Would you get married to someone to provide a father for your child?

nbr660	No

sanghvir	You have consider a few things here 1. Do you love him (make yourself 100% sure)? 2. Does your Child Like to be with him? 3. Are you ready to scrifice for your child( with out even a tinge of remorse)? - If you answer all YES then Marry. - If 1 is No and other 2 Yes then also Marry. Otherwise you are happy anyways and he seems to be your friend. So let it flow as it is.

gingersnappz	if you could see your self being happy with this man for the rest of your life then its your call. but dont put yourself in a situation if your not confortable with it. most people would say you should marry the one you can live with out...not just someone you can live with. But its up to you

who be boo?	you need to ask yourself why you do not love him....those reasons may answer your own question. I would try living with him for a while and see if it turns into a mommy -daddy type thing....I don't think I would marry him just for my child, that could be a huge mistake. do some soul searching....your head and heart should match. good luck.

TIMOTHY D L	Makes as much sense as any other reason to get married. At least you know before going in that you are just fond of this guy, and not in love. Who knows, you might learn to love him. Romantic love only works out about Â½ the time anyway!

Brutally Honest	The way that you describe this, it would seem to me that perhaps this guy REALLY likes you and wants to have a serious relationship with you. The question now becomes: Can YOU love him? If I were in this position, the only way I personally would even CONSIDER it would be if there were ANY chance that I might eventually love the guy. After 20 years however, that may not happen. You would be compromising your self-worth to settle for less than love. Sure it would be nice to have a "dad" in the picture for your daughter, but kids are raised well every single day by single parents - don't let this be a deciding factor for you. Give it all a good, long, hard think before you commit to anything.....

Kiara	If you're not in love with him don't get married. If you do, you'll only regret it later and likely end up getting a divorce. Don't get married if you're not in love, hun. But that doesn't mean that this man can't be around a lot and be like a fatherly figure to your daughter. Maybe your daughter can just look up to him as a good person, but not a father. Do what your heart tells you.

Wuff Wuff	I could go into detail but no!

Jewells	No I would not. There is no long term happiness here. Step back and take a good look at the situation. Trust your heart and listen to it.

bradford99336	No, If you dont love him then dont do it. It will just make your life a living hell, having to do things you dont want, and fighting around your child would be worse than no father.....Cause if you dont love him im sure theres tons you would disagree on.

whataboutme	Don't move in with him and please don't marry him! In the end,you will loose your husband and your friend. It may up-set your child more.

Jennifer M	That may be a good reason so your child to have a father, but I don't think you'll ever trully be happy. You may meet the man of your dreams and you'll be married and it'll be too late.

LeeLynn	You know the answer to this one...I would follow my heart...

hello	Hell no. I don't think that kind of relationship will work out long-term. You need to find someone who you really love. Once your child grows up and moves out, you will still be stuck with the person you are married to...

Donna	No, I wouldn't. I raised both my girls without their Dad living with me. They'd go visit, but if I didn't love someone, I'd never marry a guy just to give my girls a Dad. Don't do it. ~

hotdogonastyk	if you don't love him, then why wuld you move in with him that is so dumb, find someone you love, get married and have that person be you daughters father DA Idiot

G	I did it. Was married to him for 6 years and we ended up splitting. Then we got together again and 3 years later we broke up. I am sorry to tell you that it's not a good idea. I wanted a father for my daughter as much as you, but in the end if there is no love between you guys to sustain your marriage, I can assure you it will colapse. I thought time would make me love him. It just increased my gratefulness towards him, but nothing else.

PHATMAX	yes for my child' sake

sabrina	yeh sounds good. nothing wrong in falling in love after marriage . http://www.islamalways.com

Kelley K.	I think I would. Move in with him so you know his style, then you should try about the love part.

jamz2277	Marry for love and trust, not for money... As much as you think it might make you happy, it will most certainly not, in the long run.

annastasia1955ca	Get to know him on a more personal level, you may fall in love with him.........give him a chance.

Care Bear	No! He can be there for you & your daughter without you marrying him. If you're not in love with him you should not marry him. It could cause problems down the road & if you do not stay together how will that affect your daughter?

boo	That is up to you mate - personally no - but it depends how much you want stability

Answers Anyone	No. I am a guy, so I would already be the father! LOL... But seriously, if I were in your situation, I would not make such a choice. Although he may be a great person - he is not YOUR great person. By that I mean, your feelings for him are not as strong as his might be for you and just to marry him to basically provide a substitute father for your daughter is risky. If in the end things do not work out, then what? If you wind up getting a divorce you only will be hurting yourself, him, and your little girl even more as she will now be attached to another guy and feel the pain of losing him too (even if he still stays in her life - you will naturally move or he will) so the pain will still remain. Think this through very carefully I say. A simple "yes" answer can cause a lot of pain in the end if you really don't mean it.

meg_mega_megan	yes

Elizabeth L	IF YOU DON"T LOVE HIM YOU SHOULDN"T MARRY HIM

April H	NO!!! i'm a single mom and it is not the answer

bizarrorigo	no. definitely not. there has to be love.

Coop	I wouldn't even consider marrying someone I didn't love and I'm a single parent also.