call you when he leaves and comes home, where are you!? Any ways, just let it go, like I said don't put stress where it is not needed because there will be many of other things that are gonna be in need to stress out over in years to come.

Kamikaze	The only thing you have done to take a step toward over-reacting would be asking this question here. As far as your husband goes, yeah, that is a little weird. I would just say get over it, can't really tell him to stop talking to his mom. Unless you joke with him about it, maybe he will feel inclined not to out of embarrassment. Tell the friends and what not, that should help.

atiana	it sounds like you may be overreacting a bit. you're probably concerned about him being a big mama's boy. but it doesn't sound like he is. it just sounds like his mother loves him very much and wants to hear his voice and know that he's alright. talk to him and let him know you're feeling a little jealous and you don't know why. I'm sure he can clear things up for you. the feelings you're having will pass. I think you just need some reassurance that you're the number one woman in his life.

springfairy556	there are certain things my boyfriend does, that he does for his parents as well, I think you should just let him call his mom. He feel more comfortable calling you both. and His mom may prefer him to call her.They sound very close. I think you should let him do it. Justlike if you did that with your parents, wouldnt you want him to let you call them?

kogoinnutz	Some men are rather close to their mothers and so are some women. I've known many men that speak to their mother's on a dialy basis. He is trying to ease his mother's mind about his travels. You never know when the conversation you have is going to be your last. I used to talk to my mother EVERY day beginning about 6 months before she passed away and I'm forever grateful for that. Due to that, I was at peace when she passed away because I got to speak to her a few hours before she died (it was sudden) It could be that you are feeling a bit insecure about it and the fact that he is so close to his mom and you are not the ONLY one that he calls. When you are married to him you will see that he still maintains that connection to his mom. Nobody can change how you feel about it, but you can look at it from another angle because to every story there is one. When she is gone you're going to be grateful that he had that connection to her because he will feel a peace that not many people get when a loved one passes away. Just relax about it, it's going to be all right. You know that he loves you, you're wearing his ring and in his heart. It will all work itself out.

Kerry Z	Everytime I travel someplace my mom worries about me and wants me to call to say we travelled ok. I am 47, married and with one adult child and one teen. The worry never ends. She feels it makes her feel better to know I am safe...same as your fiance. I think your fiance needs to gradually distant himself from her by say telling her he will call on Monday and Friday....or call her to talk about her week on Saturday. It is no big deal to call - and he will always love his mother - he is not choosing her over you.

Indi81	You come across as a bit jealous in the way you are asking this question. I understand what you are saying and a grown man shouldn't feel the need to ring his mum this much. Does she tend to like everything her own way. Cos it might just be your fiance keeping the peace instead of suffering the consequences. I know that if I was in your situation I would feel the same way and A bit worried about how I would feel once we were married and he was still calling mummy all the time. Talk to him about it so that you can get how you are feeling off your chest but then I suggest you just let it go as it will become a big problem that is just impossible to solve.

lady31	You are over-reacting big time. The boy loves his mom. What is the big deal? He calls both of the ladies that he loves to let them know that he is ok.

Diane (PFLAG)	I think him calling you that often is excessive... And I think you are over reacting... If he wants to call his mom so be it... You seem to think he is puting her ahead of you because "I just feel like there should be some things that he only does for me... " He is not both you and his mother are important to him so he calls you both... Why should it matter if he calls her as well as you? You both need to give him some space all the calls are excessive...

Sammy	tell him how u feel, his mom really cares about him and he doesnt want her to be worried, your right though, somethings should be saved for you but NOT important safety issues

casper	I don't want to say that you are over reacting, because you will still feel the same no matter what, but I probably check in with my mom MORE than my husband. I am extremely close to her and talk to her every day as well. You should be glad that your husband is so close to his mom, he probably treats you very well!!

Tiffany	I think you are over-reacting. If he is good to his mother, this should be a great sign that he will be good to you too. I am a 42 year old wife, and mother and I call my mom each time I travel the mountain road that is between home and my clients offices... She worries and I think it is easier to make her comfortable than to have her worry. Dont let something like this get to you. Just be happy with what you have with him.