Would you consider this cheating?

Sweet Suzy 777!	Yes, this is emotional infidelity and if they have met with each other, it is adutlery. You have every right as her husband to know exactly what she is saying and doing with other men. Why would you want to let this go. You have caught your wife cheating on you. Divorce her.

Delir G	If i were you i wouldn't bring it up again, don't even mention him. There's a big chance that she IS having an affair with this guy but the only way to really find out is to pretend that you don't care and then check her emails and her mobile without her knowing. I know this sounds a little sneaky but it's the only way to get some hard evidence. Good luck and hang in there.

Fencing and Kung Fu mom	It seems to me that if there were nothing to be concerned about then you would have known about it because she would have told you. People with nothing to hide don't hide anything. I would be VERY suspicious and concerned. This is the kind of relationship that my husband started with and the kind of behaviour he exhibited that led to my checking it out further and having my suspicions confirmed. Watch her carefully, and good luck to you. As one of the walking wounded, it is the most hurtful betrayal a spouse can experience.

wondermom	Why should you let it go? Whether she cheated or not, she lied, hid things from you, omitted things, sneak around etc.., Even if they haven't been intimate, it is obvious from the emails that the man would like to be. I would be very hesitant to believe they haven't been intimate. I am not sure where you should go from here or what you need to do. But don't let her convince you are in the wrong or minimize what has happened again. I think she owes you some explanation, truth and the two of you really need to talk.

Jessica C	Yes it is cheating. Honestly, i don't think married couples should be talking to strangers on-line. Not to mention meeting them. Tell her even if nothing happened, you don't like her chatting with strangers on-line and tell her to stop. Frankly, I think she is cheating on you and she probably won't stop just with this one.

theartisttwin	A guy would not say something like that unless he was lead to believe it was appropriate to the relationship between them. If she did nothing with him, I would bet the farm there was AT LEAST talk of it. That kind conversation did not come out of the clear blue. This is most definitely cheating no matter how you want to look at it.

bellababi44	yea they were talking about art and such okay i think shes lying there..and she crossed the line when she agreed to meet in person what did they meet for?? why risk your marriage for a stranger i wouldn't let it go but I'd let her go..

oogabooga37	She f#@$%d him multiple times and then came home to you and lied about it! Get a lawyer. Don't tell her. Get a divorce and get your dignity back. My first wife did that! I feel for you dude. All the stress you feel right now will subside once she's gone. It took me about three weeks! Good Luck!

Lupe S	I had the exact same thing happen to me, and she can admit what she wants... To me, it's cheating, and I had no choice but to just cut her loose. After 3 years, I had to let her go... Good riddins... I deserve, you deserve, we deserve better... Someone who wants to be with us, and not someone who is going off entertaining private relationships no matter what kind outside of yall's relationship...

Back W	I consider that cheating... and clearly see the writing on the wall... she has already given this guy a BJ.... lol See if you can forgive her... if not... time to move forward without her

Dolphin	Whether she has 'physically' cheated or not she has certainly lied to you and broken promises. I'm sorry it doesn't look too good so I would say no, you shouldn't let it go. You deserve some explanations.Good luck x

pussycat	He who has nothing to hide, hides nothing. Sure she would think it inappropriate had you received the same type of emails. She needs to consider your feelings as well as her own.

P.J.	Babe, You have been used, lied to, and royally screwed over. You need to let the tramp go and move on to better women. if she is acting like this then she needs to wake up in his arms. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Really, now lets look at the big picture. Do you really think that they have met more than a few times and never done anything? Why did she not tell you then? You will be better off without that woman. Tell her to get out. If you have kids, remember that those are your children too. Make her leave without them, or take them with you when you leave. She has had, and is having a fling on you. So why be married to her when you can find happiness else where.

switbaby9	yes she is cheating. the fact that she HID it means she is doing something wrong---or DID something wrong. she is lying to u too. about what, i dont know. but she is definitely cheating on u. hire a private investigator. she is never going to tell u the truth until she is caught red handed. but be prepared. do u want to get a divorce? or do u want to fix a relationship? it seems to me that she doesnt even feel sorry about what she is doing---which means she isnt worth trying to reel back in. think about it.

Blue Jade	Good Luck!

Worried wife	She slept with him...if you only asked her about meeting and emailing him and she brought up that nothing physical happened then she is trying to cover it up. She already lied to you several times why are you to believe that nothing physical happened.

Irish Crash	yes i think it is cheating.

bestadvicechick	She is absolutely WRONG in this situation. The fact that she hid it from you originally shows she knew she was doing something that you wouldn't like or that would hurt you. These internet things start innocently enough sometimes but it's not long before you're sharing very intimate conversations which can certainly lead to other things. She's focusing on the fact that, according to her at least, they haven't done anything physical. But that's not the point. The point is that it bothered you, you asked her to stop, and she said she would and then DIDN'T. She lied and continued to lie to you every time she emailed, talked to him online or met him out in person. She had betrayed your trust. Ok, maye she didn't commit a betrayal on the level of cheating but it's bad enough and she should be ashamed of herself.

à®â™¥Vanessaâ™¥à®	If it's not cheating it is pretty close. I would be very upset too b/c of the lying. It makes a person wonder what else they are hiding.

Me	she is cheating, but she is never gonna admit it until you have prove

ronnieD	She cheated...sorry.

Dr S	she cheated already. Don't let this woman ruin your life. She is already cultivating an air of unpredictability. oh boy, I don't see how this could work any longer.

Tara M	I think maybe it would help to have everything involving the internet, out in the open. Why don't you know her password already? If there's nothing to hide, then don't hide anything! The piece of mind of knowing what is and isn't going on online might help you

KB	yeah, it's cheating. It's emotional cheating. And she knows it, or else she wouldn't have to hide it. I have male friends, and my husband knows this, he knows them, and he trusts me. If I hid a male friend, no matter how innocent, lying and hiding start to make things suspicious. Good marriages are based on communication. Your wife is hiding things from you. This is not a good thing for a marriage. try counseling, because confronting her is only making her more defensive.

c j 10"	dude I am sorry but that it cheating

musicgrl42002	I don't think you should let it go. You wife was basically lying to you about not having a relationship with this guy. I would have big trust issues with this as well. Maybe this man provides her with something that you don't. Sounds like you guys need to sit down and have a serious talk about your marriage. If she really loves you she will let this cyber affair go.

Valerie X- ooops!	"innocently talking with him saying that they only talked about things like antiques, art, house decorating, etc..." The ONLY men that talk about these things are GAY men. So either he is GAY, or she is LYING!