Would you forgive your spouse if they cheated on you?

brenda c	No. If you forgive once, you will have to forgive again. I forgave what I thought was once and had to keep it up until I was sick of it.

luv2bmrsh	I have a serious question for you, what makes you so sure that he will not do it again? You obviously did not think he would do it the first time or you probably would not have married him. Of course he is sorry, but not because he cheated but because he got caught. You are going to do what you want, just make sure you make the RIGHT decision, because you can not go back in time!

Mike Dub	i can tell u this. i have been guilty of cheating. my girl has forgiven me and our relationship has grown stronger over time. once a cheater always a cheater is not tru for all people. we're not even married. so the whole "til death do us part" didn't apply to us. she still chose to stay. we have recently been blessed with a baby and will be married next summer. so it is possible to repair a relationship where some1 is guilty of infidelity.

mytrollinid	How would you know if they aren't a repeat offender?? If they got caught the first time, they would just hide it better. Unless you keep an eye on them 24/7 then you really don't know what they are doing when you aren't around! Not only that, but the trust wouldn't be there anymore. The first time they come home late or don't answer a phone call, what would be the first thing that came into your mind. Even if you were told they weren't with another person, would you REALLY believe them?? No, I could not forgive something like that.

intentionalmasterpiece	Yes but he would have to work hard to regain my trust. Also, as a couple whatever issues that were present prior to the infidelity need to be addressed. I forgave my ex because he expressed sorrow and promised never to do it again, but he did. I stayed with him for 3 more years trying to salvage our marriage while basically sharing him with his other woman. Forgiving is not the issue. The issue is if you will remain married to him. That is truly up to you but do whatever you do with eyes wide open.

manderin	No, I would be too heartbroken and fearful that he would do it again, despite being sorry. Cheating is one thing I will not forgive for. I am a very forgiving person when it comes to other things, but cheating is a very serious offense and I could never forgive someone for doing that to me.

brenda4ever	I think it would depend on the whole picture. it would be so easy for me to say no, when I am not in the situation. but I would want to know with who and why!

JustMe	First off you have no idea what so ever if they are or are not a repeat offender. You have no idea how many times they have done it. You only know what they tell you. Second, of course they are going to say they are truly sorry, who wouldn't ? What it all comes down to is if they truly loved you they wouldn't have done it in the first place. That is not the kind of love I want to build a life on. How about you ?

tyates101	A woman should forgive her man ( because that is what they do ) A man shouldn"t forgive his woman , because is should know better - I hope this helps you

michiganwife	If you are going to take him back then make sure that he gets tested or STD's before you do anything with him. And make sure that he brings you the results of the tests in paper so you know for sure.

?	I don't think i would be bale to forgive my spouse if they cheated on me. I am married to a guy that was dating one girl and f**king her sister. That was wrong. He hasn't cheated on me but if he did he would be gone. There is no guarantee that they wont do it again. Just once you forgive them they will do it again or behind your back. Never trust a cheater.

luvaboy	YES! I cheated and went back to my girl and we are happy now, I was lucky that she forgave me cause she is a great lady. I just screwed up and now I have to live with what I did to her and the kids, if she did it I would have to forgive her but I know she wouldn't because she is way too good for that.

Prisca	never

Angel Eve	Nope.... Cheating is a personality trait. Its not something that changes. Id bet money he has cheated on girls in the past and either you dont know about it, or you do.... But irregardless... HE WILL DO IT AGAIN. Wish it was different, but thats how it is. Good luck.

raj.kr_garg	if you truely love your spouse he will never cheat you.

Lady J	I couldn't trust him anymore. I could for forgive him, but I couldn't stay married to him.

Baby Jack born 4/5/09	Oh my god, no. Once a cheater, alwats a cheater. Y would you think hed never do it again? Or is it you who cheated?? But just cause they say they dnever do it again doesnt mean it true no matter how they sound or what they promise.

Marshal	No. You do not get 3 strikes, it is a one time thing. Think of your trust as a person and he/she killed it, is murder a "Oops, I slipped" kind of offense? You all took vows and he/she did not live up to them. Buh-bye to them and next!

â™¥Britâ™¥	ide give them one more chance and that would be all!!! if u truely loved em...

chris w	moral dilema,i would forgive i hope,but i could never forget ,the visual is too painful:-( good luck.

Fenris	if they are worth a second chance and you truly can get over it then its worth a shot. if you think you can get over it over time with therapy or whatever then its worth a shot. but if you can't and you are checking his e-mails and phone logs - then that's no way to live.

Chikky D	i will forgive....even we may do some mistakes...

Sherry H	Not a chance.I have put alot of love,and work into our marriage,and I will feel that he had fooled me big time.

Mary B	depends on the situation. If it was a friend of mine or an ex of his or anyone we know...probably not. If it is some random chick and he got drunk one night and made a fool of himself, I MIGHT consider forgiving him. Hard to say though unless it happens to you.

Red	From experience I have to say no. I did forgive and got all that I'm truely sorry, I'll never do it again BS and what do you know it was nothing but crap. It will take the rest of your life to know if there will be a repeat offense.

kja63	Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater.

006	Only if there are children involved. Otherwise, in my eyes, it is an unforgivable offense. i.e. if they couldn't stop themselves from breaking their marriage vows the first time, what will stop them the second time?

floxy	Would you?

AsianPersuasion :)	Nope! My husband is the love of my life, but if he ever cheated that would be it. I would commit a Loraina Bobbit on him and then kick him to the curb!!!!!!!!!